What gives you hope/makes u continue?

Why

Well-known member
ive noticed alot of members are just too negative/hopeless about their future and condition. I'm guilty of this too, often after school, i take the bus home feeling hopeless and dejected.

but sometimes i envision a near future where i have a normal life, a gf, and successful. I convince myself the only direction i can go at this point is up so i continue to make litttle efforts each day to change something in my life.


how bout you?
 
the fact that suicide actually takes effort and isn't something you can make happen by just thinking it.

if it was that easy, I'd be dead a million times.


so lack of effort that keeps me going
 

hangbi92

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People who still care about me: my few friends and my relatives, especially my parents- they give me hope. If all of them leave me, thats when I have no hope. But I know that will never happen.
 

Why

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People who still care about me: my few friends and my relatives, especially my parents- they give me hope. If all of them leave me, thats when I have no hope. But I know that will never happen.

good point. forgot the ppl in my life that i care for deeply and vice versa, letting them down would be nearly as bad as letting myself down
 

Liberty

Banned
Something intangible I think. Fear of the unknown maybe, plus suicide is for losers and I don't particularly like the idea of strangers carelessly rumaging through all my stuff or trashing it.

Why be another one of those people? Plus my Aunt fought for her life for 2-3 years suffering from cancer and chemo so I'm not going to throw away 40+ years of life like it's worth nothing.
 
Nothing really, fighting and trying is basically all I know.
Why would I give up now after almost 30 years.
 
but sometimes i envision a near future where i have a normal life, a gf, and successful. I convince myself the only direction i can go at this point is up so i continue to make litttle efforts each day to change something in my life.

how bout you?

I think that too.
Nothing gives me hope, I just want to be normal one day.:rolleyes:
 

Newtype

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I just wanna be able to enjoy the good things in life one day. You know, the things that I can't even imagine having right now.
 

Blaze

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I wouldn't want to hurt my family. I have a younger sister, and me taking my own life would damage her too much. She is at that stage in life where everything is already so dramatic, cutting herself and always blaming, finding excuses for her actions. She is trying to hard to find herself, when she already is who she is. I just regret it took me so long to realize that and hope she catches on quick.

I wouldn't want to put them through that stage of loss. I don't think my mother/sister would ever fully recover.

Don't know what I would do if anything ever happened to them. Certainly nothing I want to be thinking about at the moment.
 

WorldEndsWithMe

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My main areas of grief are:
- Body Image which turns into angst towards my seemingly perma-single status. But I've been trying to find stuff I like about myself. (I like my eyes, I'm tall and thin, etc.) I used to take taekwondo, so I had a pretty healthy body, but then I got hurt in a car accident so I had to quit. Now I'm going to the gym a lot and am trying to get better, because taekwondo made me so happy. Still single though... haha
- School. For the first 2 1/2 years at uni I felt so lonely. I hadn't maybe any new friends, and my grades were not as good compared to high school. I felt stupid and alone. I joined the Biology club and now have made a lot of friends with similar interests and my grades have gone up. (Although, I still feel really stupid sometimes).

Things that keep me going are my family, my desire to see the world and be successful and my doctor. I went to see him and told him about my extreme depression. He's really helped me in terms of anti-D medication, getting me physio for my car accident and counselling. It has seriously helped. If I was posting in this thread back in December, I probably wouldn't have been able to think of anything and I was so suicidal. Things can get better!
 
Weirdly enough, it's depression.

Whenever I get depressed, I become bitter and angry at the world. I'll then set myself some goals to try and prove my worth. These goals give me hope and a sense of purpose in life.
 

Julesie

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...I don't know really.
I don't want to die... and I don't want my family to feel guilty or bad that I would commit suicide.

...but I can't see a good future for myself. I've thought about it often and I tend to end up in a circle.
 
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