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Old 01-23-2012  
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Default Why dont people like to admit that they are wrong

No one likes to be wrong. I know I dont. Yet.... I find it intriguing that at some point we are all wrong about something at some point in our lives... but find it so hard to admit it when we are.

Why is this so?

I see examples of it all the time, in real life, in the news... even in this forum... People will stubbornly refuse to admit any wrong doing, and in fact actually try to justify their position instead....and if they are pointed out that they are wrong...there is a feeling of lingering resentment.

What is so bad about making mistakes and being wrong?

I remember a friend of mind years ago who was adamant that the Titanic had five funnels instead of four...after years of evidence being presented he would still not admit it, even though he knew he was wrong...its like his ego and his self preservation relied on him not being at fault.

Can you admit when you are wrong? I can... I dont like doing it, but I have done before.... usually to avoid confrontation I back down first....although, if I was a different kind of person I could just as easily push and push.
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No one likes to be wrong. I know I dont. Yet.... I find it intriguing that at some point we are all wrong about something at some point in our lives... but find it so hard to admit it when we are.

Why is this so?

I see examples of it all the time, in real life, in the news... even in this forum... People will stubbornly refuse to admit any wrong doing, and in fact actually try to justify their position instead....and if they are pointed out that they are wrong...there is a feeling of lingering resentment.

What is so bad about making mistakes and being wrong?

I remember a friend of mind years ago who was adamant that the Titanic had five funnels instead of four...after years of evidence being presented he would still not admit it, even though he knew he was wrong...its like his ego and his self preservation relied on him not being at fault.

Can you admit when you are wrong? I can... I dont like doing it, but I have done before.... usually to avoid confrontation I back down first....although, if I was a different kind of person I could just as easily push and push.
I guess it is just human nature

By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.
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I guess it is just human nature
Yeah I know....but there has to be a reason for it...

There is always a reason....
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I guess because, when we admit we're wrong, that "wall of security" comes crashing down around us and we're extremely vulnerable at that point. The other person(s) can do whatever they want to with us after that. They can humiliate, hurt, rub it in, whatever they choose to. It's sort of a self-preservation technique I suppose.

Humanity's great frailty... we prefer past happiness to future uncertainty.

When reaching for the future, we sometimes fall into the past. As we gaze upon events that cannot be changed, our hearts grow bitter with regret.
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In solitude, where we are least alone.
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Everyone has a built in ego that doesn't want to be bruised. If you ask me, that's how we succeed as people because believing in yourself is how you achieve stuff.

As for the people that never admit when they are wrong, they are insecure. There could multiple reasons why they are insecure.
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Can you admit when you are wrong?
Yes, I can, and I have done so before. I have always maintained that there's nothing wrong with being wrong, and it's a sense of humility admitting it. However, I do know a few people who think they're never wrong, even on subjective matters, so I don't know what the deal is there.

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Everyone has a built in ego that doesn't want to be bruised. If you ask me, that's how we succeed as people because believing in yourself is how you achieve stuff.
Yeah, this is quite true.
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It's sort of a self-preservation technique I suppose.
From a scientific point of view I think its this too. I think generally people are pretty vulnerable (although I dont think there are many of us that like to admit that) and being wrong exposes us as weak and open to attack, like you said.

In saying that though, I dont think being wrong is a big deal. I mean we all get things wrong from time to time and I actually have a lot of respect for people who have humility and can admit that they are wrong... its not an easy thing to do. It shows courage and integrity....and that we are all human just trying to do our best to get by.
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Yes, I am wrong all the time. Sometimes my pride won't let me admit. At times I feel so hopeless and not good at anything.

Of course everyone is wrong some of the time. So why should I wallow in it, and let it eat away at my self esteem? Being wrong is part of being human. You've got to forgive yourself, cut yourself some slack. Focus on the times you got it right.

Life breaks us leaving pieces, cracks and scars. Sometimes those pieces, cracks and scars can be put back together in the most beautiful and unexpected of ways.


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I love to admit that I am wrong. Sadly it doesnīt happen often when I realize that I am not right. But when it happens and I can admit I was wrong, it is quite an alleviation. Like - I donīt have to fight anymore because everything is OK.

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If that's hard, then admitting that one is IN the wrong is doubly so...
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