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Old 04-22-2009
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I have been told that I'm too slow at work today. Because I'm still new it's not a problem yet, but I knew this was going to happen. I'm very depressed and I'm awake half the night (I have insomnia). How do I deal with this? I know I can't work fast and this is not going to change. What if I'm fired at every job I find. Am I doomed for life?
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Old 04-22-2009
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What do you do for work?
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Old 04-22-2009
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It's an administrative/clerical job. Half the time (or more) I'm just staring at my computer and can't get anything done. I don't care what type of job I have, as long as I can do it without getting fired.
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Old 04-22-2009
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Is it office work that you do, or physical labor?

I don't think they can fire you for being slow if you're new. Maybe you can ask a coworker for some tips for getting better productivity? It sounds like lack of sleep and motivation is what has you. The only thing you can do is try. There's a big difference between someone who is slow but putting in effort, and someone who is slow and just doesn't give a shit (the latter being me at times )
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Old 04-22-2009
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I was the same way, I would be so caught up in my head about things that I didn't want to work or I couldn't work well. What I try to do is seperate work from the other things going on in my life. Maybe instead of focusing on the other problems in your life try just focusing on the work and maybe that will make you feel better? It's hard man I know.
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Is it office work that you do, or physical labor?

I don't think they can fire you for being slow if you're new. Maybe you can ask a coworker for some tips for getting better productivity? It sounds like lack of sleep and motivation is what has you. The only thing you can do is try. There's a big difference between someone who is slow but putting in effort, and someone who is slow and just doesn't give a shit (the latter being me at times )
Office work (I already mentioned that it's a clerical job). Lack of sleep and depression and anxiety are not going away, they have been part of my life for years. Putting in effort is meaningless when you're too slow. Oh well, I knew this was going to happen anyway.
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Slow and steady wins the race.

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Old 04-22-2009
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i have a hard time being slow with work, too. mentally challenged slow...

often times i make lots of petty mistakes that are little but obvious. like if i take a message i might forget to ask where they are calling from. stupid things that are obvious and make people mad. sometimes they have to show me how to do something a few times over before i retain how to do it properly. it's all part of being new but eventually you are not new anymore and if these mistakes keep up they let you go. that's what happened when i was serving tables. it was too much too fast and overwhelming.
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Old 04-22-2009
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exactly dottie.
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Old 04-22-2009
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I can be like that I like working at my own pace and working things out for myself. I can work very fast under pressure sometimes but depends what it is. Often a task I might normally find easy or routine I find difficult, stressful, or confusing if im bieng pressured, and that also means slow.

Best advice I ever recieved

"Its not your job to stress, thats the bosses job"

Do what you can do, as long as its your best thats all you can do.
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Thanks for that Sabbath, very interesting.. But I don't think employers will agree to this philosophy.
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Old 04-22-2009
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I can be like that I like working at my own pace and working things out for myself. I can work very fast under pressure sometimes but depends what it is. Often a task I might normally find easy or routine I find difficult, stressful, or confusing if im bieng pressured, and that also means slow.

Best advice I ever recieved

"Its not your job to stress, thats the bosses job"

Do what you can do, as long as its your best thats all you can do.
I think this advice is only helpful, if your boss is satisfied with your performance.
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I have been told that I'm too slow at work today. Because I'm still new it's not a problem yet, but I knew this was going to happen. I'm very depressed and I'm awake half the night (I have insomnia). How do I deal with this? I know I can't work fast and this is not going to change. What if I'm fired at every job I find. Am I doomed for life?

No. Hopefully my story will reassure you. I guess you're still quite young? When I first left school I changed my job several times. (There were plenty of low paid jobs back then!) I found work extremely difficult to cope with and I was well aware I was slow and took longer to learn stuff than other people. Socially phobic people usually have very high levels of anxiety and it's actually the anxiety that slows us down and stops us from remembering everything we'd like to.

