Richey said:
I walked around the shops today and started feeling pale, cold and sweaty after about five minutes of walking around, im very insecure about my looks and im quite skinny as a male(fast metabolism), i find it difficult to show myself in public unless i feel that im looking decent enough to be seen.
especially with the young people of today, everyone looked like models from magazine adverts, and i feel that i need to conform to this so that i can walk around and blend in rather then standing out as average.
Girls are wearing Tight jeans, have amzingly styled hair and walk around with such confidence.
Guys walk around looking fit and when im not content with my looks i start comparing myself to others and i over analyse how im coming across to people, then there is trying to maintain coherent conversation with the cashiers and the staff who work in the shops..ARGH!
After i had sorted out the shopping i just wanted to escape and get out of there .....
the REAL issue for me was that its like walking into an asteroid belt of strangers particularly in that it was busy when i was there, in the past ive felt sick for hanging around too long and i resist acting myself in public places that are full of people, because i consciously resist any attention in fear that ill look silly or foolish.
anyway most of that was completely irrational, how do you cope in places full of people that are walking around everywhere.
does anyone have any tips?
Also my overly confident sister sometimes finds shopping centres to be daunting and an anxiety enducing environment.
Its interesting how people handle certain situations
Well i know this is probably the worst advice i can give you but... here goes... Why dont you try and look like them too? Well its helped me lol.
I used to be very skinny too, and ugly therefore, (2 years ago) i decided i was gonna gain weight and i did, i ate a LOT, and went to the gym, and after 3 months i was a total different person, everyone i met was telling me how much better i looked and how much ive changed etc.
And recently ive changed my wardrobe, went out and bought lots of new stylish clothes, died my hair, changed my hair style (went to a hair stylist for that and chose the hair i wanted from a magazine he gave me) and now when i look at the mirror, i love what i see, really. Sometimes i have a hard time believing its me, lol really, ive changed that much. Its even made me kinda arrogant i guess, when i see someone looking worse than me, i get thoughts like "oh look at that, what kinda person would wear that sweater, oh come on, what a sucky hair is that" lol.
So this is the game we have to play, id love to say just be urself, and dont care what people think, theyre stereotypes and ur original, but in practical those dont help much.