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Old 06-16-2010
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I was wondering if anyone has this problem. When I look at myself in the mirror, all I see are flaws, nothing else. Yet in photographs I'm a completely different person. I don't recognize myself. Sometimes I wonder what's real and what's not. I have a really hard time accepting compliments, because what I see in the mirror is not what they describe. I usually try to avoid mirrors as much as I can. They only make me feel like putting a bag over my head
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Old 06-16-2010
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I am the exact same way, Ritta! I really hate mirrors and cameras because I don't think I look good in any way.
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Old 06-16-2010
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Perhaps it's because when a photo is taken, you go about your business and the photograph captures you like others see you. Someone who well deserves those compliments. :3

And when you look into a mirror, you are pretty much free to let the judgments run wild, and your expression and body language will react to that judgment accordingly. Bond with the power of suggestion, it may cause you to give yourself far less credit then you really deserve. ^W^
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Old 06-16-2010
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I try not to look in mirrors or let people capture me in pictures...
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Old 06-16-2010
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I can't stand photo's, video, or looking in the mirror. I also have a hard time recognizing myself. What I do see I don't like.
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Old 06-17-2010
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Thank you everyone for your replies. It's nice to know I'm not the only one dealing with this problem. I was just thinking what would happen if everyone here would get to meet in person. I bet most would be hiding in corners. I know I would. Then again if this was some sort of masquerade ball or costume party, people might loosen up a bit.

I wouldn't mind wearing something like this

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Old 06-17-2010
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It has been a long time since it has happened, but I do go through times when I hate looking in the mirror, hate my reflection, and see nothing but flaws, and just hate everything about what I look like. I get myself so worked up and miserable over it. These feelings come and go though, as there are also times when I don't think I look too bad, and times where I don't think I look good at all but don't really care. I usually don't allow anyone to take photos of me regardless of how I'm feeling.
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Old 06-17-2010
 

Yeah I usually wonder what I really look like, because I always see different things. Sometimes I like the way I look and other times I think yikes. But usually I feel the "good" photographs aren't the real me. If I look in the mirror though, I see me. And the me that I wish the world could see. The me inside. The me I wish people would love.

Ooo don't wear that. That would intimidate me lol. I'd be afraid to approach you. But I'm intimidated by most people just because they have jobs
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Old 06-17-2010
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Agreed. I too see nothing but a tired, decrepit teenage youth confused about far too many things that should not concern him. I have trouble accepting and believing compliments, though fortunately people merely believe I am showing modesty.
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Old 06-17-2010
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They depress me so that is why I avoid them
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Old 06-17-2010
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I actually quite like what I see on the mirror,I might say I am a bit above average if I am on a good day,what I dont like is what I see on pics,specially close ups,my nose looks huge,my hair looks like rockabilly hair,huge face,cant tell the bangs apart,its weird, this got better as I lost weight,but its still there.
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depends how i feel
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Old 06-22-2010
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Mirrors simply reflect what is. Nothing less, nothing more. We can choose to ignore the inner voice. Howerver, I understand this can be, more often than not, easier said than done.
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Old 06-22-2010
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Mirrors simply reflect what is. Nothing less, nothing more. We can choose to ignore the inner voice. Howerver, I understand this can be, more often than not, easier said than done.
Off topic, but did you know you have the same avatar as another member here? It's confusing. I keep thinking you're iamthenra.
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Old 06-22-2010
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I see about five different people in the mirror depending on what mood I'm in. It's not just a case of ugly day/pretty day, my perception of my appearance varies largely.
I spend a lot of time looking in the mirror. Not because I'm particularly fond of my reflection, but because I'm trying to work out what I actually think of it. It is impossible to see myself objectively.
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Old 06-23-2010
 

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Old 06-23-2010
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Off topic, but did you know you have the same avatar as another member here? It's confusing. I keep thinking you're iamthenra.
Being rather new here, but not really I've just avoided, I have not met with iamthenra. Maybe I have, I can't recall.
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Old 06-23-2010
 

This is going to sound weird, but when i look in the mirror i always seem to see a different person, depending on what mood im in. Like some days i look ugly and some days i just look totally different.

That made no sense.
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Old 06-23-2010
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Yeap, when I look in the mirror all I see is this grotesque figure that I cannot connect to myself. But, when I see pictures of myself, I see my view is validated :o
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Old 06-23-2010
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I'm always looking in the mirror to make sure that I can find no flaws which at times extremly difficult but I think has to do with my BDD when I look in the mirror I see a fat gut allthough anyone who sees me would think Im very skinny, and I'm extremely self-conscious about scars I have on upper arms from SI which causes me to where thermal sweaters even in the 100+ degree weather we get in Vegas just to cover them up. If I must leave my house it's not untill I've finished staring at the mirror for 30mins to an hour trying to correct each flaw I see even the most minor of details like say some very small almost unnoticable stain will bother me and bother me until I switch whatever piece of clothing had the stain which in turn leads me to change the entire outfit I hate doing this but I can't stop and just leave my house without checking.
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