Vincent
Banned
I look around and see all these people moving around, functioning, and SOCIALISING oblivious to my existance, which makes no sense, because reality is only from my perspective, if my perspective ends, then so does reality. Anyway, my point is that this is intensely depressing to appreciate this.
When you are happy, the real kind of happiness that only socialising can bring: belonging, friendship, love etc. That feeling disipates or doesn't even enter your thoughts when you are with others in a meaningful way,...right? I think I recall it being that way. If so, then we notice it because we are alone and on the search for things to confirm our misery, also because we have free thinking to note these things and think on them.
But, if Im with friends or people that I don't really respect or like, then I find myself still with the same issue. Does anyone find that they compromise what they want in people or friendships? Just taking what you can get, rather than what you want? But, what if a) you don't know what you want, because you arent used to asking that and because you aren't sure who you are, because I believe you really arent yourself until you are happy, so that way you don't know what you would have in common if you were yourself.
It seems shallow to think like this, but is it? Do we not have the right to be discriminating in what we want out of people? Surely, being socially anxious, makes us the bottom of any social hierarchy, but sometimes I don't feel that way, I don't respect people that are more popular than me, perhaps it's not for good reasons, perhaps because I am negative and to me, most people that aren't negative are shallow, superficial and stupid.
I'm just garbling, but does anyone know what Im getting at? There are several points here, I'd be interested in anyone's take on any of these.
V
When you are happy, the real kind of happiness that only socialising can bring: belonging, friendship, love etc. That feeling disipates or doesn't even enter your thoughts when you are with others in a meaningful way,...right? I think I recall it being that way. If so, then we notice it because we are alone and on the search for things to confirm our misery, also because we have free thinking to note these things and think on them.
But, if Im with friends or people that I don't really respect or like, then I find myself still with the same issue. Does anyone find that they compromise what they want in people or friendships? Just taking what you can get, rather than what you want? But, what if a) you don't know what you want, because you arent used to asking that and because you aren't sure who you are, because I believe you really arent yourself until you are happy, so that way you don't know what you would have in common if you were yourself.
It seems shallow to think like this, but is it? Do we not have the right to be discriminating in what we want out of people? Surely, being socially anxious, makes us the bottom of any social hierarchy, but sometimes I don't feel that way, I don't respect people that are more popular than me, perhaps it's not for good reasons, perhaps because I am negative and to me, most people that aren't negative are shallow, superficial and stupid.
I'm just garbling, but does anyone know what Im getting at? There are several points here, I'd be interested in anyone's take on any of these.
V