Therapists keep telling me I'm normal and there's nothing wrong with me...

But how can I believe that?
I've been made fun of all my life. I got bullied at school. As grown up I've just been ignored. Some have made fun of me too. I have many times questioned my existence and if I really belong here. I have never been together with a girl. No girl has shown interest, and if I've tried, I just get rejected. I have not any close friends, and feel so lonely. The only people I talk to are my therapists, and my mom.
My therapists keeps on telling me that my thoughs are not true, I look normal and shouldnt feel like this. But as soon as I'm out of the office and met other people I feel like this crazy person who don't belong here. If I smile to someone they will look at me like I'm crazy. If I talk to someone, they will just seem angry or not respond at all. There is clearly a patern here, which proves that it's me.
I keep thinking that I can't really trust my therapists, because it's just their job. Their job is to get my confidence up, so they can get rid of me. They don't want anything to do with me after that. I know that a therapist and patient should not have a relationship. But I can't stop thinking it's me that it's something wrong with.

xnn said:

But how can I believe that?
I've been made fun of all my life. I got bullied at school. As grown up I've just been ignored. Some have made fun of me too. I have many times questioned my existence and if I really belong here. I have never been together with a girl. No girl has shown interest, and if I've tried, I just get rejected. I have not any close friends, and feel so lonely. The only people I talk to are my therapists, and my mom.
My therapists keeps on telling me that my thoughs are not true, I look normal and shouldnt feel like this. But as soon as I'm out of the office and met other people I feel like this crazy person who don't belong here. If I smile to someone they will look at me like I'm crazy. If I talk to someone, they will just seem angry or not respond at all. There is clearly a patern here, which proves that it's me.
I keep thinking that I can't really trust my therapists, because it's just their job. Their job is to get my confidence up, so they can get rid of me. They don't want anything to do with me after that. I know that a therapist and patient should not have a relationship. But I can't stop thinking it's me that it's something wrong with.

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That can't be all she says? If so, that's not very helpful. You have 45-60 minute sessions, what else does she say to you? Are you not looking at where these thoughts come from and trying to find proof against them? If you feel like you can't trust your therapist and you don't feel like she's helping you, maybe you should be looking for someone else?
I've been to several therapists that didn't help me at all, some which even made the problem worse, but in the end I found someone who actually knew what they were doing and understood my issues and I finally made some progress.

My experiences have been so completely opposite. Mental health professionals diagnose me with conditions much worse than what I would think I actually have. I have also been tricked into taking inappropriate medication as a result of this.

I've been to one therapy session in my life and after one hour of spilling my deepest, darkest s*** the dude told me that I was fine and basically there was no need for me to come back.
His only advice was to get some friends, ummm hello, that was one of the reasons I was there!
One month later he closed up shop.

S_Spartan said:

I've been to one therapy session in my life and after one hour of spilling my deepest, darkest s*** the dude told me that I was fine and basically there was no need for me to come back.
His only advice was to get some friends, ummm hello, that was one of the reasons I was there!
One month later he closed up shop.

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Wow! It's like we live on different planets. I was diagnosed as schizophrenic and tricked into taking a neuroleptic without being told the nature of the drug I was taking. It was a nightmare, because I wasn't even psychotic much less schizophrenic. This was a long time ago, back in the early 1980s.

Earthcircle said:

My experiences have been so completely opposite. Mental health professionals diagnose me with conditions much worse than what I would think I actually have. I have also been tricked into taking inappropriate medication as a result of this.

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That happened to me too :/

Hellhound said:

That happened to me too :/

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It kind of makes one want to stay away from the mental health professions. I don't even feel completely safe seeing a psychotherapist, because it was a therapist who initially lied to a psychiatrist about my symptoms and shoe-horned me into that in the first place.

this is why I think that some therapists can be useless. it seems they don't really help a person address a problem, they just tell them they are fine and there isn't a problem. whats the definition of insanity? doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. yet this is what they expect their clients to do, just carry on what you are doing before and don't change, just don't worry about it.
its a very polite way to try and give help, but its not always very helpful.

to draw an analogy, if someone says "does this dress make me look fat" it does, but you say "no you look fine" then the lady walks around all day in something that doesn't look flattering at all. how does this help her apart from give her hope that she doesn't need to worry? its debatable whether that is even helpful, it certainly doesn't help her improve. she will have false illusions about herself. when perhaps another dress would suit her much better. in other words there is a better option out there for her, a way to solve this particular problem, but instead of using that option, people use the polite lie option.

