what are your plans this weekend?

nina79

Member
I'm freaking out. I never ever leave the house if I do not absolutely have to. I can't even make myself get to the doctors when I'm sick. I do have certain things I have to do for others. One is going to the fireworks tomorrow. I never do little things like the groc store so these gigantic things with tons of people make me not want to leave even more (I know, my fault). Anyway, wondered if anyone else is going out this weekend and how they do that without falling apart. <3
 

Kiwong

Well-known member
Enjoy the fireworks, Nina.

I'm planning on going on a long bushwalk taking photos of wildflowers. Probably won't see another human for several hours. I've started online shopping, so I don't go into the shops as much, they are fearful places for me too. I will likely go for a run tomorrow morning on a playing field where there no people. I will take photos of sunrises and sunsets if there are clouds around to add drama. I like beaches and headlands at those times because there are no people around. I hang out with my pet cockatiel when I am home, she's great company.

I cope by doing most things in my own company.
 
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nina79

Member
That sounds wonderful :) Do you post your pics on here? Nature is always pleasant company! Have a great time <3
 

Ithior

Well-known member
I'm planning on going to a picnic with some people with the same interests as mine, though I don't expect to like them much. For the past few weeks I keep changing my mind about going.

The way I deal with these things is by taking a muscle relaxant pill I was prescribed a couple of years ago. I only take this pill if I think I'm going to be nervous. Then I make sure I know what to do if I want to get out of there. Stuff like the bus to take, my reason for leaving (if I want to hide the real reason), and so on.

It's not much, but I know that if things go south I know how to get out of there, and that makes me a bit less anxious. If the anxiety is still too much, I'll just carry out my exit plan and get out of there.
 

nina79

Member
Hope you enjoy yourself :) That is a great idea to have a pre-plan for if things go south and have a plan b. I'll work on mine. <3
 

dannyboy65

Well-known member
I try to get out as much as I can. I find it's a challenge for me but I challenge myself to over come that challenge and make small goals for each day. Only places I hate are places with lot's of teenagers like a mall, or large crowds.
 
sadness

I don't have any plans this weekend :(. I hope it's a not a weekend of sitting at home doing nothing, but it looks like that might be happening.
 
Are you meeting up with people or something? Or is it just the crowd that bothers you or being out?

I have a friend over for the weekend at my house and plans to see fireworks and maybe go to a cookout I was invited to (MAYBE). I'm having one of my own, too, the next day.

Re: the 2nd part of your question, it depends on the situation. Going out some places makes me anxious some days, or meeting certain people. In those cases I just try to act as if I'm not anxious, which helps to some extent.
 
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Kiwong

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I went to the local aquarium, it was great. First I saw a video about the marine reserve, it is an amazing place like opening up a new world. I asked about a snail I had seen, and two really lovely marine biologists told me it was probably a turban snail. One lady showed me some living collections of the molluscs and echinoderms, and got them out of the tank, and I held them in my hand.

This of course was a huge test for my anxiety. I wish I wasn't because I miss talking to people with things in common. I can talk, I am intelligent, and have something to say, but my anxiety gets in my way. I left thinking they'll think who was that weird guy that was here. It really hurts that I weird people out, they were nice. And I'd love to be able to talk to people really talk to people, I miss that
 

nina79

Member
Are you meeting up with people or something? Or is it just the crowd that bothers you or being out?

I have a friend over for the weekend at my house and plans to see fireworks and maybe go to a cookout I was invited to (MAYBE). I'm having one of my own, too, the next day.

Re: the 2nd part of your question, it depends on the situation. Going out some places makes me anxious some days, or meeting certain people. In those cases I just try to act as if I'm not anxious, which helps to some extent.

It prob is more the unknown. I never know if it's going to be ok or a complete nightmare. I've felt like things were fake before, like the movie the Truman show. I've felt a series of unfort. events take place but for some reason, everytime I go anywhere, I have extremely aggressive people who are angry. I'm scared. Often. I like to know if I'm going to be ok. If things go well then I'm happy. I KNOW for sure everytime I've been to a doctor or dentist in the last few years (which consists of 90% of why I would ever leave) have been complete nightmares. I feel like mentally, I'm in the fetal position by the end.
On another note, I did go to the fireworks. It started horrid and ended ok. Overall, if I don't end it thinking I will NEVER EVER leave the house again, it's a huge success. I'm celebrating this weekend for having found this community. I kept thinking I had to go get help and I couldn't actually GO anywhere. I've found help here. Just having people give virtual hugs and suggestions is super helpful. Thanks all for being here during a hard holiday.
 

nina79

Member
I went to the local aquarium, it was great. First I saw a video about the marine reserve, it is an amazing place like opening up a new world. I asked about a snail I had seen, and two really lovely marine biologists told me it was probably a turban snail. One lady showed me some living collections of the molluscs and echinoderms, and got them out of the tank, and I held them in my hand.

This of course was a huge test for my anxiety. I wish I wasn't because I miss talking to people with things in common. I can talk, I am intelligent, and have something to say, but my anxiety gets in my way. I left thinking they'll think who was that weird guy that was here. It really hurts that I weird people out, they were nice. And I'd love to be able to talk to people really talk to people, I miss that

First that sounds fantastic!! Good job. Second, I 100% understand. I feel like it's more the fact that when I encounter something my brain sees as aggressive or mean or I believe they are uncomfort. with my weirdness THAT is when I start my heart beating and freaking the flip out in my mind. As soon as I see someone as a threat or a really difficult situation, I want to be home. Fast. Since that is not possible, I freak out inside. My family says I act normal but they can see normal is not me being inside a house for weeks and months on end without seeing others and talking to people on the phone. Baby steps though, it's nice to hear you pushed yourself and had that experience. IF, and that is a big if, it goes well when I leave, I'm always VERY happy I did it. The bad is so bad though, it makes the good not seem as achievable.
 

Kiwong

Well-known member
Same here Nina, always glad when I make the effort, but it takes so much energy out me. Right now I am exhausted, and that was as a result of talking to two really nice ladies.
 

Halym

Banned
I don't really like getting out of the house either.. But sometimes, I force myself to go out of the house... And it is always a challenge for me and I rarely feel good when I go out... I often feel dissapointed when I go out of my house..
 
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