What will you do if you have a crush?

crescent · 05-13-2006

For myself, I feel it's like a dilemma when I have a crush with a guy. Like right now, I have a crush with one of my colleague and everytime I meet him, I will blush and my heart pumpin so fast, and that makes me feel embarassed, and I don't dare to look at his eyes, I feel my words kind of messed up. And that makes me don't want to meet him cause I'm afraid to be embarassed. But on the other hand, when you like someone, of course you will want to see him as often as possible. I don't know what to do. I feel impossible to get close to him and kinda wish I can forget him and don't feel this feeling...
What is your all experience about having a crush...?

Crazy · 05-13-2006

Pretty much the same

EmptyWords · 05-17-2006

go after it, whats the worst that can happen? He might say no, thats it, thats a lot better than not ever even approaching him.

Ahmed · 05-17-2006

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Originally Posted by EmptyWords

go after it, whats the worst that can happen? He might say no, thats it, thats a lot better than not ever even approaching him.

I think the problem is, what after the other side says no. will you just get depressed and leave? what will you say. i guess i can just freeze and look goofy.

socratic · 05-17-2006

:idea:

Quixote · 05-17-2006

I had a similar experience about one year ago, I had rent a room in a house and fell desperately in love with a flatmate. I had the same symptoms you describe, and a couple of times I thought I might be close to having a heart attack just because she had walked into the same room. Quite stupid.

A strange thing that happened is that I felt the most ardent desire of her company when she was not there, and often in the middle of the night I would entertain the (very unwise) idea of rushing to her room and declare my love like in the 19th century. But then when I actualy was with her for a while, once the initial impact on my pulse and blood pressure had passed, I would become less interested.

Oh and no, I never managed to tell her, until I left

Horrible experience, really. But it shouldn't be so hard for a girl as it was for me. I mean I had no chance whatsoever, even though she did not completely dislike my company it was perfectly clear that she was not attracted to me in a romantic way. But you, as a girl, have many more chances of succeding. Besides, we guys are much more sensitive and polite (yes we are

) so even if he says no he will most likely say it in a nice, understanding manner. Just go for it, and don't worry.

enkjrypt · 05-18-2006

theres this girl at work. shes 5'6 slim long brunette hair she never lets down. a total four eyed geek. blue/grey eyes.

when i first worked with her. i made no eye contact. and always avoided her.

over the months i got comfortable in the place and with other people somehow were good friends. but we still dont talk much.

we have nothing in common and theres not a lot of activity for conversation. and i try really hard to conjure convo. i basically recite what id like to say to her then next day. she laughs at most of them.

shes with another man. but i still find myself thinking of her and always looking for her.

i think she likes me, but she doesnt show it. women are so subtle. sometimes i just wanna make a move. i have things wired in my brain like impulse that i have to get someone else posession. i grew up seeing that.

but where would i go then? ive never gotten close to anyone. hyperhidrosis.

triceratops · 05-18-2006

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Originally Posted by socratic

I met a gorgeous girl last year. We got on really well and at the end of the night we had a kiss and a cuddle, i was dumbstruck. It felt like getting whacked over the head with a brick. She was about 5 foot 2, a bit smaller than me with blonde hair, she looked like, i think shes called kelly clarkeson, very cute. That night i was with my friends and one of my female friends was really unhappy that i was getting on with a girl and she went mental, as i was kissing her i saw a few people drag her off because she was really angry. Me and the cute girl swapped numbers and we all went our own ways. The next day my female friend and her cousin told me she was a lesbian and she wasnt interested. I tried to text her but got no reply. Seems weird we got on so well, then nothing. Im wondering if they said something to her to scare her off. I know she wasnt a lesbian, lesbians dont kiss guys. The same thing pretty much happens whenever i meet a nice girl. I think my friends are comfortable with me being the weird loner and they'd like to keep it that way. Sucks. But in response to the question, if i meet a nice girl and i know i wont bump into her everyday, if i think she likes me too, i just ask her out casually. I dont say, wanna go on a date, ill say something like, i was gonna go n see that new film, i havent got no one to go with though, are you upto anything this weekend? its not to full on and the worst they'll say is, eww get away from me yer freak! nah jus kiddin, they'll say theyre busy if they dont wanna go.

Kelly clarkson?? Isnt that the singer who won pop idol

Septor · 05-18-2006

Nothing :(

exuser01 · 05-18-2006

I went up to her and she had no idea who I was even though we met just weeks before. I needed that turn off.