Originally Posted by Jack-B
I like you already i think your cool!
I will realate a story from a works party i was at on Friday night:
I got to the party and noticed that people were drunk, i was stone cold sober but vowed to enjoy my self to the max.
I got chatting to this guy i didnt know and i was focused on what he was saying and became really interested. He seemed to be enjoying this but when i offered up things about me and what i liked etc he got lost, he seemed bored and uniterested. We get this feeling from our side because we are attached to the good opinion of others. We want others to like us because it seems to make us feel happy. Happiness comes from our side so we dont need for others to like us but we will still desire for them to like us anyway.
Many people dont listen properly because they too are also anxious and feel awkward and when its not talking about them they feel out of control because they feel pressure to respond. umm viscious is the mind of anxiety. Stops us from discriminating things properly, focuses our energy on doubts and self concern so we lose all perspective. This is why many people drink, duthc courage dissapears the mind of anxiety removing doubts if only temporarily.
The way to beat this is to dis believe that anyone dislikes you or finds you uninteresting. Everyone has a story to tell and if you give others genuine 100 per cent theres no valid reason why they should dislike you, if they do then you should feel compassion for them because in that case they are even more lost than most.
hey jack-B, I liked your story, thanks for writing it.
I'm always thinking people don't like me. if they don't approach me, or don't talk to me, I conclude that they don't like me and then I conclude they're ****s. I'm always trying to read 'signs' from other people, the way they react to me, the faces they make, their body language, etc.... and I interpret these 'signs' and most of the time I conclude that they don't like me and don't find me interesting. its the same when I call someone or email, if they don't reply then I think they're ****s and that they don't like me and are playing games with me and using me. I always do this. crazy hugh?? I don't trust people at all, I'm always thinking they want to hurt me. :evil: