Anonymous
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Has anyone else with SA experienced the problem that when they are with other non-SA people, your own nervous behaviour actually rubs off on other people and makes them behave anxiously too, but only in your company?
This has been possibly the most soul-destroying aspect of my SA. Not only do I feel like crap most of the time when I'm with other people, but about 75% of the people I meet I actually make them feel like crap too. the result is that they avoid being near me. There's no chance of forming relationships with people when all you do is make them uncomfortable and nervous in your company. It's bad enough being quiet and anxious but this is real bad and compounds the problem.
I've never seen anyone else with SA mention that they have this problem, which made me feel all the more isolated and hopeless, like my SA is uniquely bad and there's no hope of a cure.
However, I was reading a book about SA today and there was a single paragraph which mentioned that this can sometimes happen. It came as a relief to know that it is recognised by medical professionals that this problem can occur and that they don't just try to dismiss the issue as an SA victim's overly-negative thinking resulting in them imagining that they have this undesirable effect on other people.
But I'd still like to hear of other people's experiences. Has anyone else here suffered with this particular problem?
This has been possibly the most soul-destroying aspect of my SA. Not only do I feel like crap most of the time when I'm with other people, but about 75% of the people I meet I actually make them feel like crap too. the result is that they avoid being near me. There's no chance of forming relationships with people when all you do is make them uncomfortable and nervous in your company. It's bad enough being quiet and anxious but this is real bad and compounds the problem.
I've never seen anyone else with SA mention that they have this problem, which made me feel all the more isolated and hopeless, like my SA is uniquely bad and there's no hope of a cure.
However, I was reading a book about SA today and there was a single paragraph which mentioned that this can sometimes happen. It came as a relief to know that it is recognised by medical professionals that this problem can occur and that they don't just try to dismiss the issue as an SA victim's overly-negative thinking resulting in them imagining that they have this undesirable effect on other people.
But I'd still like to hear of other people's experiences. Has anyone else here suffered with this particular problem?