have you noticed?

[alejandro84]

Have you ever noticed that the shy and quiet ones like ourselves tend to make friends with the more outgoing and talkative ones and the ones like ourselves you never get to speak to because they got the same problem as you? I have noticed with people at work the people i dont ever speak to have been described as quiet.

 

[lurknomore]

I've definitely noticed that people that are the exact opposite of me are the only ones that ever take the time to approach and/or talk to me. I'm not sure that they're the ones I would be most comfortable around- some put me at ease with their outgoing openness, while others intimidate, yet fascinate me. I think I need to be just a little more outgoing/assertive myself, or any relationships I form might not be healthy.

 

[Felgen]

Same here. Almost all of my friends are extroverted people. Even when I approach shy, introverted people myself, I have a hard time making friends with them.

 

[kihira]

I think the introvert/extrovert pair-up 'works' because the extrovert hates being alone and always has someone who listens to them, the introvert has someone who takes them places and does all the talking - that's sort of how I remember it anyway...

 

[alejandro84]

it would be really nice to know more people with the same characteristics as myself but its immensely difficult especially when you cant think of anything to say to them and they cant do the same with you so there is a wall of silence.

 

[fitftw]

I think the introvert/extrovert pair-up 'works' because the extrovert hates being alone and always has someone who listens to them, the introvert has someone who takes them places and does all the talking - that's sort of how I remember it anyway...

THIS. *thumbs up*

 

[freestylemonster]

One of my friends is really outgoing and funny and has tons of friends. So I don't have to talk a lot when we hang out because he does all the talking

My other friend is just as shy as me and it's awesome hanging out with him because we're not shy around each other

 

[ありがとう]

Hmm weird, I think I have more introvert friends than extroverts... Although I do see your point, extroverts always make the first move when it comes to making friends.

 

[Phoenixx]

I know exactly what you mean. Most of my friends are extroverts as well. I love them, but sometimes I just feel exhausted hanging around them all the time. That's why I usually balance the time I spend with them and the time I spend by myself. Don't mean to sound rude saying that :/

 

[Feathers]

This happened to me in primary and secondary school, then I worked on personal growth, read some books etc, went to drama courses, at the University I got friends who were even more shy than me (or so they said), they didn't look shy to me lol, or we were sort of similar, artsy/creative and interested in similar things, or there was a 'happy medium'... (some give and take, both people talking..)

I actually get along better with people who aren't too extroverted... or can be both introverted/extroverted, like me... And need some peacful time too, yup...

You can learn how to make friends The idea is to smile and be friendly, say hi, comment on any things you like, find people with common interests (eg eco or whatever else you are interested in) and start talking a bit, and things may happen even without trying... There are tips for making friends online and in books... It's easier when you make friends with one person, cause then you can make friends through them too... Hey, maybe you can start an 'eco team' at work, and see who signs up? (if you don't have that already?) Or help a non-profit? Good people can be drawn to humanitarian or artsy/crafty pursuits too... And it can give you an 'excuse' to talk to people, if you go around collecting volunteers or contributions or such?

 

[Sial Axetder]

yes, I have noticed.

 

[Why]

im the opposite, almost all my friends/acquantices are on the intro/shy side because i get along better with them ( in fact i tend to approach these type for freindship)

its hard for me to "connect" with the extro/outgoing type because of the differing personalities and i think they get turned off by my quiet side


though, i wish i was friends with extroverts, hopefully i would be able to learn stuff from them and meet more people