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Old 10-15-2008  
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I'm just minding my own business, walking down the sidewalk, and almost everyone stares at me. I mean, not just a glance, but a stare. 8O I smile at them but they don't smile back, they just keep staring. Even kids do this, but I am a lot more uncaring about it if a kid does it. Mostly adult women do this. I don't stare at them bc I know how uncomfortable it is to be stared at, I just make quick glances to see if they are still looking. So, naturally, I think I must look funny/ugly/fat. However, I know I don't look funny-- if I did, family members wouldn't say I'm pretty (I don't have any friends to say so) and I would have never had boyfriends throughout my life. I also know that I am no beauty queen or model though.
I can't help but think these automatic thoughts-- they bring me down the rest of the day. Do people always stare at everyone so coldly, regardless of how they look?
This is so embarrassing to write this here. By the way, does anyone ever get SA here on this forum?
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Old 10-15-2008  
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hmm, maybe they are jealous, you know the jealous women will stare at another women in anger that might have a better house or husband, who knows. lol, just a random thought. Who knows, alot of people say its just there imagination.

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i get stares alot also, i cant help it much so its a serious problem for me. the stares are automatic and i know why i get them, but it creates so much anxiety and fear.
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i have a very pretty and cute girl friend and i notice ALOT of girls and guys stare at her like theyre jealous or envious of her. but shes shy too, so she doesnt stare back but hides her face.
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Either
1) you're very interesting to look at
2) they think you're looking at them (we can do this without realizing!)
3) you are noticing a few glances and your SP is turning them into stares.

"Usually a person has more faith in their fear than faith in their future."
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Old 10-15-2008  
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ure starting have sa.
or ure really pretty/ugly.
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Old 10-15-2008  
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i don't think it has to do with how you looks. It's more how you feel.

i think it's probablily just your SA , one person stares at you and you think the whole world is staring - i have felt this way - i also know by the other posts that you're pregnant it's probably making you much more sensitive to the situation.
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if its women then its probs jealous, because yeh people only propa stare if ur really ugly or pretty. if u looked average people wouldnt notice. i have the same problem. take it as a compliment!!
i had a girl on the train last week, propa starring. i carried on doing what i was doing, looked back and she still staring!! so i stared back at her with a blank face. and she sorta stared then looked down lol. fun times.
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This is how we come into the world; we check our surroundings out and people around us. It is just human nature for people to be interested in others and to look at them too. For those of us that are a bit too shy and anxious it can be terror, but just remember that we probably do the same thing but just not realize it.
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This is how we come into the world; we check our surroundings out and people around us. It is just human nature for people to be interested in others and to look at them too. For those of us that are a bit too shy and anxious it can be terror, but just remember that we probably do the same thing but just not realize it.
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Old 10-16-2008  
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Nah, they probably dont mean anything by it.

I'm a girl and when I see another girl who has a cute hairstyle or makeup on that I like I stare at it just to figure out how she does it so I can maybe copy it later.

'Course, when they bust me I look away. Haha
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Old 10-17-2008  
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in all honesty ..there are 3 answers

1) your ugly/fat/gross..etc etc.
2) your hot..pretty/cute/has nice style..
3) you LOOK like someone they know.

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I've noticed that old people often stare at me. I think it might be because I'm a guy and I have long hair, and they think I'm a worthless hippie or something.
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Old 11-25-2008  
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I get this, but this is probably because I'm ugly (no really! And I'm fine with it...well I don't think I am, but people seem to think so..they are so inconciderate..they'll just blurt out "God, he's ugly!" right in my face...)..next time someone stares I'll just give them the finger...

The woods are lovely, dark, and deep,
But I have promises to keep,
And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.

(Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening - Robert Frost)
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Old 11-25-2008  
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im ugly/gross too, i think ive written about it alot on this site, I just cant find a way to ignore the world and make friends. Ive been in this hole for 6 years now, I just cant show my face in public and accept the looks. Is there anybody here that has any similar problem, not just a scar or some feature they dont like but real differences in their appearance, I wish there was a way for me to cope properly with this.
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i have long hair, turing it into dreads goona open myself into a world of stares thank god for sunglasess :P
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Old 11-25-2008  
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Try looking at them, before they notice you. Don't make eye contact or anything, but let them know they're in your field of vision. If you catch their eyes smile, if you don't, just look normal (try to develop a sort of confident look)

I used to have this problem all the time, it feels horrible feeling like everone's staring at you. With me, i think it was because i'm always on my own and looked sad/lonely/pathetic (so people have this natural tendency to look if they don't think you're obseving them). So using this method has really helped me feel more confident by myself.

I'm Still hopeless at all social situations though *sigh*

so much to learn...
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Oh yeah, i forgot to mention, i have this murderous tic as well (it gets really bad when i'm nervous), which may have contributed to the stares. But try that method anyway, i'm sure it'll work
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