When people ask you "What's wrong?"

ShyIrishFox

ShyIrishFox

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I hate it when random people ask me "Hey, What's wrong?" when I feel fine and there's nothing wrong.
Because of my SAD, my default position is eyes to the ground, mouth is a straight line, hands holding either purse strap or backpack straps.
Granted, that might be mistaken for sadness or distress. But usually, In that position, I feel just fine.
I don't know... it just grinds my gears is all.
Does this happen to you?
 
kayelle

kayelle

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Yes, this happens to me ALL the time, so annoying! My family are constantly asking me what's wrong because I when I'm sitting or standing I always have my shoulders up. It's just the same as you, I'm not doing it because I'm tense or anything, I just naturally stand like that, I hate being asked that all the time!
 
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God_help_Us

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kayelle said:
Yes, this happens to me ALL the time, so annoying! My family are constantly asking me what's wrong because I when I'm sitting or standing I always have my shoulders up. It's just the same as you, I'm not doing it because I'm tense or anything, I just naturally stand like that, I hate being asked that all the time!
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Yeah, I get it mostly from family too. And it's not like I'm the only one there with nothing to say in the moment, but I guess I just have that look.
 
anomicdeer

anomicdeer

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I hate that too. People always ask me that. If it's someone I know they might just tell me to smile or something. I can't help it. I don't know how to look happy.
 
Kathryn5

Kathryn5

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All the time! People usually think I'm either being a bitch because I try to ignore other people, bored because I try to make myself feel better by distracting myself from my surroundings, or anxious because I'm fidgeting!::p:
 
ShyIrishFox

ShyIrishFox

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I really hate it when people just forget the "What's wrong?" part and complete strangers go right into saying "Smile! Nothing can be all that bad."
And I'll be like. "Uh... what?"
 
Julesie

Julesie

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Not really. Though my parents tend to think I'm always down. Though in truth I'm totally fine. Other times they get jealous because they hear me laughing when I'm chatting on the computer and I don't laugh as much around them. I'm just more tense around them because of how they don't understand my social anxiety.
 
theblank

theblank

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I remember when people used to ask me what's wrong or would say things like it's not THAT bad or smile. As annoying as it was, it was better than what I get now which is being completed ignored and treated like I don't even exist. No one asks me anything anymore because most everyone I know has written me off.
 
lurknomore

lurknomore

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I get this too, and usually when absolutely nothing is wrong. But what's weird is that when there is something wrong, no one seems to notice or say anything. When it does happen that someone asks what's wrong when something really is (depending on who's asking), I don't mind and actually appreciate the invitation to vent. Maybe my "natural" demeanor implies that I'm sad, and I'm more guarded about it when I really am sad/anxious/angry/etc.
 
lyricalliaisons

lyricalliaisons

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That definitely does happen to me. Ill be in a perfectly good mood (for the most part) & someone will come up & say something like that to me. When they do, it immediately takes me out of my good mood & ruins it. I immediately get made at them & feel horrible & agitated afterwards.
 
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da_illest101

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yea i get that all the time, people think that i'm mad just because i don't smile, Lol I need a reason to smile like something funny, I can't auto-smile for no reason
 
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powerfulthoughts

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This happens to me. One time at my job someone said, "hey why are you acting emo?" because my disposition was so sad and plain. I just thought that was funny but I have gotten the "why the long face" thing plenty of times also. There's nothing I can do to fight it except to try and be more comfortable in my own skin. Other than that.... I just deal with it. If they don't like it... oh well. They can go screw themselves.
 
Hellhound

Hellhound

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Not exactly "what's wrong?", but I've been asked if I'm angry just because I look serious and I don't laugh all the time like a hyena :/
 
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Liberty

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ShyIrishFox said:
I hate it when random people ask me "Hey, What's wrong?" when I feel fine and there's nothing wrong.
Because of my SAD, my default position is eyes to the ground, mouth is a straight line, hands holding either purse strap or backpack straps.
Granted, that might be mistaken for sadness or distress. But usually, In that position, I feel just fine.
I don't know... it just grinds my gears is all.
Does this happen to you?
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Absolutely. Gets on my nerves. What's worse is when my expressions spread to other people. I get to see how I behave and it's not pretty.

Once while eating out at a restaurant with a dozen classmates I was sitting at the table and I tend to drift in and out of being "engaged" in my surroundings. It's a sort of involuntary way to avoid the cause of my fear called "disengaging". It feels perfectly natural to me as I am now but it is highly unusual to those who do not have a core belief about themselves that causes SA. I made it about halfway through until I finished my food and then since no one was talking I began disengaging and it started spreading to my classmates for some reason. Before I knew it they all started asking one another what they were thinking about. It was kind of embarassing.
 
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Ignace

Ignace

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Julesie said:
Not really. Though my parents tend to think I'm always down. Though in truth I'm totally fine. Other times they get jealous because they hear me laughing when I'm chatting on the computer and I don't laugh as much around them. I'm just more tense around them because of how they don't understand my social anxiety.
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Same here buddy !;)
 
anomicdeer

anomicdeer

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Julesie said:
Not really. Though my parents tend to think I'm always down. Though in truth I'm totally fine. Other times they get jealous because they hear me laughing when I'm chatting on the computer and I don't laugh as much around them. I'm just more tense around them because of how they don't understand my social anxiety.
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I'm the same way. I'm not as open to my parents as I am to some other people.
 
anomicdeer

anomicdeer

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lyricalliaisons said:
That definitely does happen to me. Ill be in a perfectly good mood (for the most part) & someone will come up & say something like that to me. When they do, it immediately takes me out of my good mood & ruins it. I immediately get made at them & feel horrible & agitated afterwards.
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Same here.
I'm just minding my own business or whatever, then someone asked and I know that someone is just...watching me.
 
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