The reason why you are single.

After reading thread called "Why haven't you got a girl/boyfriend? - your response" I was wondering what are your reasons for being single and decided to make this thread. If you find this thread useless, I'm sorry.

Anyway If you are curious why I don't have a girlfriend, here are my reasons as well as why I have break with my ex.

1) I'm totally awkward when it's coming to girls as I can't sense when they are interested in me, can't do boy-girl play (I totally don't understand it, is it something wrong with me ? ) and usually act a bit weirdly around them that also includes things like: I can't stop smiling or laughing. That becomes a problem when I'm usually have serious topic to discuss.

2) Normally I don't approach a girl first by myself however I done it once and I'm glad that she wasn't interested in me and nothing had come out of this (btw we went to the cinema). After cinema I get to know her more (we were in small group) and it appeared that she changes her boyfriends faster than gloves on her hands as she change them every time when she get bored with them. (WTF ). I totally don't understand girls like this :idontknow:

3) It's hard for me to show my feelings for the other person not speaking of confession which is hard enough to don't do it, it's not like I don't bother it's just my SA :sad:.

4) I'm shy as hell and prefer Face To Face contact rather than video-calling (Skype etc) or making calls with someone and I usually mumble a lot and turn things what I supposed to say around so the thing which I mean to say is completely opposite. Tho even if somehow some girl find to be interested in me we would quickly and simply run out of talk as I don't have much to talk about even with my own gender as there are only few things which I'm only into and not many people talk about it.

5) Well I'm a home-guy type of a person who always stays at home and have something to do so I don't think girls which are very outgoing would be even interested in me anyway.

6) I could go on and on with this list but now let's jump off to my ex. So we basically met through mutual friend and decided to meet up in my house to watch a horror movie (that is what we have planned) then we ended up cuddling and holding hands at the end :thumbup:. So after some time as we have been meeting up twice a week, I believe it was our second date she wanted to bang and I refused it because it was too early, I wasn't ready as well as didn't had a condom at the time. Tho she was pressuring me non-stop about it to the point where I had enough and break up with her. That was my firs girlfriend ever which I spent 2 weeks of my life with and break up afterwards. Sad but unfortunately true.

7) I have seen few people saying that relationship doesn't bring happiness or rather they are happier without it. That's fine however I would say it was amazing feeling of the other person when they have feelings for you. At this point I must say I'm pretty dissatisfied with my life by means of being single at the moment and that need to be changed in the future somehow. I have nearly achieved what I wanted and to be fully happy I just need to find the other half of mine which pale somewhere on this world. :thinking:

The reason I am single is because I want a relationship. I don't want it with the wrong person. I've been single for 4 years so far looking for the right person. I've had plenty of crushes in the end they weren't worth it, so I moved on. Now I found a girl who is truly interested in me and enjoys talking to me. So soon I will ask her out

Nothing ever made me happier than being in a relationship, and nothing has ever wrecked me harder than losing one. I'm single because I'm very selective about who I would be in a relationship with, for that reason. I don't want to start a relationship if I'm not convinced it will last a very long time, regardless of how much I might like someone, and I certainly don't want to be in a relationship just to be in a relationship.

It may not be horribly realistic to expect every relationship I ever have to last that very long time, but it's not supposed it be (though so far I've not had one shorter than 2 years; not as long as I'd like, but longer than anybody else I know). It's more of a goal than an expectation. Keeps me on the careful side.

All that said, I'm fine being single. I would be fine staying single forever.

Because I don't try.....
I don't see myself as somebody who's fit for a relationship.
At the moment I'm not worth anybody's time,I have absolutely nothing to offer.

Maybe someday I'll find myself worthy.
I hope to one day reach that point...
But right now? nah,not even close

For me, it is because i am afraid to approach or meet up people. I am afraid they might judge me, see me as someone who is not worthy to be a boyfriend and in the end leave me.

