DownInAHole
Well-known member
First off, my SA started when I was about 13 years old. Before then I made friends very easily, could give presentations no problem, was just an overall happy kid. Then I suddenly started noticing that my face felt very hot when I had to play my part solo in a musical performance class (this started after I was bumped up to the advanced class after only playing a couple months, so I think it was the extra pressure). I thought nothing of it until one day a kid innocently asked me, why does your face turn red when you are the only one playing. That was the catalyst I guess you could say. After that I started getting easily flushed in presentations, whenever I was put on the spot, then finally it would randomly happen for no good reason at all. It was a gradual process how it spread to all areas of my life.
The flushing socially conditioned me into becoming a much more anxious and quiet person. Whenever I felt that burning feeling in my face I would shut down. The comments from people also start to take a toll on you. I did have friends and all, but I definitely never felt I could live up to my potential. It was frustrating how it always held me back in life.
Even with SA, I had a handful of chances where I could of had a girlfriend. For some reason I never ended up pulling the trigger. So that's what really bugs me is I could have easily had a gf at 13-15 yrs old, maybe built up some confidence, and not be a 23 yrs old that has never been in a real relationship. I feel more confident now than I did as a teen, but I seem to never let myself get close enough to a girl...I guess in fear that eventually I'll have to tell her she's my first serious relationship.
I seriously think about this every day, it used to not bug me as much.. but now that I've graduated college, and my little sisters started dating I guess it's starting to catch up to me. It definitely feels good to write it all out though.
The flushing socially conditioned me into becoming a much more anxious and quiet person. Whenever I felt that burning feeling in my face I would shut down. The comments from people also start to take a toll on you. I did have friends and all, but I definitely never felt I could live up to my potential. It was frustrating how it always held me back in life.
Even with SA, I had a handful of chances where I could of had a girlfriend. For some reason I never ended up pulling the trigger. So that's what really bugs me is I could have easily had a gf at 13-15 yrs old, maybe built up some confidence, and not be a 23 yrs old that has never been in a real relationship. I feel more confident now than I did as a teen, but I seem to never let myself get close enough to a girl...I guess in fear that eventually I'll have to tell her she's my first serious relationship.
I seriously think about this every day, it used to not bug me as much.. but now that I've graduated college, and my little sisters started dating I guess it's starting to catch up to me. It definitely feels good to write it all out though.