De-shying exercises. How ?

[Quinzio]

Hello,
forgive my bad english again.

I was looking for you people to post exercise to de-shy.

For example, I read on another shyness board, you could exit your home with different shoes, e.g. a black shoe and a grey shoe, than you make your grocery or walk in the street. Of course you don't want to meet anyone you know.

This exercise should force you in a situiation of shame and gradually become acquainted to it.

I was looking for other exercise like that. Nothing excessive or that can put you in danger or annoy other people, but all the rest is allowed.

Or for example, buy an iceream, then drop it on the floor then asking the man to give you another icecream for free, complaining the icecream did fall because it was already melt. But, you could lose the money,

What do you suggest ?

 

[thugaveli]

I think running naked through the street would be a great start

Sod it lets get straight to the tough stuff

I suppose you could walk around with an arrow on your head

I wouldn't do any of this without i had a blood transfusion with peach juice

 

[Quinzio]

Anything better ?

 

[black_mamba]

Or for example, buy an iceream, then drop it on the floor then asking the man to give you another icecream for free, complaining the icecream did fall because it was already melt. But, you could lose the money,

Thats a good idea actually. Hmm let me think;

-for women, leaving the house without make up (because some of us hide behind it).

-I dyed my hair green once and it attracted both positive and negative attention, so maybe its worth a shot - just a lock of hair though if you're too shy. :wink:

-go to a chemists and ask out loud for condoms. :lol:

-knock on a stranger's door and say you're doing a survery about social phobia. 8O

Ok I'll stop before I get silly.

 

[thugaveli]

haha

you could pull down your pants and say

''oi oi....have you ever seen owt like this before''

ca-ching!

1 million ways to humilliate yourself........

Just excuse me im feeling a bit hyper and in a funny mood sorry

 

[redlady]

Go to a shop and pay for your items with lots of small change - stand there at the checkout and count it all out. I have actually done this with $6.00 worth of small change - it was either that or starve - i was desperate.
Wear your slippers or pajama top or bottom into a shop.
While you are standing in a queue at a bank or something hum or sing to yourself - Or even do a little shuffle dance.
Greet everyone that walks past you in some way; Hello there - Lovely weather were experiencing today isn't it - Hi how are you - How has your day been treating you, etc......
Or if your'e really game you could actually stop them and shake their hand and introduce yourself.
Wear a funny hat.
Skip down the street.
Mmmm okay that's enough.

 

[redlady]

Okay one last one - go to a shop ( i know i know enough already with the shops ) and after all of your items have been tallied and the cashier is expecting to be paid, tell them you have forgotten your wallet so you can't pay them. Oh me oh my.

 

[black_mamba]

Aha yeah sex shops are a good one, I'd say they're an advanced level de-shying exercise because I don't normally blush and...well I do in those shops.

Go in, have a browse, leave. Fin.

 

[thugaveli]

oh that reminds me, i dared a mate to buy a porno from the local newsagent and he said he would if i went with him, so i did and i just didn't know where to put my face he was the 1 buyin it! not me and i just walked out the shop like a traffic cone it was hilarious when i think back though

 

[Carina33]

Ha, I was just reading a book about SAD and it had a whole section on stuff like this. There was a list.... I can go get it and put some of the better ones in here. Hold on.

Ok, trip in front of people.

Order something not on a menu.

Greet someone with the wrong name.

Ask for directions for a store you are in or are very close to.

Take more clothes than allowed when trying them on.

Walk arond with your fly open.

Ask an obvious customer in the store for the location of something.

Arrive purposefully late for an appointment.

Almost accidentally enter the bathroom for the opposite sex.

And I am tired of writing these....but they are in the book PainfullyShy by Barbara Markway. Ha.

 

[black_mamba]

Ok, trip in front of people.

Order something not on a menu.

Greet someone with the wrong name.

Ask for directions for a store you are in or are very close to.

Take more clothes than allowed when trying them on.

Walk arond with your fly open.

Ask an obvious customer in the store for the location of something.

Arrive purposefully late for an appointment.

Almost accidentally enter the bathroom for the opposite sex.

I think I did all of those today! Apart from walk around with my fly undone. 8O Woohoo I am now officially de-shyed. :lol:

 

[thugaveli]

Well ive just done something out the blue in relation to this topic

I went to get my first tattoo done today and god i dont know where i got the balls to do it, it was crazy!

I decided i needed to do something crazy and maybe it would help my SA so tattoo it was, the guy seemed nice enough so i thought why not?

About 5 mins into the whole process i started to feel really dizzy, it wasnt painfull it was just the thought of having the needle in me, then i had this burst of sweat that come from knowhere! i was wet through and felt really hot, the guy said its normal for some patients so i took it quite well
Had a cup of water then my vision went......oh noooooo it was crazy! i couldnt see a thing, then my whole body just shut down i dont know how i didnt pass out, i couldn't hear, couldn't see, couldnt breath my body went stiff and the guy said my arm was freezing

Anyway after another cup of water i seemed to come round and everything went fine but that has got to be the worst experience in panic attacks ever
I was just glad the symptoms vanished because i had another 45 mins to go!

Its absolutly drained me

Oh well, at least i dont have to experience this 48 hours a week (work)
Ive got to go back in a weeks time to get it finnished but i think i will be ok, ive got nothing to fear because i know whats going to be happening

 

[black_mamba]

About 5 mins into the whole process i started to feel really dizzy, it wasnt painfull it was just the thought of having the needle in me, then i had this burst of sweat that come from knowhere! i was wet through and felt really hot, the guy said its normal for some patients so i took it quite well
Had a cup of water then my vision went......oh noooooo it was crazy! i couldnt see a thing, then my whole body just shut down i dont know how i didnt pass out, i couldn't hear, couldn't see, couldnt breath my body went stiff and the guy said my arm was freezing

Was that a panic induced problem or was it down to the thought of the needle? I dunno but that is exactly what happened to me after I got pierced the first time, then when I had to have several blood samples in a row. None of these events were very painful but I kept going over the thought of the needle in me over and over in my head until I almost passed out. :lol:

Cool cool, we're gonna have photo of said tattoo yes? :wink:

 

[thugaveli]

I think i panicked because both the needle and people coming in and out of the tattoo parlour
I just hate people fidling with my body i feel like im going to die, same with the dentist

Oh id rather have a tattoo than a blood test lol

I had 2 lots taken at the hospital and that was enough for me i walked out blinded

I wish i wasn't like this i feel like a right girl! no offense girls you know what i mean lol

Its not the pain, its the thought of the procedure i wish i thought different

Yea i'll post a pic of the end product, thats if i dont pass out lol

 

[thugaveli]

Ta-Daaaaaa!!!

Ouch

 

[redlady]

Whooooow - that is fantastic. You look so wonderfully cool and intimidating-in a good way of course man. I think i would be a little 'starstruck' - for want of a better word - if i saw you and i would just have to stare - in a sneaky way, so you wouldn't really notice. It would be a stare of admiration just to clarify.

 

[black_mamba]

Wow really really nice! And original too. :wink:

Enjoy it, and the attention it brings.