Who are you attracted to?

I think I have weird taste in men, I don't like the "hollywood" male look/style like Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise, Ryan Gosling, ect. I know I might get bashed but I don't even care for men like James Spader, I'm sorry but he and the others just doesn't seem to do anything for me, but different strokes for folks. Personally I've recently found myself to certain singers/actors like Thom Yorke(Radio Head), Buster Keaton, Stone Gossard (Pearl Jam), Erik Knudsen(Scott Pilgrim, Saw though I think those saw movies are stupid IMO), ect. Though, I know that's not a lot, those are the people I could think up in my head that I strangely find myself crushing on. Most people, even my family never thought I liked any boys, or even thought any boy was cute but that's far from the truth. I'm just not attracted to actors/guys that may be seen as "hot" to others as I mentioned. But anyways, I just want other opinions out there.

I don't think this is weird at all, the sort of people you mention are liked for factors beyond the shallowness of just their looks, for example their creativity, sense of humour, achievements, etc. I have unusual likings like this too

I'm pretty similar. I don't think it's weird. I guess I tend to be attracted to people who aren't necessarily considered conventionally attractive or universally hot. I'm not really into Brad or Ryan looks-wise. I think Tom looks okay. Some examples of people I find attractive would be Samuel Larsen, Andrew Garfield, Terrence J, and Sam Rockwell.

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I'm usually attracted to shy, quiet women. Women who may be pretty but don't think a whole lot of themselves. Most of the girls/women I've had a crush on over the course of my life have been ones who were not really of the "in crowd". They tended to be more simple in terms of dress and had a sense of being down to earth. I thought they were all pretty but they never gave an air of someone who felt above others because of their looks.

I think I like women who don't chase being loved by the masses. One who doesn't feel the need to be the Prom Queen or the most popular one. One who doesn't try to replicate the fame junkies we see on tv. Someone simple on the outside but not simple minded on the inside.

I always thought Princess Diana was a great example. She could look comfortable as a celebrity/royal, but you got to see that she looks completely sincere and at home when she did humanitarian work, and possibly even preferred holding an underprivileged child instead of being at a function for the extremely rich. But don't get me wrong, I'm not saying everyone rich and privileged in an arrogant snob or that all popular people are attention seekers.

planemo said:

I'm usually attracted to shy, quiet women. Women who may be pretty but don't think a whole lot of themselves. Most of the girls/women I've had a crush on over the course of my life have been ones who were not really of the "in crowd". They tended to be more simple in terms of dress and had a sense of being down to earth. I thought they were all pretty but they never gave an air of someone who felt above others because of their looks.

I think I like women who don't chase being loved by the masses. One who doesn't feel the need to be the Prom Queen or the most popular one. One who doesn't try to replicate the fame junkies we see on tv. Someone simple on the outside but not simple minded on the inside.

I always thought Princess Diana was a great example. She could look comfortable as a celebrity/royal, but you got to see that she looks completely sincere and at home when she did humanitarian work, and possibly even preferred holding an underprivileged child instead of being at a function for the extremely rich. But don't get me wrong, I'm not saying everyone rich and privileged in an arrogant snob or that all popular people are attention seekers.

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This is pretty much spot on.

also, There was a character from the show "Louie" played by Parker Posey named Liz that fit many of the attributes I like in a woman or girl....she was kind of weird but i like that.

I'm not attracted to the best looking or the coolest. I need to feel that connection with someone. A mutual understanding. Mutual trust. Mutual admiration.

That 'mind connection' or being on the same wavelength sets the foundation for a more deep and meaningful friendship/relationship.

My girlfriend. Done. She's the prettiest woman in the world. Like I have shown pictures to a few other people (on their request) and even they say how beautiful she is.

Edit: We broke up. I'm devastated.

PugofCrydee said:

I'm not attracted to the best looking or the coolest. I need to feel that connection with someone. A mutual understanding. Mutual trust. Mutual admiration.

That 'mind connection' or being on the same wavelength sets the foundation for a more deep and meaningful friendship/relationship.

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I am very much the same way.

I've always been attracted to weird and neurotic girls. Women with a little bit of fire in them. Women who see the world in a different way. Maybe even a tad bit self destructive.
I really had a thing for goth girls in my younger days.

I appreciate to all who responded so far. And I agree so far that I think people out there who are considered conventionally attractive I don't fancy over. I know I was around a lot of girls who said that they liked people like Brad Pitt, Zac Efron (another actor I don't care for), Ryan Reynolds, even guys who were like "teen heart throbs" like Leonardo Dicaprio. The only reason I wouldn't want to tell people what kind of guys I like be it actors or guys in general, is because they laugh or they think these guys are weird looking, the ones I just mentioned I like. I know that the people such as Tom Yorke or Buster Keaton for example, probably a lot of girls wouldn't pick those people on their top radar of attractive people. I know they are certainly not the kind of people that probably aren't talked about too much or uncommon nowadays.

