Telling a NEW potential love interest you have HH

Sprawling

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Recently I met this new woman in my life who I thought would be a possible love interest. Amongst some other possible red flags the biggest red flag was in regards to my overall body sweating during the warm summer months and the hand sweating that happens on and off when becoming involved with a new person.

I'm very up front about my body sweating that happens during the hot summer months and told her all about my hand HH. I said when my body sweats, it dries. No, I don't need to take a shower over a little sweat, it doesn't smell. I went over her house with a afriend who was visiting from out of state and when my new lady friend touched my hand that happened to be damp, she pulled back and said ewwww. We'll that's a big red flag in my book so that was the straw that broke the camel's back. I've been married, had relationships and nobody ever reacted that way.

We had a conversation about sex and I said even with non-HH people sex can be sweaty. She didn't like that idea. Although I truly enjoy her company and will remain friends, that's all it will be. Of course there are other issues and such, but the main thing is in regards to our HH. My advice in the past is that if someone reacts the way she has..... run like hell. I will run in regards to a relationship, yet I do see a value in being her friend. We have some sort of connection that's worth exploring and my gut says to be her friend.

This is why I find it so important to talk to people , friends, family and strangers about our HH. I have found my family and friends extremely supportive and even strangers find HH interesting when told about it. Now I'm in my 50's now and lived too many years hiding my HH. It's a relief as if a burden is lifted when you don't have to hide it. My advice is to just do your best.

If any of you are dating and you tell your date about HH and they react in a negative way, then they are not for you. There are just way to many excepting people out there that there is no reason to ever have to put up with anyone who says EWWWWW.
 

teandtoast

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Well yes that girl you were dating doesn't sound nice or someone worth wasting more time on.

I've been dating a girl for 3 months now and we've grown close and I haven't told her about my HH yet.
Luckily I have been able to control it using probanthine and it hasn't been extremely hot here in the UK so she hasn't noticed anything, but I will tell her soon.
I can't imagine her reacting in same way you have experienced luckily as she is a very sweet and understanding girl, but I need to find right time to do it.
Not like it's big thing but I've not really told anyone about my HH before aside from my parents and one of my siblings.
 

Sprawling

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Well yes that girl you were dating doesn't sound nice or someone worth wasting more time on.

I've been dating a girl for 3 months now and we've grown close and I haven't told her about my HH yet.
Luckily I have been able to control it using probanthine and it hasn't been extremely hot here in the UK so she hasn't noticed anything, but I will tell her soon.
I can't imagine her reacting in same way you have experienced luckily as she is a very sweet and understanding girl, but I need to find right time to do it.
Not like it's big thing but I've not really told anyone about my HH before aside from my parents and one of my siblings.

I think the sooner you tell her the less worry you'll have. Usually my body needs to adapt to a new person. This can take weeks or months. If ionto is working correctly the time element is shorter. That's just how its always been for me.
 
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