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Old 11-15-2012
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I find myself going onto Facebook and other social networking sites looking up co-worker, acquaintance and old high school classmates' profiles. I feel like I do it as a way of getting to know people without actually having to talk to them, but I feel like such a creeper lol. Does anyone else do this?
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The whole idea behind Facebook is actually way creepy and weird. You're pretty much just eavesdropping on other people's private conversations and pictures. The whole point of Facebook is to show everyone else how much awesome your life is. Every single mundane life event becomes a subject of interest, which you must share with people that you barely know.
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Once upon a time (maybe 5 years ago), I used to do this; I had a crush on a classmate and was obsessed with him, so I check his fb profile and blog everyday for 1-2 years. He rejected me, told me he didn't like me, but I still did it anyways. I also checked out the fb profiles of his sisters, relatives, and friends. Right now typing this, I feel like a creep. Must be the OCD tendency in me. But I don't do this anymore. I got over it. I'm not active on fb anymore.
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Once upon a time (maybe 5 years ago), I used to do this; I had a crush on a classmate and was obsessed with him, so I check his fb profile and blog everyday for 1-2 years. He rejected me, told me he didn't like me, but I still did it anyways. I also checked out the fb profiles of his sisters, relatives, and friends. Right now typing this, I feel like a creep. Must be the OCD tendency in me. But I don't do this anymore. I got over it. I'm not active on fb anymore.
been there done that
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Old 11-15-2012
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The whole idea behind Facebook is actually way creepy and weird. You're pretty much just eavesdropping on other people's private conversations and pictures. The whole point of Facebook is to show everyone else how much awesome your life is. Every single mundane life event becomes a subject of interest, which you must share with people that you barely know.
Thats exsactly the way I feel about facebook I feel creepy going on to peoples facebooks and feel like I am encroching on there privacy. I don;t even like to post anything on facebook. I do click the like button but thats about it. I rearly do anything else
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Old 11-15-2012
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The point of Facebook and the like IS to share information. If people share information, they shouldn't complain about other people gathering it. I personally don't really care about people I don't know, but still... "stalking" was once a term used to describe a person, that constantly follows a person in real life. Looking at a profile on the web is something completley different. Especially sine the profile was put there, and set to public, voluntarily.
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I check FB when I'm in a mood for a boost, such as, when bored, with nothing to do, less than each month. I see more value in people's news rather than global crises of any type.

I warn myself that when I check, it'll either be boring, with nothing new to see, or, when there is anything nice, such as a holiday, new children, anything positive will send me into a deep misery while I do feel good for all the people I know, same age or older, who smile, and gutted how bad I feel about myself when I see their celebrations or improvements
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Thats exsactly the way I feel about facebook I feel creepy going on to peoples facebooks and feel like I am encroching on there privacy. I don;t even like to post anything on facebook. I do click the like button but thats about it. I rearly do anything else
Me too. I feel like I'm entering some super private space that I'm not supposed to enter. I always feel guilty after checking someones's FB. But then again, if their profile is open for all to see , I guess they really don't mind/care people stalking them.
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The point of Facebook and the like IS to share information. If people share information, they shouldn't complain about other people gathering it. I personally don't really care about people I don't know, but still... "stalking" was once a term used to describe a person, that constantly follows a person in real life. Looking at a profile on the web is something completley different. Especially since the profile was put there, and set to public, voluntarily.
Well said. Btw I donīt think the "whole purpose of FB is to show everyone how awesome your life is". There are surely people who do it but not all of them, many just like to share information, interesting things or news.
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Old 11-15-2012
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Everybody does it Creeps and non-creeps

I don't think it's showing off. Sharing info about your life is what we do.
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I do this .

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I am such a creep because I like it
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Old 11-15-2012
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I was thinking on the fact today that with my anxiety comes this notion that I need people's permission to do things. Like making eye contact, being in their space, talking to them, touching them. The anxiety is much less when I'm welcomed by them or feel there's no permission necessary. But I'm wondering if for the people who find it weird and intrusive, if there's some correlation with that and the social phobics mindset of perceived barriers.
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Me too. I feel like I'm entering some super private space that I'm not supposed to enter. I always feel guilty after checking someones's FB. But then again, if their profile is open for all to see , I guess they really don't mind/care people stalking them.
even if there on my friends list I still feel like I am entering there private space and feel kinda awkward.
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If anything for me, facebook just makes me realise how alone I really am. I see 95% of the people on my friends list putting photos up of what they have been up to at the weekend and you can see them with their friends and they're all having fun whilst you never see photos of me like that on there because I don't have any offline friends. Most of the people on my facebook are just family members or relatives. I have a few online friends on there (who are in a different country to me) and the rest are just people who knew me from school. I like to browse and see what people are up to when I'm bored but other than that I keep thinking why on earth do I even use facebook. Social media and all that goes with it just sounds way out of my league and scary lol
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Old 11-16-2012
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Well... I made a Facebook page when I was in high school JUST to stalk guys I found attractive. I don't use it much anymore, and I've never posted much on it because I don't do anything interesting. I don't know why anyone would want to pour his or her life onto a webpage for the world to scrutinize. But people do it all the time, and you have the right to read all of it without feeling creepy.
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Old 11-16-2012
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I'm a creep, as well.
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Old 11-16-2012
 

I'm the ultimate creep. I check facebook daily basis to check people profile pictures and status most of the time. it's became a habbit for me that I want to get rid of. I don't post and considered to be passive on facebook but I'm not.
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Old 11-16-2012
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I feel guilty of the time I waste on social sites, not of looking at peoples profiles. If they post it I assume they want me to see it. And if you're the type to message randoms like I am, you can learn a lot about how to steer a conversation with them. In that way it's almost a crutch because people in the real world don't walk around with an advertisement for what makes them laugh, what music they like, or what turns them on. Also, if you message people without reading their profile it's considered lazy and rude. And chances are you will ask something they've answered on there already when you could be asking them about it instead.
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Old 11-17-2012
 

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The whole idea behind Facebook is actually way creepy and weird. You're pretty much just eavesdropping on other people's private conversations and pictures. The whole point of Facebook is to show everyone else how much awesome your life is. Every single mundane life event becomes a subject of interest, which you must share with people that you barely know.

Yes I believe to a large extent this is true. There are seriously way too many pictures showing just how awesome one's life is. I would understand say a few pictures on a party you are attending to keep friends updated on the nature/ theme of it etc. but 20 pictures? Also not unusual these pictures can be painstikingly photoshop just so they look their best. If its not for showing off just awesome they are etc. then what is the purpose. If you just want to share the event to your friends you can do with a quick post and a few pictures no need to spend so much time altering it till its perfect just to put it on FB.
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