why do people hate quiet people so much??? - Page 2

6string · 11-20-2010

I used to think quiet people hated me. I was never rude or hateful but sometimes people take someone being quiet as not liking them. Its not right but thats probably what was going on, especially if the girl who went nuts felt a competition between the two of them. She is obviously wrong and ignorant though. Just my 1 1/2 cents

Kinetik · 11-20-2010

People likely mistake quietness for either a hidden agenda or passive-aggressiveness. I tend to think folks who don't say a lot are actually doing themselves a favor in the sense that the more you say, the more it comes back to bite you in the butt. I hate drama and I hate giving people ammunition to use against me, so I often consider it wisest to say as little as possible. Of course, being fearful of conversation helps with that.

Cynic · 11-20-2010

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Originally Posted by Kinetik

People likely mistake quietness for either a hidden agenda or passive-aggressiveness.

A lot of folk just can't mind their own business.

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Originally Posted by Kinetik

I tend to think folks who don't say a lot are actually doing themselves a favor in the sense that the more you say, the more it comes back to bite you in the butt. I hate drama and I hate giving people ammunition to use against me, so I often consider it wisest to say as little as possible. Of course, being fearful of conversation helps with that.

Excellent point.

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Originally Posted by TheAristocrat

As time passes by our age becomes more evil. It's fashionable to be conceited, selfish, outs-spoken, aggressive, violent and uneducated. And this was merely one of those many moments where it shows. I can't even begin to express how appalled I am with this, and what's worse, nobody even attempted to defend the girl being harassed!!! I'm seriously questioning whether there is any value in overcoming SA when the majority of people out there are gutter rats.

Totally agree. People for the most part are scum.

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Originally Posted by Social-E-Aukward

Haven't these people ever watched Saturday morning cartoons, back when being a good person was a GOOD thing!?

I don't remember cartoons ever giving off that impression, but I've never given it much thought.

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Originally Posted by Social-E-Aukward

Or has TV really gotten THAT BAD? Perhaps, I'm focusing too much on a few really rotten apples, and disregarding the rest of the barrel. :-\

I don't think you are at all. In my experience, whole barrels are rotten.

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Originally Posted by Adrox

You know I think people really act like animals,literally,its what I see,I told people in real life before,but I was treated as crazy,but we quiet people,people who make no allies are at bottom of the circle and just like in a social group of animals the betas get s h i t on by higher ranks for no reason,just to keep the pecking order,teasing,group teasing, bullying for no reason really show this.

Very true. People need (a) someone at the top to defer to, and (b) someone at the bottom to sh1t on, and in almost every group, there will be a scapegoat.

You're right. Humans are no different to animals.

just wanna b normal · 11-20-2010

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nobody even attempted to defend the girl being harassed!!!

nope everybody thought it was hilarious when she got slaped idk cuzz i heard a slap & everbody started bust out laughing but i didnt see it & i didnt think it was funny...

just wanna b normal · 11-20-2010

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Originally Posted by mmmm

That's disgusting!! Because she was quiet??Miss pink was obviously trying to impress the boys by picking on someone and the quiet one was an easy target because she wouldn't stand up for herself. I'm going to ask you to do the impossible. I don't know how bad your SA is but please, please if you see Miss Purple again make an effort to engage her. Even if you have to keep up a string of boring questions to force her to respond. And like, bring her over to your group so she feels like part of things. Right now she is probably thinking "someone wanted to slap me, which obviously means everyone hates me." We've all been there and we all know what we needed from people at the time. Now's your chance to give that to someone.

yeah i hear what you saying but at the time i didnt know what was going on plus its hard for me as it is to try & speak up instead speaking up 4 someone else. but yeah if i knew why she wanted to slap her i wouldve said, "thats not kool"

just wanna b normal · 11-20-2010

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People disgust me.

yeah people disgust me you just have to find the right people to hang out with...

Yes We Can · 11-20-2010

What's sad, and upsetting at the same time, is how people love to be entertained as long as it's at Someone Else's expense. If that girl had flipped out like some of the kids in these school shootings (just for the record, I not condoning that) no one at that house would've thought it was funny then.
Again, I'm not condoning it, but sometimes that's the end result.

Minty · 11-20-2010

People tend to hate people who have what they deem to be undesirable traits they themselves have. Shadow theory.

That girl probably sees silence as a weakness or feels threatened by it. Either way, by what you've told us, she sounds like an obnoxious, confrontational person. The opposite of quiet. She works hard to not be quiet because she deems that as undesirable.

She needs to work on herself. Her evaluation of the quiet girl said very little about the quiet girl. It just revealed her own weaknesses.

Richey · 11-21-2010

its a lack of empathy and it shows a huge lacking in people skills ...

can you imagine a person who cant understand a quiet person ever getting into psychology? ...

its because alot of people are still stuck in high school popularity ...

these people are not smart in my opinion. they simply don't get it, or life.

diesel · 11-21-2010

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hi! i just saw sumthing that will make you sick to your stomach. ok so i went to my friend friends house and there was couple of people there. guys & girls. ok so theres this girl in the pink who wants to slap a girl in the purple. 4 sum unkown reason. she kept telling us guys that & she thought it would be hella funny. at first i didnt know why,

i thought maybe cuzz shes was talkin **** so i kind of chuckle with them. anywayz the girl in the pink kept telling us the the whole time & she kept approaching the girl in the purple. the girl in the purple seem oddly kool about the situation, i guess cuzz she didnt know how to act(i know that feeling)but she kind of kept to herself.(i think she did slap her i dont know but i didnt see it) i know deep down shes hurting she just trying to hide it or dont know how to act. i kind of felt sorry for her cuzz i know how it feels. i didnt know what was going on but i think i was getting an idea.

anywayz idk what was going on until later i got home & i ask my "friend" why did girl pink want to slap girl purple & he replied cuzz she was quiet...im like wtf! thats retarted!

thats messed up! i didnt know girls were like that seriously cuzz girls are supposed to be more mature than boys but damn thats messed up! i didnt even talk much cuzz of the SA but the thing is i know whats wrong with me so i can kind of control it but i dont think she knows whats wrong with her & i remember that feeling & it made me sad! cuzz i know what shes going thru. idk i have a thing for quite people cuzz they understand & so do i...but yeah i dont understand how people can be so ignorant!

i have to say something here . you knew what she was going to do and you did nothing to prevent it . why didnt you do anything ? even after it happened if you were so appalled at what happened you could have at least said something then . im sorry but when people let things happen and wont even say anything even after it happened particularily that are involved i dont think can comment . now i dont mean to upset you but i can honestly say if that was me i would have intervened so i think i can justly comment here . i have stopped things from happening plenty of times myself and still do to this day .