I've always thought the point of life was to have kids. It's sad that I will never get to experience them. I don't want to be that creepy single 50 year old guy hitting on young girls at the bar still acting like he's 20. Whenever I see people like this I feel terrible for them. I can't imagine they're happy. They're just rotting away in pain. Feels terrible.
very sad that I will never have a wife/kids
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gustavofring
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Well I know some older gentlemen (65 or above) who are sans kids, and they are enjoying life and perfectly happy. They aren't desperate alcoholics at the bar either.
We are biologically programmed to reproduce, but let's not forget that having children can be a massive headache for many people. It's not for everyone.
As for a wife/partner never say never. It may look like you'll never meet one right now, but sometimes, even unexpectedly, changes come.
We are biologically programmed to reproduce, but let's not forget that having children can be a massive headache for many people. It's not for everyone.
As for a wife/partner never say never. It may look like you'll never meet one right now, but sometimes, even unexpectedly, changes come.
State_Of_Trance
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I'm only a 22-old dude right now, so I guess I haven't thought enough about this kind of thing. I suppose it's natural enough that I'd want a mate, but I don't have a strong opinion about kids. Maybe I'll feel more like you regarding kids with a few years' more maturity?
dannyboy65
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I'm 20 and I've dated a few girls. I would have to say though the one who impacted me the most was the mother I dated. She was 24 and we broke up in September. For the time we dated I had to be a father figure for her son. It turns out I'm amazing with kids, and I love them. I was also good to her, I am still confused fully why it ended. We never had a fight or anything like that. It was really complicated. But hey you never know you can maybe find a girl even at 50. Maybe you can find someone with a child, it may help with the thought of not having kids. Just my opinion, well good luck my friend.
Megaten
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Thats the great thing about being human. You can make your own reasons for life. Even if its completely bonkers, its your choice.
Unless you've been to the future, then just like everyone else alive you cant say what'll happen tomorrow or 20 years from now. Id like to think Ill live a happy life but I could get hit by a bus tomorrow. Good news is you have more power over how your life goes than you give yourself credit for.
Actually you never know, that guy might be having a blast. Some people get to a point in life where they stop giving a damn what others think, because they realize that most people's opinions arent really worth much. If they really cared, then they'd probably stick to women their own age.
Bronson99
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It was nice to entertain the "idea" of kids--sans the reality of it--when I was younger for a bit.
Now, the reality of it fully understood.. it's hard for me to understand why *anyone* would sign on for this. I would never voluntarily sign up for it, at least... that much is certain!
Now, the reality of it fully understood.. it's hard for me to understand why *anyone* would sign on for this. I would never voluntarily sign up for it, at least... that much is certain!
nodejesque
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This. I've also been feeling nostalgic at the idea that I may not have kids.
Sad, because I'd love to be a mom. But, meh.
Sad, because I'd love to be a mom. But, meh.
S_Spartan
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That's funny, because when I see a middle aged guy who has been worn down to a husk of a man through years of servitude to a loud, controlling wife and bratty, entitled kids I feel very sad for that man.
And in 2016 there is a very good chance that if your servitude should falter, the wife will leave with the kids, with full aid of the court system, and you will be alone anyway.
morrowrd
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Continue to work on yourself, work on things like communication skills (your relationship ended due to a weakness in this area - since you're not sure why it ended I am guessing you two weren't great communicators). Start a work out program, buff up your body and your health. Workout programs help the body and mind become resistant to depression, build self confidence, and overall increases your health.
You'll succeed.
You'll succeed.