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[Dragonfly]

Hi everyone, im new here. Just nice to know there are other people who suffer from SP. I have just been signed off work for 2 weeks, because I can't cope with it anymore, life is just so difficult and frustrating, why can't i just do simple things why do we have to feel so much fear in just living, does anyone else feel like this? the annoying thing is im not depressed i want to live life to the full but my emotions won't see to let me.

 

[despise]

well its good your not depressed. thats an advantage for you. as long as you have the will to live your life to the fullest you are always capable of doing so. as hard as it may sound just keep trying. get help from doctors, or if you dont want to talk to anyone try teaching yourself to think in a more poitive manner?

 

[Dragonfly]

I am thinking of purchasing the Dr Richards CBT material, anyone tried this, and is it worth doing?

 

[despise]

Thats a good idea. i'm thinking of trying CBT aswell...though i think id prefer medication..but thats because im lazy and can't complete things. :roll:

 

[Dragonfly]

Ha ha, yeah know what you mean, I am on medication at the moment, although Im going through the horrible getting into the system stage which tends to make things worse before they get better, so feeling pretty shit at the moment. I think I am going to try the CBT anything is worth ago its pretty expensive though, thats the only thing thats putting me off.

 

[despise]

oh really? that sucks... i dont know what im going to do. ah! why is everything so expensive?!! everything is happening so fast.. 8O my family only now understands me..and im seeing two different councellors and ill be seeing a phsycologist soon probably... 8O 8O 8O so stressed!

 

[Dragonfly]

Does the counselling really help? I read on a website that only a therapist who specialises in SA can really help you. I feel like my boss understands me more than my family. My dad has suffered all his life he is now nearly 60 and has just been on meds all his life, it finally caused him and my mum to divorce he now lives alone has given up his job and basically is a hermit, I am definitely not going to let SA do that to me, so I guess in a way it must be kind of hereditary. Anyway I think seeing what it has done to my dads life has made me more determined to find a solution to this dreaded emotional state.

 

[despise]

well...im not sure about the counselling yet...im seeing one from my school for the first time on monday, and i'm filling out a survey i got from a different schools counsellor...lol. im all over the place. so hopfully they will help me find someone i can go and see on a regular basis. i just hate how it's all going to cost so much...

 

[Dragonfly]

Do you have friends at school that are supportive for you and is your family supportive, it makes it so much easier if you have support. At least your getting help at a young age, so you can conquer it and enjoy the rest of your life.

 

[despise]

yeah i have friends at school... but i can't talk to them about this. one of my friends who's in tafe is good to talk to, she's very supportive. and my brother is very good too. the rest of my family acts funny around me now. like my sister is probably the worst. she mentions my social phobia every chance she gets to rub it in..and she doesnt realise how much it gets to me.
im glad they all know now...but i dont like how they talk to me like im going to snap any second. and they pay more attention to me too not something i wanted...

 

[Dragonfly]

Yeah thats definitely the last thing you want more attention, is your sister younger, maybe shes too young to understand if not, speak to her on her own and try to make her understand how much it upsets you. If not just try and ignore her. Its very hard for people to understand how the feelings are so intense, usually if people haven't sufferend themselves they just don't understand, so its not really worth trying to make them. At least your not on your own in this.

 

[despise]

she is older then me, by 7 years. i think she may actually be a bit jealous! :? she was very shy when she was my age and everything. she complains to me that she went through the exact same problem and that i'll "get over it". but when i told her that i had a panic attack buying something, she looked at me like i was insane and she just could'nt understand.

 

[Dragonfly]

She probably does understand but is embarrassed due to her going through it and never facing up to it, she probably still has problems with it. and like you say jealous that you are getting help now.