Starting new in a sheltered workshop

xnn

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Duo to my health isuess I can no longer function in a normal job, and I will soon start adapted work in a sheltered workshop. To be giving this oppertunity to start a new life means a lot to me. Let's just say after 16 years in my old job, I don't have any friends there, or are even welcome there anymore.
I am suppose to start in my new job tuesday 14th april. I'm very excited, but also very scared at the same time. There is working around 100 people there...!

I was in a meeting with 2 ouf the leaders there this week. I have been open to them about my anxiety. I told them I'm very excited to start working there, but my anxiety is holding me back. I was told that I'm not alone, and they have others workers with anxiety too.
I was also told that they normally eat lunch together, which scared me. I hate to eat with othes. One of the leaders took me in the hand and said he hoped I would have lunch with him the first day. That kind of make me happy (I guess the feeling of being accepted), but still scared.
How do you deal with that?

And also about being around other people that may have anxiety too. Yes, we do have some things in common, but I can't stop thinking that we will fail in any attempt to communicate with each other. I need people who are very open, talk alot to me, otherwise I can't open up and give something off myself. Two persons with anxiety in a room together would mean they both will feel unsure about each other, right?

I really want to change, what I have done has not been working for me. Otherwise I wouldnt be sitting here all alone, with no friends, and feel that everyone hates me. But it's hard. People I know don't even say hi when we meet anymore.

Yeah.. He took me in the hand and said he hoped I would have lunch with him *feeling so happy and accepted* :applause: but still scared to death. And I don't want to be rude and say no :crying:
 

theoutsider

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That's a tough one but I do think the leader understands what you are going thru so don't feel pressured to be a great conversationalist. When I first started my job, I had to go to lunch the first day with my manager. Luckily, the supervisor came along too. This may sound intimidating but it can actually be easier if three people instead of just two go out to lunch. That way, the attention is divided between the three and not just one on one. If possible, maybe you can suggest a third person if you get on well with someone else there on your first day.
 
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