ChAiNz

As u all kno i suffer from SP, and have struggled all my life with being overly sensitive. I remember being shy as a little kid but i never realized that i was also sensitive, as i got older i became aware that other peoples' comments and criticism about me made me feel extremely bad to the point of feeling very awkward and embarrased. Today was no different, i i approached one of my coworkers and he made a comment to another coworker about my clothes and later made a comment about my slang, he was prolly just joking around but i took it seriously and made me feel really bad. Another experience that i remember was when my girlfriend made a comment abut me being a momma's boy, it made me feel so embarrased and angry that I stopped talking to her for a day. I kno this is overexagerating but the fear of being embarrased and critised has held me back from trying new things such as dating, friendships, work, etc.. I hope u guys have any input on this topic.

richkid

The fear off critism or embrassement goes straight to the heart. My house mates gave me a nickname which probably was just for a laugh, but knowing how they act around others i took it personally and did understand why they where doing it. I still don't know, it ****s your head up because you think the worst. I think its taken things to heart that make you sensitive not a bad thing but you have to "learn" key word learn when to take it when to give and when to say you've had enough and stick up for yourself. Take as good as you give, you don't have to lay down dead. People respect you more if you speak you mind. Why should you feel bad about what someone else has say? If you don't like it do something about it. The ability to know your emotions and stay in control of your emotions is bloody diffcult, everyone takes whats thrown at them in different ways, just don't internalise it. I wouldn't take it out on your girlfriend if she said something that you feel unhappy with tell her don't push your angry on her.

Anonymous

Heya Richkid

I certainly DON'T have all the answers, (I wish I did, at least, I think?) but granted, we SP's do seem to be over sensitive, ALL of our feelings, emotions, seem so much more intense than 'normal' people's are. It makes me also wonder if we don't love/hate even more intensely? hmmmm. Although it really sux becasue I don't think our feelings are returned (unless it's by another SP?) I don't really consider the over sensitivy such a bad thing anymore. OUR feelings are GENUINE Richkid.... they come from our hearts, souls. I think WE ARE REAL, and the so-considered normal people are put-ons much of the time---PHONY. If being considered 'normal' also means being a fake, I would rather be SP. I'm serious about that too, as much as the disorder SUX.

I have a few close SP friends.... when they telephone me/write to me, I don't ever second guess them, I KNOW perfectly well that they mean every thought/word, it comes from their hearts, just like mine. If I ever receive gifts, or cards from them-- same deal-- genuine, not just something to appease me or make themselves 'look good', and I also know for certain they never once thought about the money they may have spent on the gift or the time it took them to send the card, because like me, the gifts, cards. and thoughts were GENUINE, they came from my heart.

It sux---- because no one 'normal' realizes just how GENUINE and REAL we are, but we are, Richkid. Be proud of being real, and be thankful to have the ability to be 'connected' with the "unphony' here at this forum. I'm convinced that there IS A REASON for our sensitivty, maybe I won't know it in this lifetime and maybe it's for a reason for upcoming, future generations and I'll never know it... but that's my thoughts and dream and I'm holding onto it because it makes me feel damn good about myself instead of feeling like a freak and loathing everything about me.

I would much rather be writing to YOU Richkid, or any other SP and telling THEM my inner most thoughts rather than some phony, put on, social addict that could possibly even hurt me for revealing those feelings openly to them.

Anonymous

My post was meant for Chainz & Richkid... sorry. :oops:

richkid

Being genuine is defintely a key charteristic of being a decent person. A what point do you put up or shut up? I would be rather tell someone to there face how i feel about them or myself for that matter rather than just holding it in. I think i would respect someone more if they said to me how they felt regardless if i don't like it. I would like to think that it would mean something could be sorted out. At the same time people don't because you want to be liked which ideally would mean be submissive. Every situation has to be looked at seperatley. I personally would have enough confidence to just go NO, **** off! I haven't learnt when to choose my battles which i feel is a shame.