Fox_W_Mulder
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I feel stress, anxiety, and at times panic while thinking about getting into a relationship. In the past there were times where I've have panic attacks after getting a girls number or even at the thought of talking to a girl.
This started a few years ago, and was much worse then than it is now. I strugged with panic attacks and managed to overcome them, and I don't really feel nervous at the thought of talking to any girls either. But that fear of relationships is still there.
Growing up my parents didn t have the best relationship. Basically everything in the household always had to be centered around making my mother happy. Seeing that, and the way everything was made me pretty much vow to never be in that kind of relationship. My whole life I've seen first hand what it's like to be in a bad relationship, and I don't want that for myself.
So I've stayed very careful of any girls I dealt with, but it hasn't done much good. I've been lied to, lead on, and just generally taken advantage of by girls. The worst was the one I loved the most who lied, and lead me on for over three years. Then there's tons of other girls who I met, thought were good, and found out were awful. So many of them were phonies who pretend to like people, but really hate everyone.
I'm so afraid of getting into a bad relationship that I've never been able to have a real one. I know there are good women out there, but even if I met one I'd still feel these fears.
The fear of being trapped in a bad relationship is terrifying to me. My self respect has increased greatly this year, and I flat out won't deal with women who I can tell are trouble. But still I have that fear, and it won't go away.
I don't know what to do, and worry that I'll have to struggle with this for the rest of my life.
Is there any way to get past this?
This started a few years ago, and was much worse then than it is now. I strugged with panic attacks and managed to overcome them, and I don't really feel nervous at the thought of talking to any girls either. But that fear of relationships is still there.
Growing up my parents didn t have the best relationship. Basically everything in the household always had to be centered around making my mother happy. Seeing that, and the way everything was made me pretty much vow to never be in that kind of relationship. My whole life I've seen first hand what it's like to be in a bad relationship, and I don't want that for myself.
So I've stayed very careful of any girls I dealt with, but it hasn't done much good. I've been lied to, lead on, and just generally taken advantage of by girls. The worst was the one I loved the most who lied, and lead me on for over three years. Then there's tons of other girls who I met, thought were good, and found out were awful. So many of them were phonies who pretend to like people, but really hate everyone.
I'm so afraid of getting into a bad relationship that I've never been able to have a real one. I know there are good women out there, but even if I met one I'd still feel these fears.
The fear of being trapped in a bad relationship is terrifying to me. My self respect has increased greatly this year, and I flat out won't deal with women who I can tell are trouble. But still I have that fear, and it won't go away.
I don't know what to do, and worry that I'll have to struggle with this for the rest of my life.
Is there any way to get past this?