But for me, personally, I guess I see something more with these kind of people, like there's more to them I find attractive. I think I may even prefer weird looking guys the best over holly wood male model types. My sister would always go "Eww that guy is weird looking." "Ooooh, Jamie has a crush on him," But I can't help it. Maybe people associate that I'm so pretty that they think those guys would be far out my league or something and I wish they'd stop that. I mean if I don't like someone others can deem as handsome on TV or an actor, I must be crazy or they think I like girls. I mean really?? Just because I'm not interested in guys that are tall, are muscular, manly, ect, doesn't mean that there's not other guys out there I'm attracted to. I guess I might be that person who has not so typical crushes when it comes to attraction.

I'd also like to add that the guys I see on magazines, the ones that look buff and tall, I'm not attracted to that either. What kind of guys I'm attracted to are the ones who are the opposite from those male models. Heck, I may be guilty for saying this, I've even been obsessed with Elijah Wood and I know even some people I was around with said he was very girly looking or weird looking. Even my sister teases me about it. I actually don't mind guys who look weird, or at least many people consider them as. I guess the attraction all boils down to those guys that aren't very well known and effeminate kind of looking people, who don't acquire a lot of recognition. In all honesty, I like a guy who doesn't conform to typical standards when it comes to appearance/personality. I like shy, polite, artistic, also neurotic guys. I prefer same height over a guy who's tall.

Sameness is boring. I think that shows such as The Bachelor are relevant to this thread where everyone does their best to fit the standard mold

I don't like male model types either. I like a guy who is a bit shy/introverted, artistic, creative, mysterious, kind-hearted, caring, understanding, loving, a little weird and off beat, interesting, kind of nerdy and has a really good sense of humor (dark humor, mostly). Humor is really important to me - sometimes life is so ****ed up all you can do is laugh. Physically, green eyes, black hair, not really skinny or too short (shorter than me) is really attractive to me - I like tall guys. While I can agree that looks are important to a certain extent, I value who a person is and having a strong connection with them more.

Also, (this might be true for most women) I like feeling like a guy can protect me. That's kind of a big turn on for me.

Tough question
usually told that im shallow and vain by the people closest to me
. I'm usually attracted to mainly just looks though i have been trying to change that. I married a girl just cause she was so damn good looking to me. I disliked everything about her , even the sex wasn't all that but i loved the way the she looked. Even though she had an unconventional looking face, i love unconventional.
Light skinned , short and skinny girls are what i love. 5'4 and shorter with small feet are major turn ons for me. Girls who i can pick up and man handle. I also like girls who aren't really girly and can do things for themselves . Girls who want to be treated like "princesses" are a turnoff.

kihira said:

Sameness is boring. I think that shows such as The Bachelor are relevant to this thread where everyone does their best to fit the standard mold

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Yep, those page 3 models have mildew all over them.

I found my perfect match for attraction physically she has a gorgeous face. Her eyes are a blue/grey color, she has an amazing smile, cute little nose and ears . her hair looks good long and short I met her with medium hair. It's a dark brown color which I really like. She has a beautiful body it's not muscle but it's not fat it's a mixture that really works she would be called slim with some curves . On top of that she has an amazing personality which was my biggest attraction. She loves almost everything I do and she really shows interest. She's intelligent, she does everything that's right for her, she's caring, and she isn't afraid to learn new things. I don't really look at any woman and feel attracted because she is my attraction in one person I'm lucky to have found her. Also she is shorter then me which I love

Though I never told my friends which girls I found attractive, when they say their preferences I can tell we have different tastes. I guess I'm mostly attracted to women one would describe as 'cute' while they're attracted to those described as 'hot'. They'd never even mention the girls I found attractive when they themselves were discussing which girls they found attractive.

In terms of personality, they can't be crazy, too introverted or too extroverted. Must also be open-minded and with a good sense of humour. I knew this girl who I kinda liked but she didn't find things funny so I kinda lost interest in her over time.

Body-wise, not too skinny nor fat (a bit chubby is ok). I don't think I'd feel comfortable with a very short girl (below 150cm, more or less), even though I am short myself. On the other hand, I think I could get used to dating a taller girl, but I can't say for certain. Any skin colour is fine, except orange. Other than that, if the girl has the same body type as my sister I won't feel attracted to her physically because she'd remind me of my sister all the time.

Ignopius said:

My girlfriend. Done. She's the prettiest woman in the world. Like I have shown pictures to a few other people (on their request) and even they say how beautiful she is.

Edit: We broke up. I'm devastated.

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Oh man, that's awful. :sad: Sorry to hear that.

Possums. I like the cut of their jib. Rrrrrr.