ShyBeliever
Well-known member
Hi everybody. I just want to tell you that today I felt very confident and happy. I spent all day in my grandmother´s house but in there, were many of my uncles, aunts and cousins. Of course it was family I habitually suffer some kind of social anxiety even with my own family. However everything became different or at least I felt that. When I woke up in the morning I decided to behave in a very specific way. First, when I got out of home I tried hard to correct my body posture by fixing it in a way as if it was the most confident guy (straight head, relaxed shoulders, chest out and especially the constant use of varied facial expressions). I just tried to pretend that I was a normal and relaxed guy without any social problems and that is ready to face all fears and confrontations. At some point my mood changed positively. But when we try this, we soon become aware of our fears and suddently we usually get tired of pretending until we finally quit and let our anxieties taking control of us again. But today I could forgot my fears because I tried hard to focus only in my goals and reasons of that particular moment by making questions to myself like "why am i here?", "what is my goal", "how sould I behave and act to achieve that goal?" (see nick´s post called "3 key steps to social confidence" to know what I´m talking about). These method of thinking enabled me to reserve fewer and fewer "brain space" to think about fears like blanking out, not knowing how to behave and the pessimistic "What if" questions.
So, as a conclusion, we may say that I used a mixture of good body posture and "acting" based on a confident model with the new way of thinking based on nick´s post. The results were very satisfactory at least for today.
Please excuse me if I wasn´t clear but I think it´s always difficult to talk about these things in a clear way. I did my best. If you don´t understand please consult the nick post which I mentioned. Thanks for reading and have a good time.
So, as a conclusion, we may say that I used a mixture of good body posture and "acting" based on a confident model with the new way of thinking based on nick´s post. The results were very satisfactory at least for today.
Please excuse me if I wasn´t clear but I think it´s always difficult to talk about these things in a clear way. I did my best. If you don´t understand please consult the nick post which I mentioned. Thanks for reading and have a good time.