What attracts women? Why can't I attract them?
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OceanMist
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I just watched the first 15 mins of the vid.
Anyone that's seen my posts knows I think looks are overrated. I myself am a little above average in looks, yet I don't have attractive women beating down my door.
Did my slightly above average looks help me get dates and have some fun, yes. So looks can matter, but an average looking guy who has a lot of money can get girls that I could never get with my low financial and low status.
The video seems to be more complaining about the guys that are good-looking, and looking for ways to say "looks are everything." It's a common complaint among certain guys who aren't getting dates.
Looks can matter. But, to say lack of looks is the sole reason why a guy is not getting action just isn't true. Social confidence, charisma, money....those things can be more important than looks with a lot of women.
It depends on the woman, too. Not all women have the same standards. Some women just want looks, some just want a popular charismatic guy, some want a guy who never shuts up and is super confident, and some just want money.
The video tries to just isolate looks as being everything in the dating world for men, which just isn't true.
Anyone that's seen my posts knows I think looks are overrated. I myself am a little above average in looks, yet I don't have attractive women beating down my door.
Did my slightly above average looks help me get dates and have some fun, yes. So looks can matter, but an average looking guy who has a lot of money can get girls that I could never get with my low financial and low status.
The video seems to be more complaining about the guys that are good-looking, and looking for ways to say "looks are everything." It's a common complaint among certain guys who aren't getting dates.
Looks can matter. But, to say lack of looks is the sole reason why a guy is not getting action just isn't true. Social confidence, charisma, money....those things can be more important than looks with a lot of women.
It depends on the woman, too. Not all women have the same standards. Some women just want looks, some just want a popular charismatic guy, some want a guy who never shuts up and is super confident, and some just want money.
The video tries to just isolate looks as being everything in the dating world for men, which just isn't true.
Alienated
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Dude... Women don't know what attact's themselves..
They are stuck in a never ending temporal flux of being manipulated by their ever changing emotions...
I remember when I was a teenager and asked my mom even...
Do you even understand yourself ? She laughed, put her head in her hands, and shook head in shame while saying NO !!
And since then... I have learned I only attact sociopaths, so I have come to the conclusion that...
If she like's me , there something really wrong with her !!
They are stuck in a never ending temporal flux of being manipulated by their ever changing emotions...
I remember when I was a teenager and asked my mom even...
Do you even understand yourself ? She laughed, put her head in her hands, and shook head in shame while saying NO !!
And since then... I have learned I only attact sociopaths, so I have come to the conclusion that...
If she like's me , there something really wrong with her !!
Bronson99
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You really got it, man. As you know, the truth is always simple black and white statements just like this, no exceptions to this exist, and so on.
(that is intentional sarcasm)
The truth is gray, actually. It may include some aspects of your statement, but also many other things; the truth is not as inflexible as you think. One truth among others is the faster you stop making assumptions about what women want (which contributes to self-loathing), the greater your chances of turning things around. Nobody can be attracted to someone who is defeated and insecure.. it only makes sense, then, to remove the harmful thinking processes.
Bronson99
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I only watched 1 minute of the video, but I really don't need to see the rest. I've seen LOADS of guys I would consider very unattractive and yet they have a girl on their arms. I even know a couple guys who are unfortunate this way and yet, simply because they never gave up, never gave in to self-loathing, they eventually found someone.
What saddens me the most is about 100% of the comments on the youtube page seem to be from angry, frustrated men sealing their own doom by agreeing with everything in the video, which is really a very skewed portrait of reality.
What saddens me the most is about 100% of the comments on the youtube page seem to be from angry, frustrated men sealing their own doom by agreeing with everything in the video, which is really a very skewed portrait of reality.
Flowers-Of-Bloom
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I think this pretty much applies to all humans in general, not just women.
On the other hand, I know exactly what attracts me, and believe it or not but the things that attract women vary amongst individuals! (gasp!)
Personality is the most important aspect for me, I like men who are enjoyable to be around, who are nice to everyone and who share some common interests with me. It's important not just how he treats me but the way he treats others, especially his friends. Empathy is a must have. Confidence is another thing but it doesn't necessarily make or break it for me. Job-wise, I do not care as long he does the thing that he wants to do.
Physically I don't ask for much, but of course I have my own fantasy of the ideal male partner but I would consider them "bonuses". I like medium length hair, black or brown, athletic body (of course haha), some facial hair (but not beard!) tall and a nice decent sized... moustache? :bigsmile:
MikeyC
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Ned Flanders? :bigsmile:
Odo
Banned
OP-- next time you see a woman you like, march right up to her and say 'you probably won't go out with me because you only care about looks and I'm an ugly boring loser'.
I guarantee you that you'll be walking out of that situation with her number in hand.
Women want nothing more than to nurture your fragile ego while you insult them and make them feel horrible.
Trust me, I've slept with over 6 million women.
I guarantee you that you'll be walking out of that situation with her number in hand.
Women want nothing more than to nurture your fragile ego while you insult them and make them feel horrible.
Trust me, I've slept with over 6 million women.
Odo
Banned
I have no idea.
I have a gf but I didn't really have a strategy when I started talking to her.
Metal_isthe_Answer
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Like me!! Yayy!
Confidence? Nope
Looks? 4 out of 10 max imo
Status? Not wealthy or successful, I don't want money, I just want to be happy
Fun? Depends on what the other person likes to or considers fun I guess.
Opaline
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Erm... I like cologne, as long as the man in question doesn't smell like a Hollister store (overscented = blech).
I know at least a few other women agree with me, and I'm sure there are many others. I'm sure there are a lot of women who prefer no cologne. I'm really not sure what the majority opinion is, but if I had to guess I'd guess most women do like a little man perfume as long as it's not overdone.
Hellhound
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Just shower everyday and you won't need a lot of that :thumbup: