Sick of living like a hermit.

I'm feeling really down and angry at the moment. I am sick of not having a life. All I see to do is work, sleep and eat. I have got no friends at all, have been living in isolation for the last 10 years and am really fed up.

I placed an ad in a singles site and uploaded my photo not realising that one of the male chauvanist pigs that i work with would see it. Now I am a laughing stock and the biggest slut around. How can I be a slut , tart or whatever else they want to call me when I have never been in a relationship at all. Are all males born without brains, Sorry not all of you are like that.

All I said is that I am quiet, shy, mentioned some interests and that I am looking for my soulmate/lifetime partner or friend, someone with similar interests and is happy, honest, faithful etc. What was so wrong with that.

I drive taxis for a living so I can't speak to the manager but all the little bitching girls (males) are having the time of their life making fun of me. I seriously think they need to get a life and sort themselves out first. How come everyone else is entitled to friends, husbands, wifes, boyfriends, and girlfriends and I'm not. It isnt fair and what I do in my spare time is no one elses business but my own. If I have to spend the rest of my life living the way I do right now whats the point in going on. I am so unhappy now have been for some time now.

Hello lonelycody. First of all try not to attach importance to your workmates opinions. Just ignore them cause it's not worth and the only thing that you get is feel down. Trying to be happy is not a thing to laugh of.
Have you tried to contact with people from this web who lives near you? Take care.

Hello, I'm trying really hard not to let them get to me. It makes me wonder what they were doing on that site anyway. I'm not desparate or anything but i am unable to go out and meet people male or female like normal people so how am I going to do that. Having a workmate is definately out of the question as they have just shown how shallow they are.

In a way it just makes me want to overcome this and show them that I am better than them, the biggest problem is that there is only 98 000 people where I live and the resources are limited so I am stuck. Maybe there is a counsellor somewhere who has experience working with social phobia that can help me. I will have to look. All I know is that there are no support groups.

I have got no intention of contacting anyone near to where I live on that site, as many of them are self employed and I'd die if I picked the wrong one and it was a taxi driver, like I said alot of them have now put their own profile on there. The same ones keep clicking on my profile every day.

Well they are obviously embarrassed as now you know they are also on that site. I think they are just making fun of you to hide thier own insecurities. I think it was a brave step for you to advertise and I really hope you find someone. I bet some of the people you work with actually fancy you anyways, why else would they keep clicking on your profile??

You don't have to be alone

As I understand it, you're a shy person who has never been in a relationship, who is easily affected by others' opinions of you. I would venture to guess perhaps a self-esteem problem, to some degree. And all of this has you depressed. It's understandable. For a while I lived like a hermit, more or less. I worked and usually just kept to myself. It does get depressing; I understand. However, I knew fully well that it was exclusively ME who could bring my loneliness to an end.

The first thing I would say to you is this: STOP IT!

You don't want to die alone, so quit living like a hermit already, it's silly.

You don't want to die alone, so quit living like a hermit already, it's silly.

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Hello justtwowords. I agree with you: this is the solution to solve this problem. But do you think if it would be that easy this web would exist and we would be here?
Making friends is not an easy thing. But by saying this I do mean that we don't have to fight to make it. It's up to us to change our future.

Justtwowords, I can understand where you are coming from. It is easier said than done but I will try anything to overcome it. I am in the process of looking around for help but it is very limited here where I live. I have had depression for quite awhile I have good days and bad days. I find it very hard to get out and about like I said I have been in isolation for 10 years now. I haven't had anyone to talk too not even family and I can't exactly mix with the people I work with.

Over the last couple of days I have even considered relocating, moving somewhere else to live where there are more opportunitys to get help and even change my job as I work 16 hours a day but these changes wont happen overnight. I have to save some money for the move first as I am at the stage where I would like to live closer to my family but I'm just not sure if I am doing the right thing.