Why do they all seem cold to me? Do they all think they have a right to treat me like sh*t even though they don't know me or I don't deserve it?
So how do women treat you? Do they insult you or look at you with disgust on their faces?
Or is it that they don't smile and acknowledge that you're there? Because to be completely honest, people do that ALL THE TIME it's not just women ignoring you, it's everybody going about their everyday lives and not making an effort to make everybody the pass on the sidewalk feel liked by them..
Why do they all seem cold to me? Do they all think they have a right to treat me like sh*t even though they don't know me or I don't deserve it?
Describe a little more how they sem cold to you. A specific situation. That description is a little vague.
If youre talking about women who dont know you...well its not that abnormal for someone who deosnt know you to be...i dunno...cold towards you.
If you're talking about a woman u know and knows u, then u should ask yourself how are u behaving to her ? are u being cold towards her ? A lot of poeple say to me that i'm cold...but in fact..im just hiding my feelings, damn SP. For example..my ex told me after the first night that she didnt ever thought i could be so passional, cause at the first free dates i seemed so cold.
And even though they don't know you, like u said, they have the right to treat anybody as they want, not only you. It's a free country, democracy and all that. U have that right too, as long as u dont brake the law. But think a little, if u give them a chance to know you, maybe they will treat you right, did u think of that ? Because to them, you are like just any other person they see for the first time. So give them a chance to know you and you'll see a difference.
Thats my 2 cents. Take care
Like, do they expect me to be very brave and just, and say hi to them in an absolutely uncaring, joking way (as in "I don't care what you think, I'm sayin hi whether you like it or not, in a flirting way too"). Or just.. be a little more friendly, and be more nice in a more outgoing way...
Yes.
Although I'm quite far from being an expert on the subject of conversing with women, I've found that just being friendly works wonders for the encounter. If you're afraid, worried, or whatever when you approach someone she'll usually pick up on it right away. And once she's uncomfortable, you'll have a hard time getting a favorable reaction out of her.
It's probably not the best analogy to use, but imagine approaching an unfamiliar dog. If you walk up looking all tense and nervous, the dog picks up on that and you're more likely to get bitten. On the other hand, if you're friendly and nonthreatening, the dog might let you pet it. Not that you necessarily want to pet every dog or girl you talk to, though.
Seriously though, just being friendly to people usually won't creep them out. And I've been guilty of the awkward, silent approach too many times myself. So just give it a whirl. At first you'll be nervous or afraid, but as you get used to doing it you'll gain more confidence in yourself. And after a while it'll become second-nature, and you'll wonder why it ever made you nervous at all.
Oh, and you're not a pussy for not saying anything. For all she knows, you might not be interested enough to say anything. Heck, maybe by looking interested and not saying anything you're making her wonder what's wrong with herself.
Yes.
Although I'm quite far from being an expert on the subject of conversing with women, I've found that just being friendly works wonders for the encounter. If you're afraid, worried, or whatever when you approach someone she'll usually pick up on it right away. And once she's uncomfortable, you'll have a hard time getting a favorable reaction out of her.
It's probably not the best analogy to use, but imagine approaching an unfamiliar dog. If you walk up looking all tense and nervous, the dog picks up on that and you're more likely to get bitten. On the other hand, if you're friendly and nonthreatening, the dog might let you pet it. Not that you necessarily want to pet every dog or girl you talk to, though.
Seriously though, just being friendly to people usually won't creep them out. And I've been guilty of the awkward, silent approach too many times myself. So just give it a whirl. At first you'll be nervous or afraid, but as you get used to doing it you'll gain more confidence in yourself. And after a while it'll become second-nature, and you'll wonder why it ever made you nervous at all.
Oh, and you're not a pussy for not saying anything. For all she knows, you might not be interested enough to say anything. Heck, maybe by looking interested and not saying anything you're making her wonder what's wrong with herself.
So how do women treat you? Do they insult you or look at you with disgust on their faces?
Or is it that they don't smile and acknowledge that you're there? Because to be completely honest, people do that ALL THE TIME it's not just women ignoring you, it's everybody going about their everyday lives and not making an effort to make everybody the pass on the sidewalk feel liked by them..
I agree.
no1, you know perfectly well what the problem is but you want to blame anything else but yourself. You obviously make NO effort to overcome your fears and approach women, so you have these irrational beliefs about them hating you, or being robotic, or being whores, etc. What ACTION have you actually taken to approach women in the past few months? Have you made an effort to talk to any women you don't know? Have you struck up any conversations? Or have you only stared at them in public, too afraid to act, and then posted resentful comments about them on the Internet?