Why do some people overcome SA while others don't?

Moses199

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I see there are people who had SA for long time and never overcame it, while there are those who have. I know everyone is different in their process so i'm not trying to defame anyone.

Here are the causes that i think pertain to those who haven't overcame it, i would like to know your opinion:

1. Not seeking resources for cure
2. Not experimenting/applying resources correctly
3. Lack of creativity

What other reasons do you think could be responsible?
 
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SCP-087-1

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Persistence. Some people give up or stop caring and accept that they will always be like this. Others keep fighting and over come it
 

Sacrament

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You have to be able to look at your own thoughts/mind from an unbiased perspective, and see them for what they really are. You need to find and create the will to accept the current state of your circumstance and tap into the backbone to put up a fight and be the better you. People are often so overwhelmed that they feel as though they're being crushed by their own thoughts, as if those scary words and images dictate or describe reality. It's hard to find the mental and emotional flexibility to just observe the mind and make peace with yourself, but it's a skill most people can hone on their own (more severe and depressive/OCD/etc cases may need therapy and medication).
 

rockchick46

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You have to be able to look at your own thoughts/mind from an unbiased perspective, and see them for what they really are. You need to find and create the will to accept the current state of your circumstance and tap into the backbone to put up a fight and be the better you. People are often so overwhelmed that they feel as though they're being crushed by their own thoughts, as if those scary words and images dictate or describe reality. It's hard to find the mental and emotional flexibility to just observe the mind and make peace with yourself, but it's a skill most people can hone on their own (more severe and depressive/OCD/etc cases may need therapy and medication).
Your words ring so true, with me Sacrament. I'm having too fight every single day, all day and it is not a easy or fun fight to have at all. Yet it's a fight we all must fight, when you have SA and Depression.

The stronger you fight, the quicker you can win it! You have to just Be Strong, This Will Pass! An you will be a new and better person.

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LKK

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As you say, everyone's journey is different. There's really so many little naunces in the process that it would be impossible to give a full account, but if I were to name one important overall concept that I used, it would be to stop reflecting. That also means no psychologists etc
 

Moses199

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Also, another factor that i believe plays a role is luck. Some people are at the right place and the right time to have a revelation or there's particular technique/method that works for them naturally without them needing to put much work to it. I'm not saying this is the case for everyone though.

I believe another factor is that people try too hard and do alot of work which leads them on quieting. On the Contrary, those who haven't gave up and are still working, arn't stepping back and analyzing what they are doing wrong; they jump from one thing to another.
 

Moses199

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Your words ring so true, with me Sacrament. The stronger you fight, the quicker you can win it! You have to just Be Strong, This Will Pass! An you will be a new and better person.

Yes that's true but sometimes people try to hard and it ends working against them - they put too much too much pressure on the process and won't accept the time of it. It's good to put effort but knowing when your putting too much/or less is a skill in itself. Moderation is key.
 

Moses199

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As you say, everyone's journey is different. There's really so many little naunces in the process that it would be impossible to give a full account, but if I were to name one important overall concept that I used, it would be to stop reflecting. That also means no psychologists etc
By that do you mean stop dwelling on negative past events? If i'm right, then i agree with you.
 

Sacrament

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Healing begins when you make peace with everything that happened up to this point. 'This has been my life until now. Some things I chose to be, think or become, others happened or were done to me. Time to breathe it all out and make each day a new chance to grow.' Remember, 'each day is a new life to the wise man.'
 

TheNomad

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There are too many parameters to say clearly, but probably willpower and grasping views like what Sacrament described would help a lot. Also a close friend whom you can tell your problems helps. For some people finding acceptance in others mean acceptance of own self. Having that friend is harder with SA, of course.
 

Aron

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Your own organs of which you have two (limbs, eyes, etc) are not perfectly identical themselves, why do you think that something as complex as the brain can be identical in different persons?
 

Rumplestiltskin

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Some people's social phobia is rational; other's is not.

In other words, there's no way I can stop thinking the way I do if what I think is real and easily tangible.
 

rockchick46

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Yes that's true but sometimes people try to hard and it ends working against them - they put too much too much pressure on the process and won't accept the time of it. It's good to put effort but knowing when your putting too much/or less is a skill in itself. Moderation is key.
I agree with what you are saying Moses199. As I have started to listen to what my bady is telling me....meaning If I'm going out and i am ok then cool, but if I start getting anxious, about being out...then I go home as soon as possible and lock the door. It is good to have hobbies, that you can go out to do, but having hobbies that you can do at home is just as good.

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DanielLewis

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Those who overcome any great obstacle in life have an unrelenting determination to do whatever it takes to succeed. Most importantly, they believed they would succeed eventually.

Thus, those who overcome SA believe they can overcome it and they stop at nothing to do so.
 

SoScared

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I'm working on trying to be aware of my own thoughts and then proactively letting go of those that are not beneficial.
 

rockchick46

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Yes that's true but sometimes people try to hard and it ends working against them - they put too much too much pressure on the process and won't accept the time of it. It's good to put effort but knowing when your putting too much/or less is a skill in itself. Moderation is key.
I must admit that your words are a great parl of wisdom Moses199.

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DanielLewis

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Yes that's true but sometimes people try to hard and it ends working against them - they put too much too much pressure on the process and won't accept the time of it. It's good to put effort but knowing when your putting too much/or less is a skill in itself. Moderation is key.

Good advice. This is something I think I need to be careful of because I've gone overdrive lately with the process of overcoming SA. I've joined a few college clubs that I'm attending each week - filmmakers club, a writing club, and a video gamers club. I've started the comfortzonecrusher program and already laid down in public in random places a couple times at college. I even challenged myself to lay down in the spot where the most students would be passing by. Also, I'm saying hi and smiling at random people I pass by. I'm like on a mission here and I'm trying to overcome SA as fast as possible but, you're right, I need to just be patient. Everything I'm doing isn't bad. It's going to help, but I find myself being too impatient sometimes with my progress. It feels, honestly, like I haven't made any progress. I mean, I feel myself becoming slightly more courageous to not care what people think. But, socially, I am still struggling to talk more and be more enthusiastic. Anyway, I'm going to have to let go of even coming to this website because, as I said in another thread, I think it's damaging to my progress. If I constantly visit this website I'm constantly telling myself I have social anxiety. I'm constantly associating myself with it and, on the subconscious level, who knows what damage that might do and how much deeper it may ingrain the belief that I have SA. I know I have a problem I'm dealing with called SA, but I think it's best for me to tackle it away from this site now. I don't think there's a benefit anymore to this since I already have a plan set in place so I don't need to keep reminding myself about 'my' SA by coming here.

Best of luck to you all in your journey to overcome SA. Believe in yourself, don't give up ever, be patient, and make progress every day.
 
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