why do girls play hard to get?
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agoraphobickatie
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because ::sings:: "i waaaant you to waaant me, i neeeeed you to neeeed meeee, i'd loooooove you to looove meee, i'm beeeeggin' you to beggg meeee" lol 
YouTube - I Want You To Want Me - Cheap Trick
idk, girls want to feel wanted, needed and loved.. so if we have to play hard to get to make you make us feel that way, then we do..... blahhhh, it's all a stupid game so we can feel more secure
YouTube - I Want You To Want Me - Cheap Trick
idk, girls want to feel wanted, needed and loved.. so if we have to play hard to get to make you make us feel that way, then we do..... blahhhh, it's all a stupid game so we can feel more secure
Ignace
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I don't know about that. You can tell a lot from a guy's behaviour. Playboys are more likely to cheat on them then 'regular'/shy guys. That's just an opinion though, I'm not saying regular/shy guys are immune for other girls.
Sinar_Matahari
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Sometimes because guys like the chase and we want to present a challenge. Apparently, some guys will value you more if you make them work for it. And sometimes it's because we don't want to be seen as desperate or slutty for showing interest right away. Sometimes it's because it's fun. Also, you might want to see how bad a person really wants you. How far they're willing to chase you to have you. Some people find that kind of thing exciting.
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Other people have said it, she wants to get to know you and see if you're worthy of her time and affection and serious in your intentions, and ready to make an effort.. Basically, she's testing you.
Many guys (and some girls) can fall in love very quickly, and some can fall out of love quickly too.. So by pacing it she's giving you a chance to get to know each other better and see if you're compatible. Basically, she's protecting her heart.
She might like you very much and be shy around you. Or, she might not like you that much. (Or at all.) These can be sometimes difficult to tell apart, but you can see if her smile is genuine (she may be interested in being friends or something more then) or if she rolls her eyes when she sees you, or something like that..
There were also guys I wasn't interested in that I wasn't playing hard to get, I was simply avoiding them! lol There's a difference!! (I could laugh and joke with them too, if they started conversation, in fact much more easily than with someone I was really attracted to... So just rapport in conversation doesn't necessarily mean anything. Also, if she tries to set you up with her friend, she's probably not interested.)
By 'playing hard to get' some guys can be more interested because they see you have standards and such, and a life, and they don't take you for granted. Some shy guys can unfortunately be scared away, though. Not all girls are well-versed in flirting, and even those that are, sometimes just use it to 'test' their powers over men.. or may get scared if they start feeling for you too much, or it doesn't seem to be a good time or something.. But if you really like her you will pursue her.. (Maybe we read too many Cinderella stories??)
lol Sounds complicated, no? I wonder how some people still manage to date!! lol!!
Many guys (and some girls) can fall in love very quickly, and some can fall out of love quickly too.. So by pacing it she's giving you a chance to get to know each other better and see if you're compatible. Basically, she's protecting her heart.
She might like you very much and be shy around you. Or, she might not like you that much. (Or at all.) These can be sometimes difficult to tell apart, but you can see if her smile is genuine (she may be interested in being friends or something more then) or if she rolls her eyes when she sees you, or something like that..
There were also guys I wasn't interested in that I wasn't playing hard to get, I was simply avoiding them! lol There's a difference!! (I could laugh and joke with them too, if they started conversation, in fact much more easily than with someone I was really attracted to... So just rapport in conversation doesn't necessarily mean anything. Also, if she tries to set you up with her friend, she's probably not interested.)
By 'playing hard to get' some guys can be more interested because they see you have standards and such, and a life, and they don't take you for granted. Some shy guys can unfortunately be scared away, though. Not all girls are well-versed in flirting, and even those that are, sometimes just use it to 'test' their powers over men.. or may get scared if they start feeling for you too much, or it doesn't seem to be a good time or something.. But if you really like her you will pursue her.. (Maybe we read too many Cinderella stories??)
lol Sounds complicated, no? I wonder how some people still manage to date!! lol!!
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Falkor
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Because when someone is unreachable it makes its more interesting, mysterious, exciting, cool, to fall in love with that person, and girls usually play ''hard to get'' because than the other person ''tries'' even more to GET her!
the girls want to see how much the guy ''Goes'' for her!!
the girls want to see how much the guy ''Goes'' for her!!
because ::sings:: "i waaaant you to waaant me, i neeeeed you to neeeed meeee, i'd loooooove you to looove meee, i'm beeeeggin' you to beggg meeee" lol
YouTube - I Want You To Want Me - Cheap Trick
idk, girls want to feel wanted, needed and loved.. so if we have to play hard to get to make you make us feel that way, then we do..... blahhhh, it's all a stupid game so we can feel more secure
I think girls play hard to get b/c they want to see if you'll stick around if she doesn't put out. Or she's just teasing you...one or the other...
tiredoflivingthisway
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i feel that way too
mrb
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dude there not playing hard to get , there just looking for someone nice , you know like me post edit and if there playing hard to get um dunno just pretend you have just won the lotto lol ..... joke not saying girls are after money ect oh dont mind me had a few beers lol ... ok i dont think anyone plays hard to get there just looking for someone compatible , male and female ...post edit again did i spell compatible right , god i hate spelling ......
post edit and if there playing hard to get um dunno just pretend you have just won the lotto lol ..... joke not saying girls are after money ect oh dont mind me had a few beers lol ... ok i dont think anyone plays hard to get there just looking for someone compatible , male and female ...post edit again did i spell compatible right , god i hate spelling ......
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mrb
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true but doesnt that make it more of a challenge
i mean if you like them to try to understand them ... is for me anyways
mrb
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worthy ..... were all looking for our ideal partner , so yea i soppose thats right , its not worthy its compatible methinks ....
Johno
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Girls have every right to be fussy about who they entertain..... Just as you and I do.......How about saying hi....... How are you???? Whatever happened to that....
Waybuloo
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I don't play hard to get. I don't know why other girls do it, according to magazines, TV and movies, it is because that's how you 'snare' a guy. It's all mind games, which I find unattractive. If the chase is what attracts the guy, what happens after you let him in and you get settled, you better have real substance to retain his interest, is all I think. ::
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