What happens when you are stuck in a room full of people?

So today, some folks decide to pop in unannounced. I think: "Oh, great! Why did they have to come?!"

I was in the other room, my dad opens the door and they sit in the front room. After a small break, I walk in and exchange handshakes. I can't go straight out because that looks rude, so I sit behind my dad. I'm unable to tilt my head up for eye contact so I mess around with my jacket and wait till another person walks in who I need to meet before planning my escape route.

I greet her, wait until people start talking and there I go! Door opened, and into the safety of the other room!

Why did I do that?

Because I don't know anything else. I didn't want a lull in conversation to be turned onto me, and them asking me if I was working (I am not) and me stumbling and blushing, trying to hide my embarrassment. Maybe if I was in a better place (personally, professionally and mentally) in one of the three areas, I might have stayed but I had to get out.

I do the same thing. My heart starts pounding and I feel like I'm going to burst into tears, so I head for the nearest exit then sit and agonize over what everyone must think of me.

I know how you feel. That's why I always smoke at parties and social events and stuff.. it gives me the chance to remain outside, hidden from most of the other people. Can't do that with family stuff though, my parents would kill me if they knew I smoked 0_o Did your dad say something to you about leaving the room?

Sounds like myself as well. I try to find a seat that's farther away from the rest and hope that no one notices me.

selon said:

Did your dad say something to you about leaving the room?

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Nah, he knows I prefer shunning situations like that.

That's good, at least he's not mad at you for it! My mom is so socially awkward that whenever we have people around the house (which rarely happens anyway) I have to stay there with her, although I hate it. Especially because they speak languages that I don't understand so I literally just sit there, but she doesn't let me go o_0

That is exactly what i do.
I cannot go to house party's because i always feel trapped. I would rather go to a bar or a club where if i feel uncomfortable i can just slip away unnoticed or just get lost in the crowd until i calm down.

I'm the same way too, I just hate the typical small talk questions.....especially since I feel embarrassed about where I'm at in life.

I get extremely annoyed. I like having space to breathe.

I'd do the same too when i lived with my mother, I used to slip into my bedroom and lock the door when she had guests. I had to do the polite 'hello's' but then i would get to slink away.
Now that i have my own place no one pops over to visit unannounced.

You're definitely not alone there. I do the same thing, lots of people always end up asking me questions and asking what I'm doing with myself. My parents friends, family members, people who haven't seen me in awhile. I always end up hiding out cause I want to avoid telling them I don't work cause of my depression and anxiety being so bad.

at parties i am rubbish at socializing, i tend to just sit in a cornor somewhere and drink until i decide to leave or go to bed. I don't know why i even go to parties i know what will happen and yet i go, somehow i feel each time before the party it will be different but its always the same no matter who is having the party. My friend had a party and i went and she was busy mingling and i didn't know anyone else and so i sat alone...geez life of the party, when this one guy sat next to me and said "you look depressed, are you sad?, do you want to kill yourself?"....WHAT? i couldn't believe what i had heard and it saddened me to think that's what people must see if i go to parties no wonder nobody comes up to talk to me...if i give off the aura that i am depressed when i am not i just find it difficult to talk to people!