Someone hit my car and I ran away

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BlueDays said:

Glad I am not the only one who thought that too when they read it!

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It seems quite a few of us were picturing something along the lines of a GTA: Vice City scenario. I was even hearing an 80s soundtrack.

I had an old lady bump into the back of my car in a car park once. I was in a parking spot, so I could not go anywhere.
Luckily she was very nice about it and admitted it was her fault.
The only damage was to her car surprisingly, so I did not have to deal with Insurance and putting the car in to be fixed. Thank god, because I always have a feeling that mechanics will take one look at me with SA and think they can rip me off.

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I can definitely understand Klaus's feeling of panic. While I wouldn't just drive away if someone hit my car, when someone did hit the back of mine a couple of years ago, my initial reaction was anxiety that now I would have to leave the safe, secure little bubble of my vehicle and actually deal with another human being. And ithe fact that it happens suddenly, with no time to prepare that makes it worse. ::

It's very understandable that someone with SA may do this. I feel you know yourself that you let SA get the better of you, but we have all been there my friend. We just have to keep learning from these things and keep progressing. Make a resolution that if it ever happens again you will definitely get out of the car next time.

Klaus, do you have friends/family that live near you? When my car got totaled (thankfully I was pissed enough about it that it over-rode my SA a little) at someone else's fault the first thing i did was get my phone out and call my sister and my dad... i had walked off the street to a gas station and didn't even confront the guy who hit me until after the police got there. and he was more scared than i was. but i held my phone to my ear and ignored him until police did arrive, even after i was done talking to them and they'd hung up, i just pretended i was still talking to someone because i didn't want to face him.

AND i was scared i wouldn't know how to properly transfer information with him, or that i might accidentally give him info he didn't need that he could somehow use to exploit the situation... i pretty much was a nervous wreck now that i'm playing the event back over in my head. and it took me forever to find my dang proof of registration and insurance card to show the police (another anxiety attack there). thankfully the police guys were pretty lax and seemed like they weren't too pissed about having to mediate over the accident. plus the whole thing wasn't my fault.

i know exactly what you were going through, accidents are a terrifying situation even if it's not your fault. in the miliseconds before the dude slammed into me basically head-on at 40mph i was thinking--oh crap i'm gonna have to deal with this guy face to face, with cops present, what if it do something wrong? i didn't even feel my face hit the airbag or even wince from the impact, just got out of my car and started fighting the rising anxiety. thankfully my sister and parents showed up after some 20 min to help... strangely enough they made the situation worse by trying to get too involved lol.

so to anyone who's afraid of confronting some1 after an accident, just call family and police first thing off, and don't even talk to the person you had the accident with, don't even acknowledge he/she exists until the police get there (use selective mutism on him/her), then tell the police you've never been in an accident before or you're feeling a bit unwell from the collision and they'll mediate for you. if the person gets hostile with you, stay in your car (unless it's on fire or something) and tell him you're not going to talk to him until the police arrive to mediate.

i used to be real afraid of police (not cause i'm a serial killer or anything), but after being pulled over for minor issues like a busted headlight or missing tags i've learned that police are really nice most of the time. one time two officers pulled me over cause i was walking to the convenience store at 3am and i guess i looked suspicious, and these cops were some bored mo'fo's. after they asked me if i had drugs on me and i told them i didn't, suddenly we were just chatting for s***'s and giggles for like 10 minutes. one of the cops was into rap and we started spitting some rhymes right there on the street.

i guess it's kind of sad when you like being pulled over because it means you get to socialize with another human being ::.

Klaus said:

The traffic was completely jammed and moving very very slowly, suddenly the car behind me hit the back of my car. And I ran away.
The damage was pretty big. I will have to repair.

What would do in a situation like this?

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Get out the car, swap insurance details, take photographs, call the insurers??

I dont want to worry you... but...
Unfortunatly now the person who crashed into you (who was at fault) could easily turn the story around and say it was your fault and thats why you drove off. They could also report it to the police and you could get into trouble for leaving scene of accident.

Would suggest you call your insurance people ASAP and explain to them what happened and why you drove off.

Similiar thing happened to a family friend and they nearly got screwed big time over it. Luckily they had been going to docters/pych for a few years and they confirmed they had social issues.

Also I realy feel bad for saying this, because you and everyone else on these forums are such great people =) But its pretty irresponsible. Imagine if the person (even if its thre fault) needed medical attntion/ambulance. Might not of been the case this time, but what about if its alot worse next time.