university and anxiety

bamboo

bamboo

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hey does anyone out there have trouble going to their lectures in uni.
I personally can't stand staying in the lecture hall with everyone around me.

i can never give oral presentations so i avoided the subjsects that required giving presentations the first and second semester of uni.
I ended up doing only 1 subject for the whole year and for the rest of the time i was at home doing nothing( playing grand theft auto LOL).
after going in and out of the doctors for two years i still haven't recovered
and its suppsoed to be the second in year of uni for me and i have deferred .
I find it difficult to work with my anxiety so i'm just stuck at home praying
that some sort of medication will do the trick.

i hope to get back on my feet soon and finish my degree at uni but my future seems so bleek and hopeless.


has anyone gone through the same thing as me. please let me know coz
i feel i am the only one going through this ordeal.

thanx alot
 
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triceratops

Well-known member
nope im going though exactly the same things ive messed up this year because of my anxiety it sucks Ive avoided a lot of my lessons and presentations I feel like im trapped inside a small box i really wanna suceed at uni but sometimes i just can handle uni its so frustrating :(
 
Reholla

Reholla

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hey take a look at the post COLLEGE and anxiety! its pretty much the same thing

So to answer your question there are many people going thru the same thing! Definitely know what youre talking about. Lectures are hard. Hopefully your grades havent suffered like mine have :-/ Hang in there!
 
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sutiono

Active member
I am in no way have the right to say this, but try to relax a little bit. Try to concentrate more on the subject and not what people think of yourself. You remind me of the first few months when I first came to US and could hardly understand what the teachers were saying. To think about it now it seemed like hell. Dont worry though now I have no problem listening in class and if not for your post I wouldnt even remember me having that problem. It saddens me to see that there are people who live constantly under that condition.
 
frightened

frightened

Member
I can definitely relate to everything you've said especially the dropping out of any subjects that required oral presentations/group work.

this year I have a group work coming up and I think i'm going to fail it because you have to be in a group. it only counts 20% so hopefully i do well in the other 80% and pass the subject.

I'm thinking about going to the doctors to get some medication.
 
Toad

Toad

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frightened said:
this year I have a group work coming up and I think i'm going to fail it because you have to be in a group. it only counts 20% so hopefully i do well in the other 80% and pass the subject.
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Heh...for group work I always just end up doing it all myself...I doubt your group will complain much as long as you do it well...no one ever complains to me. I do this more because if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself....small group stuff normally doesn't bother me, because i know and am confortable with a few people in all my classes (i go to a small university so getting to know people is easier since you all are in the same classes and people normally try to get to know me so they can bug me when they need help on homework).

I'm not a fan of sitting through lectures either, but i find it easier if you are either in the very front or very back of the class in a corner so there are less people around you and you don't feel so trapped.
 
CatsMother

CatsMother

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I dropped out of my first year of uni last year, but went back again and redid it this year - term ends next week!

I don't find lectures a problem so much, unless i'm late or having a bad SA day. I do however find the tutorials (between 9 and 15 people) utter hell.

Thankfully i have been given a lot of help and allowances so far to help me through, with the most dramatic change being that the course organisers for all three of my subjects have been convinced to waive the requirement of tutorials. I am still going to most of them, but it feels so much beeter knowing that if i get really wound up about it then i won't be penalised for not showing up.

Hope you find a way through. Does your un have any department that deals with disability issues? If you do, get in touch with them, they might have some suggestions.

Good luck
 
Heartbeat

Heartbeat

Active member
Bamboo,

I recommend you take whatever action you can to help you stay at uni.

Force yourself to make an appointment to see your lecturers and tell them you suffer from an anxiety disorder which makes it difficult for you to participate in tutorials and lectures. You don't have to use the term social phobia if that's too embarrassing. Start with the most approachable one. If they know you've got a problem they can help - by taking the pressure off you in tutorials (not directly asking you questions) or giving you lecture notes, and finding ways for you to be more comfortable attending. Most people are pretty nice and if they're asked for help, they will respond.

Also use any univeristy counselling and health services available to you. Please get help now - little by little you can fight it and stay at uni, and work toward a good job. With some counselling support and help from your online friends you can manage the real social world. It's never easy but it is manageable.
 
ShiJai

ShiJai

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Heartbeat said:
Also use any univeristy counselling and health services available to you. Please get help now - little by little you can fight it and stay at uni, and work toward a good job. With some counselling support and help from your online friends you can manage the real social world. It's never easy but it is manageable.
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That's very good advice and worth following.
I had all the same problems at Uni, and dropped out and re-enrolled twice. I promise, the longer you leave it, the harder it becomes to tackle. For me, I'm still trying to get up the courage to enroll 'again'.
Best of luck to everyone out there with the courage to keep trying.
ShiJai.
 
Richey

Richey

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i skipped a week of University last week as ive realised its not the career i want go down and yet i have no choice as my parents have told me that if i dont pass this year then ill be thrown out and i cant afford to rent so im under alot of pressure in a catch-22 situation
 
LukeL

LukeL

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Well in my state's school system you are required to take one course which requires two speeches, not to mention the other classes which may require it as well. Because of this I have not applied to any school. Even though I know no one listen's to the speeches and even if they do they forget about them after the class is over.
 
ShiJai

ShiJai

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Richey said:
i skipped a week of University last week as ive realised its not the career i want go down and yet i have no choice as my parents have told me that if i dont pass this year then ill be thrown out and i cant afford to rent so im under alot of pressure in a catch-22 situation
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I don't know how your shool works, but I started out in pshyc and then realised it wasn't what I wanted. So I ended up skipping half my exams and then just changing my major for second year. There was no question of failing because I just took first year classes for my new major and second year for my electives.
As I said, I don't know if this is something your school allows?

ShiJai.
 
Waybuloo

Waybuloo

Well-known member
I've had plenty of anxiety just turning up at lectures and tutorials before, but now i can handle even sitting in the front row by my self and have no qualms about it. i don't mean to brag, i've had to overcome extreme anxiety to jsut get there.

I hate group work. I hate presentations. But i've gone through all of them. In group situations i always expect so much from everyone else, and i end up organising everything adn doing the final report. For this one group presentation thing, i guess i acted bossy or something, because at the end everyone was asking me what they should do, asking me for directions, even during the presentation which really freaked me out. So now i'm just gonna sit back a bit :)
 
loucat

loucat

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i think all of you have done really well just going to university, i didn't as the prospect of uni life freaked me out, looking back i think i did myself an injustice.
Keep going, live my dream :!:
 
rko74

rko74

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Yeah at least you made it to university! i dropped out of school in grade 10 and havent gotten back "on the horse" so to speak since.But im making some headway in doing so now.
 
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KyBoshia

Member
I totally understand....
Although lectures aren't too bad as long as I’m not late, with 500 students i can try to hide a bit. Tutorials on the other hand and my one smaller class are hell though. Participation marks, presentations, and group work are hell.
 
Septor

Septor

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All you people are scaring me off 8O.I want to start school in September.Start out with one class and then if I can handle that move on to a full time but I know I can never do presentations or anything like that and group work will be a problem.I just hope I don't chicken out and drop out.

I understand about people regretting about not going to university.I'm like that a lot to.I'm so envoys of all the people that made it to university.Thats what I hope to ratify this coming fall.Before it's to late.
 
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