I see the same thing with therapists when people go and see them and recount their experiences, nothing is really worked on to help improve them, telling a person they are fine doesn't help. you can even say they are kind of taking the piss out of you when they lie to your face and ask you to carry on, its like making a person seem like an idiot, and its being kind of cowardly.

Anxiety, poor social skills, introversion, shyness, awkwardness, isolation, sadness, loneliness, etc. don't necessarily constitute a mental disorder.

You can have all of those things and still be normal in the scientific sense. You can have all of those things and still have nothing "wrong" with you in the mental disorder department.

What is normal?

Nor can it mean "free of discomfort," as if "normal" were the equivalent of oblivious and you were somehow "abnormal" when you were sentient, human, and real. This, however, is exactly the game played by the mental health industry: it makes this precise, illegitimate switch. It announces that when you feel a certain level of discomfort you are abnormal and you have a disorder. It equates abnormal with unwanted, turning "I don't want to feel sad" into "I have the mental disorder of depression."

Sounds like you went in hoping to be diagnosed as a crazy person and were disappointed when told otherwise. Which is to be expected, people who aren't happy with themselves would find comfort in being told that their sadness originates from a concrete and treatable disorder, that would give hope of finding a cure and reaching a state of happiness.

That's not to say that you can't benefit from therapy, but you have to go in with different expectations. You can still get advice on leading a happier and healthier everyday life.

Lots of people online like to self-diagnose themselves with a plethora of diseases when they are in fact quite simply imperfect human beings in a tough spot.

xnn said:

But how can I believe that?
I've been made fun of all my life. I got bullied at school. As grown up I've just been ignored. Some have made fun of me too. I have many times questioned my existence and if I really belong here. I have never been together with a girl. No girl has shown interest, and if I've tried, I just get rejected. I have not any close friends, and feel so lonely. The only people I talk to are my therapists, and my mom.
My therapists keeps on telling me that my thoughs are not true, I look normal and shouldnt feel like this. But as soon as I'm out of the office and met other people I feel like this crazy person who don't belong here. If I smile to someone they will look at me like I'm crazy. If I talk to someone, they will just seem angry or not respond at all. There is clearly a patern here, which proves that it's me.
I keep thinking that I can't really trust my therapists, because it's just their job. Their job is to get my confidence up, so they can get rid of me. They don't want anything to do with me after that. I know that a therapist and patient should not have a relationship. But I can't stop thinking it's me that it's something wrong with.

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This is how I feel when I discuss my problems with my therapist. They often tell me that I look like I have it together, like nothing is wrong with me from an external perspective, and that nothing shows. Apparently I communicate well in my psychiatrists office and present myself with confidence, but when I'm outside of the office, in society, at work, at school, and at home, I do not feel as confident and strong minded. I feel weak, inferior, scared, and angry. If they could only see that side of me, they would know that something more is going on that they are not aware of. But as long as I go to my appointments, and hold a conversation with them for a half hour, all is good. -_-

Therapists say that because they have never experienced think you did, ever.
As for the things inside of you, that make you a different person....I think the only way to change is to initiate that change and realize that most of the things we are afraid or anxious about, are in fact not a big deal.
If you smile at somebody and he looks at you like at a crazy person then there is something wrong with THAT person not You because.....hell, if smiling is perceived as being crazy then I don't know where is this world going.

"Wrong", "different", and "deserving" are all different things here. People don't necessarily pick on someone because they deserve it or because they're hideous, but because they look like a target or just plain seem threatening in some way (such as being the smartest kid in the class).

I've talked to people online through Skype calls and been told there's nothing wrong with the way I talk, so I have no idea why online friends I meet in the flesh avoid me other than perhaps my appearance.