I developed this crush on a lawyer that was working on a case for my mother. I was involved only to help her understand(her english isn't very good.) I ended up communicating with him through email(of course) cause talking over phone would be too difficult for me. Well, I met him once for my mom so he could recap where we were in the case. He was so cute. I noticed he was wearing a wedding ring so I knew he was off limits. Over the next couple of months we emailed each other about the case. But, strangely, and maybe some of you will understand, I developed a fondness for him. I can't remember the last time I had that much contact with a person.
He seemed so helpful(duh, he's getting paid a fortune defending my mom's case) and I guess I started to convince myself that maybe he was possibly someone I would date one day(when he was no longer married.) I have been SO LONELY for years, not having one friend, no hope of developing a romance because of my severe social anxiety, and I grew attached to him. I started convincing myself that maybe, just maybe, he was legally separated but only wearing the ring so colleagues wouldn't pry because maybe he wasn't ready to let others know of his marital troubles. But I could not be certain, of course, short of asking him directly.
Well, the case ended, the bill was paid. I still knew his email, so I emailed him and told him that I had grown to like him and if one day he happened to find himself single again, to call me. And I left him my phone number.
He responded by saying he was a happily married man and that I was being very inappropriate. He understood I wasn't suggesting he cheat on his wife but that if he were ever available, to then call me. And then he repeated that I was still being highly inappropriate and that he would not respond to any emails unless they were business related.
I think he could have been more kind in getting his point across. But, I do realize he doesn't understand my circumstances(my desperate loneliness.) Could someone out there be a friend and tell me I'm not a terrible person?
FYI, I would never be anyone's mistress and I would never try to convince a guy to leave his wife for me. I'm not judging others if it's something they would do, but it's just not my style. I want a guy who only wants me. Just for the record in case it wasn't understood.
He seemed so helpful(duh, he's getting paid a fortune defending my mom's case) and I guess I started to convince myself that maybe he was possibly someone I would date one day(when he was no longer married.) I have been SO LONELY for years, not having one friend, no hope of developing a romance because of my severe social anxiety, and I grew attached to him. I started convincing myself that maybe, just maybe, he was legally separated but only wearing the ring so colleagues wouldn't pry because maybe he wasn't ready to let others know of his marital troubles. But I could not be certain, of course, short of asking him directly.
Well, the case ended, the bill was paid. I still knew his email, so I emailed him and told him that I had grown to like him and if one day he happened to find himself single again, to call me. And I left him my phone number.
He responded by saying he was a happily married man and that I was being very inappropriate. He understood I wasn't suggesting he cheat on his wife but that if he were ever available, to then call me. And then he repeated that I was still being highly inappropriate and that he would not respond to any emails unless they were business related.
I think he could have been more kind in getting his point across. But, I do realize he doesn't understand my circumstances(my desperate loneliness.) Could someone out there be a friend and tell me I'm not a terrible person?
FYI, I would never be anyone's mistress and I would never try to convince a guy to leave his wife for me. I'm not judging others if it's something they would do, but it's just not my style. I want a guy who only wants me. Just for the record in case it wasn't understood.
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