What is this life, help

Gabor

New member
Hi everyone, my life is just bad stuff going on. No one cares about what I say or do, people just pretend they care but they don't even make an effort. My parents have so many problems and they only know how to yell at me for no reason, even my friends think they are better than me and ignore me for no reason. I dont have motivation to go to school or study, I just play games and try to live. How can people be happy in this world? theres no purpose, everyone just fakes they like to live, I dont know what to do. Leave my home and stop listening to my parents. I don't know if I am depressed but its hard to get by and find a reason to live.
 

Gunther

Well-known member
Hey man we can play games together, message me in chat.
I also have the same issue as you but i was not thinking about leaving my parents. It will get better when you grow older.
 

Megaten

Well-known member
It doesnt help that we live in a world where its actually profitable to keep you unhappy. People buy new consumer products because we're told they'll make us happy in magazines and tv. We're told we need to go to college or we'll never be anyone, we need to find love or we're losers, have the best possessions or you should feel bad about yourself. And theres business in all of it. Its all pretty screwed up imo.
 
Whether one manages to create this "purpose" (which is really like just having one all-encompassing goal in life, and that goal satisfying you at a deep/profound level?), or whether one stumbles accross it (eg via intuition & experiences), or whether they don't, doesn't change the fact that it's completely man-made (or you-made) .. that is, it's false/illusory.
And it does for sure make life better. I've had times where i've felt i've had "purpose" (that is, sth underneath the goals i was striving for). Those were the happiest times of my life. And the unhappiest times were when i was without purpose.
Right now, i am without purpose (purpose changes throughout life). But i have goals (mainly just to do the basic household chores, etc). And another goal i suppose is to not be bored (to feel comfortable when i can); that in fact could be classed as "purpose", as it involves every moment of every day; but it just isn't that satisfying a purpose - maybe because it's a double-negative?; maybe i should be focussing more on gaining pleasure (a positive), i dunno. Presently it seems i live to escape (via mainly alcohol numbing my mind/pain); again, if it's a purpose, it's not a very satisfying one (it doesn't solve all my reason-for-living issues).
With depression, i suspect it goes hand-in-hand with having no purpose, from my experience anyway.
I don't want to live either, but i'm too scared to die, so i'm stuck in no man's land.
So, it is a complex issue, and i certainly haven't got all the answers concerning it.
 

Bronson99

Well-known member
It doesnt help that we live in a world where its actually profitable to keep you unhappy. People buy new consumer products because we're told they'll make us happy in magazines and tv. We're told we need to go to college or we'll never be anyone, we need to find love or we're losers, have the best possessions or you should feel bad about yourself. And theres business in all of it. Its all pretty screwed up imo.

The most important thing a lot of us should do is, as you imply, learn to de-program yourself from all this bulls**t. Because that's what it is. It somehow trickles down through media, advertising, and of course, the unthinking masses of "socially normal" folks.

Who wrote this directive: you need to be in college fulltime, at least partly employed throughout, have a full social circle, full independence.. all this at the same time.

The answer? Actually, no one. It has become some kind of collective "groupthink" that's drafted these rules, which have now become standards that are used to measure oneself against others.

The best answer is to reject the entire value system. It's based on false ideals. Do whatever it is you can handle, and/or whatever it is you need to get through life satisfactorily.. but please, reject the notion that your value is only what you can contribute or how large your social circle is. Let the idiotic "typical person" believe that, and just watch them burn when they fall short...
 

Ryllia

New member
welcome to the real world. nobody cares about nobody. you have to find the validation you look for inside yourself
 
It doesnt help that we live in a world where its actually profitable to keep you unhappy. People buy new consumer products because we're told they'll make us happy in magazines and tv. We're told we need to go to college or we'll never be anyone, we need to find love or we're losers, have the best possessions or you should feel bad about yourself. And theres business in all of it. Its all pretty screwed up imo.
^This! :thumbup:

As others have stated above, you need to discover something that gives you - as a unique individual - a purpose in life.
It is different for everyone, and what works for one person won't necessarily work for others.
Keep searching, don't give up searching for it, Gabor. :)
 
The most important thing a lot of us should do is, as you imply, learn to de-program yourself from all this bulls**t. Because that's what it is. It somehow trickles down through media, advertising, and of course, the unthinking masses of "socially normal" folks.

Who wrote this directive: you need to be in college fulltime, at least partly employed throughout, have a full social circle, full independence.. all this at the same time.

The answer? Actually, no one. It has become some kind of collective "groupthink" that's drafted these rules, which have now become standards that are used to measure oneself against others.

The best answer is to reject the entire value system. It's based on false ideals. Do whatever it is you can handle, and/or whatever it is you need to get through life satisfactorily.. but please, reject the notion that your value is only what you can contribute or how large your social circle is. Let the idiotic "typical person" believe that, and just watch them burn when they fall short...
^I have exhausted my site-given authorised 'Thanks' buttons for today, so I have to quote this useful post to 'Thank' it. :rolleyes:



*Wonders why there is a very small 'thanks' limit for useful posts per day in the site* :sad:
 
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