Why do people with social phobia think negatively of others?

shield

Well-known member
I too think very negatively of others and I think it's bad because it's an obstacle to progress. Often I see them as loud, insensitive idiots. But what is the real reason we dislike them? Is it because we see them as different?Or is it because we predict they wont like us? Or is it because we feel they have no understanding of us? I think it's the last one.
Whatever it is I think we need to find ways to remove the hateful attitudes otherwise we will never be able to connect with people.
 

hbanana11

Well-known member
I totally get what you mean. I feel like a hypocrite calling people idiots when im preaching about how everyone should accept everybody. I dont know....i dont feel like i neccesarily hate the person just their attitudes in life :(
 

mushawah

Active member
i know wut u mean,for me part of its jealousy,cuz id love to be loud and hav fun,the other part is from past experiences of people like that
 

zootdroop

Well-known member
I'm negative about everything, but especially my view of people. It started out just cause I was rejected and bullied in school, but soon went beyond that as I found out most people are just stupid and ignorant. I try hard and like people, to get rid of these prejudices I have towards people, but most of the time when I get to know them I end up not liking people for one reason or another, either cause they are just obnoxious or stupid or their beliefs or whatever. I just can't relate to people anyway, I'm too weird, my interests and ideas are just too far outside normal.
 

recluse

Well-known member
I am jealous of ''normal'' people....People who are social and seem to have fun, in contrast i feel invisible and lifeless.
 

steviegerrard489

Well-known member
Re: Why do people with social phobia think negatively of oth

shield said:
I too think very negatively of others and I think it's bad because it's an obstacle to progress. Often I see them as loud, insensitive idiots. But what is the real reason we dislike them? Is it because we see them as different?Or is it because we predict they wont like us? Or is it because we feel they have no understanding of us? I think it's the last one.
Whatever it is I think we need to find ways to remove the hateful attitudes otherwise we will never be able to connect with people.

It's because we always concentrate on the negative side of things so we tend to pick up on others negative points and not so much the positive.
 

shield

Well-known member
I am jealous of ''normal'' people

Yeah actually that's what I really think it is; Jealousy. When I think of times when I felt like I was doing better than most people I didn't feel any negativity at all. If we could have good relationships then I think that would remove the negativity. It's just that getting relationships is hard when you are negative so it's hard to ever get rid of the negativity. This social phobia is like one big catch 22 it's as if God designed it to trap us in a way that we can't escape.
 

ripewithdecay

Well-known member
I see most people as being fake, or pretend. Why? Because of the shit world we live in. I mean, should we really be happy?
For some reason it feels like being social phobic and depressed is the way it should be for everyone. So when I see them happy, I'm thinking "What the hell is that idiot so happy about?" I don't know how to exactly explain it.
 

villacjs

Well-known member
Re: Why do people with social phobia think negatively of oth

steviegerrard489 said:
shield said:
I too think very negatively of others and I think it's bad because it's an obstacle to progress. Often I see them as loud, insensitive idiots. But what is the real reason we dislike them? Is it because we see them as different?Or is it because we predict they wont like us? Or is it because we feel they have no understanding of us? I think it's the last one.
Whatever it is I think we need to find ways to remove the hateful attitudes otherwise we will never be able to connect with people.

It's because we always concentrate on the negative side of things so we tend to pick up on others negative points and not so much the positive.

You got it in one. Us social phobes are a pessimistic bunch of people. We look for negatives in social environments and that carries over to other parts of our thinking.
 

autumn_82

Well-known member
I think negatively of people partly because the people I grew up around were small-minded racist jerks. I've also seen many "friendly" people turn around and become cold when they talk to my mom because she's "different" maybe and they think she's strange. I feel like most people are intolerant and closed minded. I guess I'm a pessimistic person, but in a way I feel it's a more realistic way to be as opposed to thinking everyone who smiles is really friendly.
 

edgarapoo

Member
Infected_Malignity said:
cause people with SA take life too seriously.

I agree with this, and also the jealousy and negative perceptions. It's probably a combination of all of these, and they all feed off of each other.
 

McChubs

New member
I usually don't like people when I view them as a threat. People scare me, and often, instead of letting myself be afraid I turn it into feelings of dislike. It's easier to swallow than fear.
 

zootdroop

Well-known member
ripewithdecay said:
I see most people as being fake, or pretend. Why? Because of the shit world we live in. I mean, should we really be happy?
For some reason it feels like being social phobic and depressed is the way it should be for everyone. So when I see them happy, I'm thinking "What the hell is that idiot so happy about?" I don't know how to exactly explain it.

I feel the same way, what is there to be happy about? Just look at how screwed up everything is. I've never been jealous of people at all for being social and stuff either. What most people see as fun, I see as a big waste of time, worthless crap...I can't explain it either...
 

mesc000

Active member
It's from past experiences when people have treated you differently, or laughed at you that makes you distrust people you meet in the present. It's true for me anyways.

But then I judge people within a few minutes of meeting them to see whether I'd feel comfortable or not with them. However loud or extroverted they are the more the steer clear of them. This is especially true when the person is really good looking, and/or I've developed an attraction to them.

I don't think negatively of everyone all the time, but I don't trust most people either, even if I;ve gotten to know them.
 

autumn_82

Well-known member
mesc000 said:
It's from past experiences when people have treated you differently, or laughed at you that makes you distrust people you meet in the present. It's true for me anyways.

But then I judge people within a few minutes of meeting them to see whether I'd feel comfortable or not with them. However loud or extroverted they are the more the steer clear of them. This is especially true when the person is really good looking, and/or I've developed an attraction to them.

I don't think negatively of everyone all the time, but I don't trust most people either, even if I;ve gotten to know them.

DITTO!
 
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