What the hell is wrong with people?

I just don't get, I really don't. Why is it that when you open up to someone who has shown an interest in you, they just run the other way.
It just really sh*ts me. It's like you are damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you don't open up about your condition and behave in a way because of sp, they think your weird or whatever. But if you do the right thing and tell them the truth and not pretend you are something your are not, they then start avoiding you. It's like they want like to be all sweetness and light and everything happy etc...but life is not like that. Sometimes they are going to come across people with problems and they should learn to be more understanding. It's even worse when they make out like they are understanding, sensitive etc..but when the going gets tough they soon show their true colours!
Well there's my 2 cents worth!!!

And I'll throw in my two cents and make it four because I agree with you 100%. And in my bitterness will add that in my experiences, have found that people do this to their friends without sp, etc., too.

Hi alias,
I think that you did the right thing telling them because you would have had to eventually if something was to become of it (relationship-wise) so at least you know where you stand now and you won't be wasting your time.
That took a lot of guts too and you should be proud of yourself for (1) having a go, and (2) telling the truth.

I wouldn't take it personally. There are alot of shallow minded people out there. the only time I tell someone is if I know them really well and can trust people. I agree that with people that don't know that you have a social phobia they tell you that you are strange or weird. I've had that too.

Alot of people think that when you tell them about your social anxiety they are dealing with someone with serious mental problems but they are so wrong and I feel sorry for them when they are like this. They just don't understand. I normally tell people how quiet I am and that I dislike pubs/clubs but I don't go right into it. It's safer that way.

The majority of people just do not understand SP or even shyness.

do you want the long or short answer to this question?

i agree that most people are shallow, and I don't need any fucking understang from them , I just don't want to be bothered by stupid people. I am always ready for conversation, I long for good friends if somebody would come up to me I woud never reject anybody.

no dont take it too seriously .. and dont let it discourage you from being open. lots of people will understand .. and lots wont, simple. Your not doing anything wrong by bieng open.

remember though .. you cant be too heavy it scares people ya know. Like just saying that your very shy .. i mean thats a good start .. you dont have to dive straight in and go on about everything.

i mean ... mostly i try and keep it relatively light ... on this forum !! cause even here .. people need support themselves .. and a bit of lightness ya know .. so yer .. its not about not bieng completely honest .. its just about how you put it in my opinion

Yeah..they don't want to understand