Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
Not really looking for advice here, I'm just wondering if anyone relate to this and curious how you deal with it.
I've made very important progress in the last 3 years, social-phobia-wise (and health wise at the same time). I would say the last 3 years were a constant chain of small (and bigger) victories. I got a steady job and established very good relationships with co-workers over time. I became more confident and less self-conscious. I made a couple of big moves in order to realize a dream that I have since I'm 15 years old, and things are going in the right direction so far.
Anyway, with all that confidence and everything, my boss is giving me more responsabilities. Personally I think it sucks, I'm not a career person, but that's not my point right now: It made me realize that I don't feel like I'm entitled to give orders to people and tell them if they are doing right or wrong. Everytime I say something like "take X with you and go check blahblahblah" or "you should do it this way, not that way" I'm thinking to myself "listen to yourself, giving orders, telling people what to do! Who do you think you are??"
I know the reason to this. even though everyone tells me they like working with me, even though my boss say he's happy with my work, there is always this certitude that I'm dumber than most. In fact, the main reason I'm so proud of myself is because I'm thinking, wow. I got there with THAT brain (and absolute lack of charisma)?
I also know the way to fix it is to keep doing what I'm doing right now to improve my self-esteem. Or at least I think this is the way.
Anyone else has ever experienced this "Waaaaait who do you think you are" feeling?
I've made very important progress in the last 3 years, social-phobia-wise (and health wise at the same time). I would say the last 3 years were a constant chain of small (and bigger) victories. I got a steady job and established very good relationships with co-workers over time. I became more confident and less self-conscious. I made a couple of big moves in order to realize a dream that I have since I'm 15 years old, and things are going in the right direction so far.
Anyway, with all that confidence and everything, my boss is giving me more responsabilities. Personally I think it sucks, I'm not a career person, but that's not my point right now: It made me realize that I don't feel like I'm entitled to give orders to people and tell them if they are doing right or wrong. Everytime I say something like "take X with you and go check blahblahblah" or "you should do it this way, not that way" I'm thinking to myself "listen to yourself, giving orders, telling people what to do! Who do you think you are??"
I know the reason to this. even though everyone tells me they like working with me, even though my boss say he's happy with my work, there is always this certitude that I'm dumber than most. In fact, the main reason I'm so proud of myself is because I'm thinking, wow. I got there with THAT brain (and absolute lack of charisma)?
I also know the way to fix it is to keep doing what I'm doing right now to improve my self-esteem. Or at least I think this is the way.
Anyone else has ever experienced this "Waaaaait who do you think you are" feeling?