Tips for Social Integration (or how a few Personal tricks can get you what you want)

Luckylife

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News Networks vs your friends
How many of you are always knee deep in current affairs but find Social Networks a drag? Firstly, if you ever ask a serving AFP what is 'actually' happening in some far flung war zone they will always say the news reports give such a way out reportage of events, that the reality is totally beyond their description. So why bother watching the News? Continual negative imagery is bad for health; therefore being completely up to date on daily events, local or worldwide makes for an unhealthy individual. Turn off the TV, don't listen to the Radio - allocate more time for your personal and online friends, watch your own films and listen to your music. You will quickly find your day is busy enough without the CNN parasite. The TV is like a baby, always telling you your clothes are out of date, your car is old, your house is in the wrong area - but it never grows up and accepts you. We aren't meant to care for an eternal baby.

Spread a little happiness
The next time you see a down and out sat by the sidewalk, don't turn up your nose. Dig into your pocket and give him that 50¢... You have a choice, either try and make the holiday rep, car salesman or estate agent happy to the cost of tens thousands or that guy who will tell you what a wonderful person you are for money you stopped counting as worthy. Its like this, that drifter is finished with no money but he is trying to create a culture without it and to some degree he will be successful. Eventually he will suffer a gruesome fate but there is no stronger grip than that of a dying man, and this is the worst possible environment for you to be a part of. Because if it is happening to them it is happening to you. What he can do with that 50¢ will go toward food for the day, a roof over his head or the next Train out of here. Even if he is foolish enough to think he is going places on the sidewalk it will keep him safe so that he can finally realise that life on the street is a slow death. Where will 50¢ get you with the former recipients? You'll be shown the door with an insult or two for sure. There is a modern day phenomenon of the super-rich but I argue there is also another one, that being of the super-poor and its just possible the two are connected. We have to keep each of them happy but at what cost? Well right now the best bang for your bucks are the super-poor.

Stop the Porn
Porn is easy, porn is fun, porn is isolation. Someone used to self-gratification is someone with a distorted view of relationships. It is a person who considers a possible partner a much tougher task than being alone. It is someone who chooses a physical orgy instead of communication because the one thing you don't have to do with Porn is talk. And there you have it, you see an attractive individual, you think of passion but you don't think that talking is the gateway to their friendship. In part because Porn teaches us that sex is instant and is your god given right, but to ask for a cigarette from a beautiful person is hopelessly beyond your capability.

Cut the Hamburgers say no to Drugs
Youth is beauty, full of creation and physical prowess. Old age is wrinkles, days of inactivity and old age is fat. Youth has got it right, they were born that way. Modern life has its answer for the disenfranchised - the quarter-pounder and a line of cocaine. If you really feel less than happy with your body then this is what you do. Look at your weekly diet and if you want to lose 2lb per week you have got to eat 2lb less per week. Don't calorie count but go for the high density foods - thats Meat, vegetables and fruit. If you were going to have Sausage, beans and potato tonight that probably means 1/4lb of Sausage, 1/4lb of potato and 1lb of beans. Cut it back - make that 100g of sausage, 150g of potato and 200g of beans. Likewise for the desert. Don't drink litres of water each day either - a pint of milk, water when you are thirsty and cut back on the tea and coffee. Pizza tomorrow? make that 1/2 a pizza and keep the other half in the freezer for next week. When we eat it takes energy to digest the meal, the bigger the meal the less we can do for longer afterward. The heavier we are the more uncomfortable it is to do tasks. Reduce your dietry intake and you will have... more energy! Exercise comes next but this is futile if you haven't sorted out the basics of diet.
Your average American spends more per anum on Columbian white than he does at Starbucks. The pleasure from Drugs is an illusion, it makes the person tolerate their surroundings, whereas someone who doesn't indulge in recreational drugs changes their environment to make themselves content. Drugs are offered to us when we are doing OK and going places but say yes and before too long you've stopped thinking about what you'll wear tonite or buy today but when you are getting to the club what the gear will do for you tonite. Its a sad trap that has caught out many people.

I hope you find this useful and easy to implement. Yes, it took hours to write friends.
 

Luckylife

Well-known member
This isn't work biased and no where does it describe working practice. This is about creating a void of information that can and will be filled by new friends when you attend social events. It is about making a safer local environment for yourself and accepting that some changes have to be made because we are not perfect. It is about switching off a media that claims you are insignificant and proving that you matter. Jaim38 you are not adding to this thread with that link.
 

Kiwong

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Some interesting points

Asking for a cigarette from a beautiful stranger? I don't smoke, it is more dangerous to health than consuming porn. I wouldn't really want to talk to someone who smokes, other than to tell them to give it away. I see porn as an extenstion of my low self esteem, a bit like fast food than makes me feel bloated and sick after viewing it.

50c for some homeless people goes towards buying the next bottle of alcohol at the bottle shop, unfortunately true. I prefer to give to mental health charities, and breast cancer research, save the children.

I am 50 years old and run marathons. Being old isn't all bad. I could certainly improve my diet, but I am pretty healthy and am comfortable with how my body is for 50 plus. I don't take drugs, not even the anti-depressants a few GPs have wanted to put me on.

I watch the news to learn, to be empowered and involved with the issues going on in the world. I don't watch much TV, I think the internet is the new one eyed god, I think I should use less time on it.
 
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