Because of my extreme shyness I'm too shy to talk to the guys that show interest and talk to me which isn't often. :alone: I'm 42 and have never been in a relationship. Two of my sisters are married and I'm really jealous of them because I'll never have a man love me and look after me like they have. :crying: Sometimes I get so jealous of them I end up hating them then I end up hating myself because of it. Because I've never been in a relationship I feel the whole world is going :lol: at me. Being single isn't as fun as you think.

I'm only single because I can't really picture myself with any guy or girl I've met to be involved in a relationship. Although, I try to keep this quiet from other people because they may think I'm shallow for not going out with someone because I'm judging them by appearance. Not true at all. I can't honestly picture myself with someone who I have no common with and who gets caught up with drinking, partying, and smoking. I just don't think I want anyone ever, possibly...

I just got out from a relationship so meh, at this point it doesn't bother me much

I've never been in a relationship (nor kissed or anything) and there are a few reasons:
- very shy, resting b*tch face, ugly
- it takes me a long time (months, years) to forget a crush after I've been rejected
- unable to force myself to be attracted to the only creepy guy who seemed interested

Being Shy & as emptybench says having crushes on people taking years to forget them, missing out on potential opportunities with others.:sad:

I'm horrible with people. I'm not good with many types of relationships and feel bothered either way. It took me a while to realize this. It is what it is and I'm now fine with it. I'd like to meet someone, but I'm in no rush. I feel life is less complicated with people mucking it up.

I got out of a relationship (of just over a year) less than a month ago that was in a declining phase. I spent a good month or two before that grappling with the fact that we weren't compatible and knowing I had to leave.

As it was long distance, we had to invest a lot of time and energy to continue the pre-existing dynamic between us - visiting him and his family, constantly having to be in contact by phone, dealing with insecurities (his and mine), having to consult him whether I was about to make a small or life-changing decision. Being autonomous and selfish is the essence I missed most about being single.

I'm currently working on improving myself (for me) before I get in another one.

I keep getting led-on and brushed off by girls before even getting on base with them. it's too rigorous and painful to even keep trying when you know you'll always be friend-zoned. bitterness is all I have.

I feel the same way about romantic relationships as I do about putting up the Christmas lights...too much work...lol

Just thinking about being in a relationship makes me feel smothered and invaded

S_Spartan said:

I feel the same way about romantic relationships as I do about putting up the Christmas lights...too much work...lol

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S_Spartan said:

I feel the same way about romantic relationships as I do about putting up the Christmas lights...too much work...lol

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yeah thats the way i feel about them too lol...i have found that the idea of being in a relationship with a girl that i click with and find attractive seems great..then i go through the tribulations of meeting different ones which can be very tiring and frustrating..even the ones i do end up clicking with somewhat, the magic or bond just isnt there..i migh enjoy hanging out with them once a week or so but thats about it..

ive noticed a few things that kill my ability to sustain relationshis

1-im not a social person, dont like to talk on the phone or even in person..

2-im a loner, i prefer to spend most of my time by myself which doesnt sit well with women..

3-im a pretty cold person in general, im not affectionate nor do i enjoy cuddling and things of that nature..thats a huge barrier to a relationship..

4-i am not outgoing in the least..when im not working, i like to workout or go hiking, thats about it..i dont like going out to dinners and bars and most women like to go out fairly often..

5-my depression and anxiety issues flare up occasionally and those are relationship killers as well..

i have more reasons but dont feel like posting them..it would take a small miracle to find a woman that would fit together with my personality and me with hers..

My confidence and self esteem has been smashed in to a million pieces. I'm a loser living at home with no prospects. I'm super sweet and caring but in the end that is not enough.

My happiest days are spent in my own company.

ImNotMyIllness said:

My confidence and self esteem has been smashed in to a million pieces. I'm a loser living at home with no prospects. I'm super sweet and caring but in the end that is not enough.

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Aye, same can said aboot me.