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Old 03-17-2013  
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Some say that a life alone can be made very enjoyable and fulfilling if one is always looking for hobbies, taking up new interests, improving oneself, etc.

But there is a hiearchy of human needs, the most basic survival needs which are obviously food, water, shelter, etc. Above that, one of the core non-survival needs is social interaction. That is why SAD is one of the most disabling of all disorders (both physical and mental). It deprives many of us of what makes life more bearable, tolerable, pleasurable and meaningful.

An example can be found in video games. For those of you who are gamers, you will understand this analogy. A person who lives alone is like playing a single-player game. Sure it is fun, but once you complete it, no matter how good the single-player replayability is, it will not be as fun as the first time trying it. So we keep looking for new games, an addictive process that keeps us on a perpetual high state of stimulation and interest.

But the social person plays a different game- the multiplayer game. Almost every video game that has a multiplayer component (like Left 4 Dead, Battlefield, etc) outlives any singleplayer game in terms of replayability. Imagine if Left 4 Dead were only singleplayer, could you fathom yourself playing the same thing over and over for 1000 hours? Maybe you wouldn't get past 100 hours on doing it solo with AI-bots.

But Left 4 Dead and other multiplayer games like League Of Legends, where everyone mostly just plays the same map all the time, can occupy a gamer for hundreds or thousands of hours (seen a L4D2 gamer with 6300 recorded hours of gameplay) even though it is basically very repetitive, but because there is a social aspect to it, and every game you play with different people, each new person you meet a new experience to make friends, to try different strategies and employ new tactics.

That is what gives multiplayer games a very long lifespan. Look at Starcraft 1, a game that has existed for more than a decade, still going strong in tournaments, because the multiplayer keeps it alive and fresh. If Starcraft 1 had no multiplayer, there is no doubt its life would have fizzled out a long time ago.

Likewise, a non-social life that most of us lead, is like playing a singleplayer game. It gets really boring, no matter what the optimists say about it able to be as fulfilling as one with a social life. Because you cannot deny humans are social creatures and in pre-civilised times, no person could survive alone. Humans have almost no natural defences, are very delicately weak, and so we have become social creatures to increase our chances of survival in nature. Being social is at the core of being human. It is a natural instinct and behavior to want social contact.

A social person is playing a multiplayer game with his life. He might do the same thing (going out with friends, going on dates, etc) over and over for a lifetime, but he will never be truly bored, because he always has the chance to meet new people (as each person is a whole new experience and insight into different ways of living). He takes what would otherwise be boring to a non-social person, and makes it so that he derives greater enjoyment through social interaction and bonding.

My favorite quotes:

"Our greatest battles are that with our own minds"

"Do not follow where the path may lead; go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"

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great analogy. Makes me think of the amount of hours I spent playing Super Smash Bros. with my sis. The single-player mode was so miserable and lonely XD
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I agree. But first I need to find a group of friends who are eclectic like me, share the same interests, and accept me for who I am.
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Whats odd to me is that one of my friends loved to play Halo multiplayer, I hated it with a passion.
He asked me why single player is fun to me, its the same thing over and over he said. I replied that to me, thats what multiplayer is, its a a team of 5, fighting a team of 5, on one of the same 4 maps over and over, singleplayer has the advantage because at least it has a plot.
Fitting with this analogy, he has a wife and a son, I am single and spend most of my time alone

Misa: I would never dream about living in a world without Light.
L: Yes, that would be dark.
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I'm very introverted. I'm a loner and most of the time I like it that way. Not always though. I get lonely too. A little affection might be nice but that's not going to happen. Might be nice to have a couple of friends I have some things in common with, but that's not likely either.

If you want a single-player game you won't get bored with, look for simulation games. The Sims 3 is awesome. Games like that are open-ended. You don't just beat the game. There are always new things you can do. You can live vicariously through your Sims if you want. I made a Sim version of myself. I made sure to chose the loner trait so she enjoys solitude and gets anxious with too many people around. And she became a mad scientist.

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Whats odd to me is that one of my friends loved to play Halo multiplayer, I hated it with a passion.
He asked me why single player is fun to me, its the same thing over and over he said. I replied that to me, thats what multiplayer is, its a a team of 5, fighting a team of 5, on one of the same 4 maps over and over, singleplayer has the advantage because at least it has a plot.
Fitting with this analogy, he has a wife and a son, I am single and spend most of my time alone
Yes I prefer singleplayer too. Because few games do well at multiplayer (especially those that also include single player). I also do not like most multiplayer communities which are very rude and harsh to newbies, and too competitive which frustrates me when I get scolded for every little mistake. I tend to buy single-player only games unless it's MMORPGs like Guild Wars 2, etc.

My favorite quotes:

"Our greatest battles are that with our own minds"

"Do not follow where the path may lead; go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"
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I'm very introverted. I'm a loner and most of the time I like it that way. Not always though. I get lonely too. A little affection might be nice but that's not going to happen. Might be nice to have a couple of friends I have some things in common with, but that's not likely either.

If you want a single-player game you won't get bored with, look for simulation games. The Sims 3 is awesome. Games like that are open-ended. You don't just beat the game. There are always new things you can do. You can live vicariously through your Sims if you want. I made a Sim version of myself. I made sure to chose the loner trait so she enjoys solitude and gets anxious with too many people around. And she became a mad scientist.
I have Sims 3 on Steam, but it can still get lonely. I wish other homes in Sims 3 were actually filled with real players' sims instead of just AI bots.

My favorite quotes:

"Our greatest battles are that with our own minds"

"Do not follow where the path may lead; go instead where there is no path and leave a trail"
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Not that I'm a regular or a next generation gamer but my best, fun and enjoyable memories came when I was a kid playing on our Sega Mega Drive/Playstation one with my brothers which inevitably ended up with my slamming the control and storming out after being beaten on FIFA and taunted of the loss lol but I WISH if I could play with others as I play on my PS2 when I do on my own. If I had a next-gen console, I would definitely take advantage and play online. Not for a social reason as such but for selfish reasons of not playig the CPU all the time.
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I used to prefer singleplayer games because my connection was a bit unstable.

Nowadays I have the same preference but other reasons to prefer singleplayer. One is the fact that my computer isn't very powerful any more to run games like GW2 well enough (I get like 50 fps in the lowest settings possible). The other is that I find it hard to believe I'll ever feel as part of a community and find communities as good as those I had back when I played World of Warcraft. I'm talking about two specific guilds I belonged to at around the same time. One of them had most of its (few) members migrate and I ended up all alone. The other one is still around but it got tons of new members and most of the old ones already left, the ones that haven't probably don't remember me any more.

I think I started getting my avoidant personality at around the same time that I started caring less about the social side of multiplayer games, which was a bit after the essence of those communities disappeared. I just feel like I'll never find an online place where I'll feel the same way again, so when I play a multiplayer game I play it as if it were a singleplayer one and avoid interaction with other players as much as possible.
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Nice comparison! I've been level one for 27 years.
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