Stressed out about college

I am currently going to school to be a Resident Care Worker. I'm so worried, I'm trying my absolute hardest at college. I'm trying to be independent and confident, but it's so hard. I don't fit in with anyone in my course and I have such low confidence that today my teacher told me she's worried I will fail in clinical. I want to help people and I want to do good at this cause I've never wanted something so bad. Yet I'm having so much trouble with confidence and independence that it will affect me greatly. In my field you have to be assertive and independent. I can barely stand up for myself. I don't know how I will do this, I thought I was doing good with things but apparently not.

Maybe things will be different in the actual work force. I get pinged for that same thing and my dream job doesnt require a ton of social skills. But I still lose points on my class eval for lack of confidence and how poorly I respond to stress. But I find it weird because Ive met healthcare workers that arent exactly rainbows and sunshine, yet they have a job. I dunno I guess we'll see soon enough.

Megaten said:

Maybe things will be different in the actual work force. I get pinged for that same thing and my dream job doesnt require a ton of social skills. But I still lose points on my class eval for lack of confidence and how poorly I respond to stress. But I find it weird because Ive met healthcare workers that arent exactly rainbows and sunshine, yet they have a job. I dunno I guess we'll see soon enough.

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Right now I have classmates treating me like an idiot I'm really trying not to treat them badly. All they do is ignore me and laugh at me I'm getting sick of it.

dannyboy65 said:

Right now I have classmates treating me like an idiot I'm really trying not to treat them badly. All they do is ignore me and laugh at me I'm getting sick of it.

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Wow, so they're aholes and are going to be future resident care workers? I say just stop dealing with them then. Even if you were to somehow befriend them, they'd probably just end up disappointing you. Yeah I know, easier said than done, but its probably the only choice you have if you want to maintain some semblance of sanity and graduate. I couldnt make friends at all at my last Uni and tbh Im tired of trying. Do you have to work with them on projects or can you just ignore them entirely?

Megaten said:

Wow, so they're aholes and are going to be future resident care workers? I say just stop dealing with them then. Even if you were to somehow befriend them, they'd probably just end up disappointing you. Yeah I know, easier said than done, but its probably the only choice you have if you want to maintain some semblance of sanity and graduate. I couldnt make friends at all at my last Uni and tbh Im tired of trying. Do you have to work with them on projects or can you just ignore them entirely?

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Have to finish a project with one tomorrow she was rushing me today to finish an assignment and would barely talk or anything.

dannyboy65 said:

Have to finish a project with one tomorrow she was rushing me today to finish an assignment and would barely talk or anything.

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Damn...i wonder what the big deal is.

Megaten said:

Damn...i wonder what the big deal is.

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I don't know, I shown nothing but respect to my classmates yet they treat me like garbage. Their are maybe 3-4 of them that are nice to me out of the 23, but even they tend to ignore and seclude me. Yet there I am still treating them with respect.

dannyboy65 said:

I don't know, I shown nothing but respect to my classmates yet they treat me like garbage. Their are maybe 3-4 of them that are nice to me out of the 23, but even they tend to ignore and seclude me. Yet there I am still treating them with respect.

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Just curious. None of your classmates are friends with your ex are they? I was just wondering because I found that one comment one of them said to you really odd and random. I dont mean to make you paranoid, but Ive seen it happen before where one angry person can turn a group against someone even if youve not done anything to them. And i remember you saying y'all went to school together and you ran into her often.

Or it could be that they just dont understand your personality. The latter happens to me a lot. I come off as cold in person and some take it personally.

Anyways good thing is that this is just a small phase of your life and will eventually pass. You may never even see these fools again after school is done and over with.