theoutsider
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Anybody else with SA feel this way? It just seems like there's one indignity or act of disrespect directed at us at all times. It's downright uncanny. It's like people who don't even know us target us. Today, I'm walking back to work after accompanying a co-worker to get coffee. I work in an area of downtown where there's quite a few homeless people with mental issues. So of course some homeless clown picks me out of the crowd. He starts walking directly toward me so no problem, I sidestep to get out of his way. As we are passing each other he shouts, "Oh, sorry about that you p**sy!" Now, I'm not afraid of the guy but it was so unexpected that it caught me off guard. Before I can even think of a response, the whole thing is over and he has walked past. I decide there's no point in going after some homeless guy who probably has issues but I felt really stupid like everybody, including my co-worker, is looking at me like I'm the biggest fool. It's always like that!
One time on a crowded elevator, this woman was agitated about something. When she got to her floor she began to rush off the elevator. Well something on her purse got caught on the back of my pants. I felt the tug immediately and tried to tell her to wait a minute. She didn't listen and took off in her rush. I had no choice but to take a few steps with her or risk having my pants ripped off me from the back. So I'm literally being dragged off the elevator by the seat of my pants. She finally heard me telling her what was happening, stopped and began to disengage whatever was caught on my pants. She gets off, I'm still in the elevator and people still inside can't hold in their laughter. Embarassment - 1, Me - 0.
The stories just go on and on. Do these things happen to everyone or do they happen more often to people with SA? Maybe they do and I tend to overthink and make a bigger deal out of it than anyone else. I try to put myself in the position of a person who had just witnessed what had happened. I have to admit if I saw it happen to someone else, I would probably note it as interesting and forget about it. On the other hand, it seems to be funnier/more interesting to people when it happens to someone who is already uncomfortable with life. Am I alone in thinking this?
One time on a crowded elevator, this woman was agitated about something. When she got to her floor she began to rush off the elevator. Well something on her purse got caught on the back of my pants. I felt the tug immediately and tried to tell her to wait a minute. She didn't listen and took off in her rush. I had no choice but to take a few steps with her or risk having my pants ripped off me from the back. So I'm literally being dragged off the elevator by the seat of my pants. She finally heard me telling her what was happening, stopped and began to disengage whatever was caught on my pants. She gets off, I'm still in the elevator and people still inside can't hold in their laughter. Embarassment - 1, Me - 0.
The stories just go on and on. Do these things happen to everyone or do they happen more often to people with SA? Maybe they do and I tend to overthink and make a bigger deal out of it than anyone else. I try to put myself in the position of a person who had just witnessed what had happened. I have to admit if I saw it happen to someone else, I would probably note it as interesting and forget about it. On the other hand, it seems to be funnier/more interesting to people when it happens to someone who is already uncomfortable with life. Am I alone in thinking this?