Social anxiety and social life

People tell me that as you grow older the need for social contact increases. I know a woman who is 50 and divorced, she lives on her own. She 'warned' me that it's terrible to live alone and that I really should get my act together, and find a girl before it's too late (I'll be 33 in a few months).

She told me that when she was younger she too loved being alone, but that's not the case anymore. Do any of you fear the prospect of loneliness in the future? I don't have any siblings and my parents are getting older, so I would be on my own. I don't think it's easy to find friends, especially at her age. Luckily, she does have a few friends.

I don't really fear being alone in the future. I guess I've never thought about it, I'm more concerned that I'm lonely in the present.
Or maybe it's that I'm around quite a lot of people who are older and aren't alone...my aunt never got married or never had a big relationship...but her and and a friend that she met while she was travelling alone in australia now live together as housemates and have great fun, going out and travelling even more...and she's in her 50s.
Then there's my mum's best friend, who was the exact same. She never had any big relationships, and then she met a guy when she was in her late 40's and got married when she was 51! So i guess in my experience lots of people that I was around who were older did find someone in the end.

The prospect of dying alone scares the crap out of me! I remember when my grandad was in a nursing home i felt depressed seeing all these helpless, old people. I don't want to end up like that.

Being alone forever is one of the greatest things I fear as well. But I try not to think about it or dwell on it too long because it can really depress you if you spend too much time thinking about it. Friend wise, things are pretty good and even though i'm slower at making friends...I still do. For me it's being alone in the sense of never having a girlfriend/wife/or someone to love. It's always a factor and it's always stuck in the back of my mind but I just keep hopeful and happy because I really do believe luck will turn my way one day.

I'm surprised that the possibility of being alone just doesn't seem to bother some people. I cant really even imagine wanting to be alone in my life...idk.

I think if I ever get to be 50 and I'm still alone, I would just off myself. I know it sounds weak but living alone or living in a convalescent home where other people have to change your diaper doesn't sound like living to me.

Yep... right now I don't mind being alone, friend-wise or dating-wise, but will I still feel this way at 50? The sad part is how fast time flies, it's been 9 years since I left HS, plenty of stuff has happened since then, but life has sort of just aimlessly went by. I don't know if I'm alone that long if I'll even be able to function in a relationship.

But heck... who knows what I want, maybe there will be a certain peace being alone at that age, at that age people seem to settle down, everyone's bodies go downhill, you start really seeing if people's minds are all there or not. Maybe 50 will his and I'll say, so what I'm alone, no more worrying about trying to find someone, or trying to impress girl's out of my league. You don't see 50 year olds being lovey dovey.

But still I think I'd like to get some relationships under the belt, just so I won't always wonder, what if. And if nothing works out, well I guess that's how it goes. Worry about today eh.

I hate being alone. But right now i'm not really bothered about going with any1 =|
I don't enjoy being by myself, some people probably think i want to be cos i am, but i'd rather be with some people rather than no people at all.
When i'm older i hope i have at least a few friends from my life, who i'v like known thru my life, but i'm shy so i dunno really.
Sometimes it's alryt bein alone like, gives ya somethin 2 realise that it's not actually as bad or sad as i once thought it would be. If the best i can get is no-one then fine, i'm happy.
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