Who would you be if you had no anxiety?

if you were not shy, if you were not afraid, if you didn't hold yourself back, who would you be? what is your ideal you? who do you imagine yourself to be?

i kind of enjoy taking personality tests and answering them how i wish i could answer them, what i really want, versus what i really do.
it's also sort of a way to set goals for behavior you really want.

i'd like to be chill, collected, friendly, charming, charismatic. i'd like to be able to approach people. i dont want to be the life of the party or a chatterbox, but i'd like to be able to hold a nice conversation with whoever. emotional, but not overly so, and in control of my emotions. confident, but not arrogant. organized, but still up for spontaneous trips, and fine if plans change suddenly. i'd like to be that person with an exciting life of adventure, but who acts like it's not a big deal. i display it, but i dont rub it in people's faces. i want to be inspiring, maybe envied. quiet and reserved, but not shy. kind of have an air of cool sophistication, with a bit of mystery and whimsy.

who would you be?

I'm actually ok with being me. After you dodge enough bullets in life that took down so many who were in your situation by your choices (and luck), you kind of feel proud and grateful to be who you are, even if you have SA and other issues...

If getting better at being yourself is an option though, I wish I were more focused and calm... It's so easy to have a storm in my head, with everything I want and think and feel going all over the place...

(Nice avatar btw... Now I can't get the song of the battle against her out of my head )

I reckon i'd be a lot more social, and even maybe a bit of a lady's man :question:

I think Id be more fun to be around. Quite a few people have acted surprised that I have a sense of humor. As if Im a stern individual.

Megaten said:

I think Id be more fun to be around. Quite a few people have acted surprised that I have a sense of humor. As if Im a stern individual.

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Me too. I can be very witty & funny, but i seldom allow myself to show that side of me.

theslowesthand said:

Me too. I can be very witty & funny, but i seldom allow myself to show that side of me.

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Yeah I hate it. It makes me feel even more isolated if Im with a group of people. Because I know that the real me isnt present, just some mask Im wearing to survive the situation. I cant even handle people telling ME jokes because Im worried that I wont get it or find it funny and make things weird.

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My short answer is somebody much more interesting

I would be in a car driving away from my happy home going to my happy job.

Someone totally different I know