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Old 05-06-2010
 

Does it kinda get to you? Like, you wonder if they don't like you, or if they think you're weird, or maybe they're just kinda weird themselves and do it to everybody? Tell me, do you have these thoughts?
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Old 05-06-2010
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It has happened to me before and I didn't like it so I stopped talking to that person completely. I did have those thoughts you described. Good people will always say hi to you. There's no excuse for not doing it.
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Old 05-06-2010
 

i feel that everyone (outside of my family) looks down thier noses at me, thinking they are something fkn special.
i try to think of lyrics from a bob marley song when i feel like that.

"Well, the biggest - biggest man you ever - ever
Did-a see was-a - was-a once a baby."
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Old 05-06-2010
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I get that a lot, I know a lot of people, but they're only mere acquaintances so I guess I'd understand from that perspective. It's not like we associate with each other. Though I'm the kind of person that if I don't know you well, I would only say hi when they say it because I'm not sure if they remember me - so maybe it's the same for them. Even if it's not a hi, a smile is enough - though I smile at everyone...
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Old 05-06-2010
 

Yes its very strange. People in my family like cousins and stuff i ignore and they ignore me when we cross paths.
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Old 05-07-2010
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Well, I'm usually too shy to say hi first unless it's someone I know fairly well. Sometimes I'll look away and pretend not to see people. If I see an acquaintance I haven't seen in a while sometimes I'll wonder whether they'll even recognize me anyway. And if it's someone I hardly talked to when I (sort of) knew them, who cares? Why talk to them now? I'd rather turn away and pretend not to be seen. It may even be someone I have nothing against and could say hi to, but often I'll still just look away. But then I'll wonder too if the other person noticed me and thinks I'm rude or thinks I didn't see them or if they don't even care. I dunno, whatever.
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Old 05-07-2010
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Why are you guys shy with people you know? That just seems strange to me.
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Why are you guys shy with people you know? That just seems strange to me.
I don't want to make a fool of myself in front of someone I know or whose opinion matters to me.

I could care less what a perfect stranger thinks of me (unless she's really cute).

I always worry that I won't see someone, and they'll be upset that I didn't say "hi" to them.
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Why are you guys shy with people you know? That just seems strange to me.
Honestly, I get shy even around my friends sometimes I've grown apart from friends in the past just cause I was afraid to call. But sometimes I figured they aren't trying too hard to keep in touch either, so it's only partly my fault. Sometimes I just don't know what to say to my friends. I might want to bring something up but I won't know how to or something. It sucks.
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Does it kinda get to you? Like, you wonder if they don't like you, or if they think you're weird, or maybe they're just kinda weird themselves and do it to everybody? Tell me, do you have these thoughts?
Yeah it bothers me. Happened to me this morning, as I was walking out to my car to go to work someone who knows my next door neighbor says "Hi" so I just say Hi back and then some other guy in the parking lot says, "Going to work?" with a big grin on his face. I'm like "WTF?", who is this guy.
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Old 05-07-2010
 

I always say hi to people I know but I get really embarrassed when they remember my name and I don't remember theirs. The conversation goes really awkward when this happens.
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Old 05-07-2010
 

It bothers me, yes. But I know that I do the same thing most times. I am really trying to make a point of saying "hi" to people at church, whether I know them or not.
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Why are you guys shy with people you know? That just seems strange to me.
Yeah I with you on that. If I know someone, and have a good rapport, I at least nod. If not, I feel like I'm sending "I don't like you" vibes. But... oh well.
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I say hi back and/or smile.

I think "what the hell do you want and what are you up to?"
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Old 05-07-2010
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Maybe they have S.A. too? I mean I have S.A. with people I know sometimes. It doesnt matter. It doesnt discriminate.

BUT...its also possible maybe the person is in a bad mood that day, or they have stuff on their mind etc.
I mean yeah there have been times I have wondered why people I know may not say hello to me, but then I feel like a hypocrite because I have done the same thing at times.
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Old 05-09-2010
 

I find it sad some days that I will see people I went to school with, even if it was for only a year and remember them but they don't remember me. It hurts at times to think I'm not as memorable, I guess? But I try not to take it personally, those who I do know and talk with on a frequent basis that don't wave to me doesn't bother me, only because I'm quiet so I make eye contact, a head nod maybe but that's it. I don't expect them to go out of their way to come over to me.
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I find it sad some days that I will see people I went to school with, even if it was for only a year and remember them but they don't remember me. It hurts at times to think I'm not as memorable, I guess? But I try not to take it personally, those who I do know and talk with on a frequent basis that don't wave to me doesn't bother me, only because I'm quiet so I make eye contact, a head nod maybe but that's it. I don't expect them to go out of their way to come over to me.
Maybe they do remember you and they just ignore you anyway.... You're very pretty so it's unlikely they won't remember you..... I'm useless with faces so I don't really have this problem.
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Maybe they do remember you and they just ignore you anyway.... You're very pretty so it's unlikely they won't remember you..... I'm useless with faces so I don't really have this problem.
Well that doesn't make me feel any better about the situation, I'm not talking memorable in a conceited way of course. For instance I went to a a new school for almost ever year until sixth grade. I can tell you every person in my grades, even better are those I called my friends. I will see them, remember them but I can tell that recognition wise I don't register to them. I guess it's just because I memorize faces. Still doesn't feel good and looks have nothing to do with it though it was sweet of you to call me pretty.
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Old 05-09-2010
 

I very occasionally receive greetings from people who I don't recognize. Though in my case it's because I have been to so many different schools (at least 16 that I can remember off the top of my head!), that I just don't have enough time to get used to them all, so I inevitably forget about them.
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Well that doesn't make me feel any better about the situation, I'm not talking memorable in a conceited way of course. For instance I went to a a new school for almost ever year until sixth grade. I can tell you every person in my grades, even better are those I called my friends. I will see them, remember them but I can tell that recognition wise I don't register to them. I guess it's just because I memorize faces. Still doesn't feel good and looks have nothing to do with it though it was sweet of you to call me pretty.
Sorry if I sounded harsh. If I knew a person as a friend and I passed them in the street and they didn't recognize me I would be upset definitely.
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