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Old 08-11-2011  
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Would you consider yourself a person who can't relate to anyone else? Personally I don't follow sports, movies, tv, and so on. Most of my time is concerned with SA and being a hermit. If you didn't have SA would you be able to relate to people? If I could even face talking to someone I don't have any cool hobbies or interests to connect with. Have you ever though about learning something like a skill or a piece of media just so can have something to talk about with people?
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I have few true interests, and not one of them is something I've had in common with anyone, ever.

So I had to adapt when I decided to start talking more to people, so I just push the conversation towards them, ask them how they are, what's going on with their lives and so on. When I can't do that I usually turn to humor, as I'm kinda funny in a sarcastic/slightly annoying sort of way.

It's not a true solution, I still long for a true conversation with real interest coming from both parties, but at least now I can talk to people instead of just sitting quiet. And that's a huge improvement.

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Old 08-11-2011  
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I don't watch television nor do I follow sports, so I'm slightly socially handicapped given how much those topics are usually discussed. Having said that, there are plenty of ways that I can relate to people, at least theoretically. I have some hobbies and interests, as well as a deep reserve of random knowledge. :P

What keeps me from relating to others, mainly, is my deeply rooted inferiority complex. It's nearly impossible to connect with others when you feel below them to the point of being subhuman.

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Old 08-11-2011  
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I have troubling being able to understand people. Even those that share similar interests it seems my anxiety get in the way.

I am only ever lonely in company, never in solitude.

Every now and again I step outside of the prison inside my head and I see how beautiful this world really is.
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Old 08-11-2011  
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We can all relate through social anxiety; it's quite a grim conversation piece, but it gives us something to discuss, if only here. As for everything else, no, no one seems to share my hobbies!
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Old 08-11-2011  
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I can relate. I have many hobbies but i still feel cut off from the world. I feel embarassed whenever someone starts talking about some tv programme which everyone seems to be following and i don't know whta they are talking about.....It's as if that you are seen as weird for not doing the things other people do.

I don't know what it is but over the past few months i have lost interest in the things i used to enjoy like watching films and listening to music. Nothing gives me much pleasure now.

The aistrocrat-I can relate to the drinking thing, it seems that virtually everyone is into the partying/drinking scene so i feel pretty left out. I find thta alcohol actually make me more depressed and anxious.

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Old 08-12-2011  
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Yes, it's hard for me to relate to people, I have really different likes and dislikes and beliefs than most people. Being different makes social situations harder and makes the social anxiety worse. I don't want to say anything about myself so I can avoid embarrassment. Sometimes I think I can relate, though it's kind of fleeting because we'll like the same thing for radically different reasons or something like that.

I have thought about and tried getting into some things that I don't really like all that much just so I can try to socialize with people and have fun with them, but I gave up on that. It never worked, and I decided it just isn't worth it to me. I like listening to people, but I usually can't even gather the courage to ask questions.
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Old 08-12-2011  
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For the most part I can relate to other people (or at least fake it). But I do consider myself somewhat of an eccentric as I have many hobbies and interests that none of my friends (and few people in general) really share.

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I try then miss the ball horribly. No one gets me, I don't get them and find myself sometimes pretending to even if I think they are complete idiots or fake. I just want friends sometimes but other times, I just say, "To hell with this..."
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Old 08-12-2011  
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Definitely a problem. I have my own individualistic beliefs which is about as bad as worshiping Satan, I never know anything about movies or pop culture that people love to bond over... don't really have any real interests now let alone passions. I'm not one for juvenile humor, I care too much about strangers, and I lost my rose-colored glasses. And so on. None of this is suitable for sustaining conversation let alone interest.

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