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Old 04-06-2009  
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I don't know what is wrong with me today, for an avoidant and love-shy guy I feel as though I'm 'in heat' where I'm desperately wanting to both give and receive affection from some barely imaginary pretty girl...

Unlike usual, my mind is focussed on thoughts of passionate kissing and fondling, and I never thought I would say this but my loins ache... and it's only been a few hours since I experienced "the clouds and the rain"... I don't get it...

I've been frustratingly alone and starving for human affection below my completely inhibited surface for a whole decade now since the beginnings of ****rty... why is it all of a sudden that I'm feeling so desperate for intimate affection? - and more importantly, how should I proceed?

I know that frustration and other negative emotions can be bottled up until something triggers the floodgates open... can the same be said for the bottling up of feelings of desiring intimacy? - I'm not talking about simple sexual gratification, I'm talking about something emotionally deeper than that...

My story of social anxiety, avoidance, and love-shyness can be found here:
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awww... I get those feelings too every once in a while, but I'm too shy to act on them.. honestly don't have any advice you ya... sorry
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Old 04-06-2009  
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I think that's really normal but I guess there isn't too much you can do except be patient .. or a hooker.

Maybe you could try meeting a girl online..
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Old 04-06-2009  
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you have the same "spiritual void" that I have. Many of us have this feeling, and it sucks. By coming here at least you can express those feelings but of course it wont bring you intimacy

"Sometimes even to live is an act of courage"
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yea man, I know the feeling! It's just natural for blokes to feel like this from time to time [women too assumedly!]....but it will pass.

I guess there are a few options you could take. You could ride it out. In a day or two you'll probably feel much better.....Or you could revisit the "clouds and the rain"! ...shall we say!......or you could express how you feel somehow in a painting or song or write it out....or if you wanted to do something about it, you could take some steps and try joining a dating site or a club or go to a pub or try saying hello to someone you like or some other kind of active step toward meeting new people.

You've got this energy inside you atm which can be a very healthy, motivating thing, and is better than feeling numb....but it's up to you where you decide to focus that energy.


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Old 04-13-2009  
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I admit I get these feelings quite a bit too.

The only advice would be to try to man up as much as possible. Everything comes from the inside first. What do you want to achieve? Set yourself goals and focus on them. You are a man, there are many possibilities out there for you.
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I don't know what is wrong with me today, for an avoidant and love-shy guy I feel as though I'm 'in heat' where I'm desperately wanting to both give and receive affection from some barely imaginary pretty girl...

Unlike usual, my mind is focussed on thoughts of passionate kissing and fondling, and I never thought I would say this but my loins ache... and it's only been a few hours since I experienced "the clouds and the rain"... I don't get it...

I've been frustratingly alone and starving for human affection below my completely inhibited surface for a whole decade now since the beginnings of ****rty... why is it all of a sudden that I'm feeling so desperate for intimate affection? - and more importantly, how should I proceed?

I know that frustration and other negative emotions can be bottled up until something triggers the floodgates open... can the same be said for the bottling up of feelings of desiring intimacy? - I'm not talking about simple sexual gratification, I'm talking about something emotionally deeper than that...
I feel the same exact way a lot of the time but, unfortunately, there's nothing I can do about it. & even if there was something I could do about it, I'd be too afraid to do it...

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I feel exactly the same too, I've never had the chance to give and receive affection, and its just been building up for years.
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It's frustrating i know. I yearn for a woman to atleast cuddle and hold hands with. Looks like i have to make do with my imaginary girlfriend
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It's frustrating i know. I yearn for a woman to atleast cuddle and hold hands with. Looks like i have to make do with my imaginary girlfriend
Yeah I have to do a lot of imagining.
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