Roll on *cough* years. I've been in the job I'm in now for 15+ years and I've always had pretty good work reports though I still get very anxious when I move to another section. I moved to a new section a year ago and I was more than a little shocked when I got an absolutely brilliant report from my boss. Not something I ever envisaged back when I had job after job after job and couldn't cope!

Confidence is just something that comes as you got older and each time you gain a little more confidence you lose a little more anxiety. You probably won't believe this now (I know I wouldn't have if someone had told me this back when I was 16/17) but just give it time.

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Write down everything you can (having notes helps you remember and makes you feel more confident knowing they're there to refer to).

If you deal with ppl on the phone, write down key things you have to remember to ask.

Don't be scared to ask colleagues for help (most people love being asked) especially if you're not sure on computers. On my last section, I worked with a lovely guy who got me through every single computer problem!

Think about telling your employers/boss that you suffer from anxiety/depression. If you don't feel up to telling your boss, tell a sympathetic colleague. (My boss knows I suffer from anxiety/depression and if my colleague is absent will ask if I need any help from other areas if there's a particularly heavy workload).

Hope this helps and good luck.
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it's funny because at the same job when i was given large amounts to file they were amazed at how fast i was. lol

people interaction = slow & painful
left alone to organize = lightening speed awesomeness
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No. Hopefully my story will reassure you. I guess you're still quite young? When I first left school I changed my job several times. (There were plenty of low paid jobs back then!) I found work extremely difficult to cope with and I was well aware I was slow and took longer to learn stuff than other people. Socially phobic people usually have very high levels of anxiety and it's actually the anxiety that slows us down and stops us from remembering everything we'd like to.

Roll on *cough* years. I've been in the job I'm in now for 15+ years and I've always had pretty good work reports though I still get very anxious when I move to another section. I moved to a new section a year ago and I was more than a little shocked when I got an absolutely brilliant report from my boss. Not something I ever envisaged back when I had job after job after job and couldn't cope!

Confidence is just something that comes as you got older and each time you gain a little more confidence you lose a little more anxiety. You probably won't believe this now (I know I wouldn't have if someone had told me this back when I was 16/17) but just give it time.

In the meantime:-

Write down everything you can (having notes helps you remember and makes you feel more confident knowing they're there to refer to).

If you deal with ppl on the phone, write down key things you have to remember to ask.

Don't be scared to ask colleagues for help (most people love being asked) especially if you're not sure on computers. On my last section, I worked with a lovely guy who got me through every single computer problem!

Think about telling your employers/boss that you suffer from anxiety/depression. If you don't feel up to telling your boss, tell a sympathetic colleague. (My boss knows I suffer from anxiety/depression and if my colleague is absent will ask if I need any help from other areas if there's a particularly heavy workload).

Hope this helps and good luck.
Thanks alter_ego.. I'm 32 by the way.. not so young so I'm not very hopeful that I can beat my anxiety any time soon.
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it's funny because at the same job when i was given large amounts to file they were amazed at how fast i was. lol

people interaction = slow & painful
left alone to organize = lightening speed awesomeness
if i were left alone in a room i would be fast too i think, but even if there is one person there i will be very slow.
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Have you been told that you are slow at work before? Have you gotten in trouble for it? I am sure that anxiety, insomnia, etc...impact your ability to learn at work. How did you do in school? Perhaps you have a learning disability?
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Have you been told that you are slow at work before? Have you gotten in trouble for it? I am sure that anxiety, insomnia, etc...impact your ability to learn at work. How did you do in school? Perhaps you have a learning disability?
I haven't worked for 7 years, only did voluntary work in 2007-2008 for about a year.. but that's different. But I remember being slower than others at every job I had in the past. At school I was ok, I had much more energy when I was younger.
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Thanks alter_ego.. I'm 32 by the way.. not so young so I'm not very hopeful that I can beat my anxiety any time soon.
Not quite as hopeless as you think. I was 34 when I started the job that I've got now.
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Not quite as hopeless as you think. I was 34 when I started the job that I've got now.
I think I know your age now: 34 + 15 = 49 Thank you, that gives me some hope...
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