mrblack
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it turns out that with hot women i do tend to get anxious around them and fumble and stumble in my language and body posture. It turns out they will not feel any pity for me and actually feel unattracted to me. They are attracted to nothing but confidence. And I think we guys should get that stored in mind. I see really ugly guys with beautiful women sometimes.
Honestly, they are not going to really want to talk with us about this problem, and there will be no way for any relationship, except maybe a small friendship where she would treat you as one of her girlfriends blirting out all her problems with her real guy friends, while you listen and go "OH REALLY...MAYBE YOU SHOULD..." (and then you stumble into the desperate self advice giver )
First us guys, should learn to communicate with each other, meaning other guys. If we do not have basic communication skills down, where we talk to one another, withouth feeling embarassed or intimidated, then there is no point trying to talk to a girl.
Remember, sometimes it is better to be quiet in a situation, if you are feeling really quesy and jittery, then blurt out something in an awkward tone of voice, and say something that becomes misunderstood, and makes your face sweat etc. But NO DO NOT DO THIS FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!
Try to understand why you become intimidated. Try practicing conversating with people that you may feel intellectually higher than in status terms. Perhaps your intimidation will fade. Then start to recognize that status is not really anything, and once you are confident you can try speaking to anyone.
But the main point of this topic is me asserting that women at least 90 % of the time are solely attracted to a man who is confident, and comfortable in his own shoes. Blurting out our social problems to them won't really be of much help. Neither will making it totally obvious that we are insecure, by our typical social anxiety disorder symtoms. It is better to deal with these problems ourselves, and then begin to approach women in completely casual terms that shoes we are comfortable in our own shoes, while forgetting about the horrbile past confrontations (unless of course we are using them as a tool to not reenact dreadful past situations) Humor will help in this approach. because every body seems to like to laugh right?
Please give your thoughts or experiences. Women also. (perhaps women will be more lenient on this board, since they suffer from s.a.d as well...but i am curious if they feel intimidation around guys etc.)
Honestly, they are not going to really want to talk with us about this problem, and there will be no way for any relationship, except maybe a small friendship where she would treat you as one of her girlfriends blirting out all her problems with her real guy friends, while you listen and go "OH REALLY...MAYBE YOU SHOULD..." (and then you stumble into the desperate self advice giver )
First us guys, should learn to communicate with each other, meaning other guys. If we do not have basic communication skills down, where we talk to one another, withouth feeling embarassed or intimidated, then there is no point trying to talk to a girl.
Remember, sometimes it is better to be quiet in a situation, if you are feeling really quesy and jittery, then blurt out something in an awkward tone of voice, and say something that becomes misunderstood, and makes your face sweat etc. But NO DO NOT DO THIS FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!
Try to understand why you become intimidated. Try practicing conversating with people that you may feel intellectually higher than in status terms. Perhaps your intimidation will fade. Then start to recognize that status is not really anything, and once you are confident you can try speaking to anyone.
But the main point of this topic is me asserting that women at least 90 % of the time are solely attracted to a man who is confident, and comfortable in his own shoes. Blurting out our social problems to them won't really be of much help. Neither will making it totally obvious that we are insecure, by our typical social anxiety disorder symtoms. It is better to deal with these problems ourselves, and then begin to approach women in completely casual terms that shoes we are comfortable in our own shoes, while forgetting about the horrbile past confrontations (unless of course we are using them as a tool to not reenact dreadful past situations) Humor will help in this approach. because every body seems to like to laugh right?
Please give your thoughts or experiences. Women also. (perhaps women will be more lenient on this board, since they suffer from s.a.d as well...but i am curious if they feel intimidation around guys etc.)